Thread: 365 days w/o Jerking Off: A self control challenge

It seems dirty when you do it for the first time. Probably even for the second time. But if you've got an orgasm once you'll want more

Lol well I am glad I dont know what an orgasm feels like I would hate to be hooked to the masterbation drug. Actually it's impossible for me to get hooked anyway because my asexual brain would not actually enjoy the situation and instead would think "ewwwwwww what the hell are you doing???". It's impossible for me to jerk off because I actually wouldn't feel any good feeling and instead would sit their like an idiot thinking "how the hell is this enjoyable"

It still amazes me though how all you people find out about jerking off... I had to be told about it at the age of 15 and trust me... I never wanted to touch a guys hand ever again. Asexuals are the only mature ones out there... We have evolved past the stage of needing that primitive sexual desire met. Oh and woman can't control us... "if you don't do this we won't have sex..." that's what she said "that's fine with me " that's what I said...

Originally Posted by 12padams

Lol well I am glad I dont know what an orgasm feels like I would hate to be hooked to the masterbation drug. Actually it's impossible for me to get hooked anyway because my asexual brain would not actually enjoy the situation and instead would think "ewwwwwww what the hell are you doing???". It's impossible for me to jerk off because I actually wouldn't feel any good feeling and instead would sit their like an idiot thinking "how the hell is this enjoyable"

It still amazes me though how all you people find out about jerking off... I had to be told about it at the age of 15 and trust me... I never wanted to touch a guys hand ever again. Asexuals are the only mature ones out there... We have evolved past the stage of needing that primitive sexual desire met. Oh and woman can control us... "if you don't do this we won't have sex..." that's what she said "that's fine with me " that's what I said...

Either we figure it out by intuition, or we hear from friends or something. If you don't want to do it, then I won't bother trying to convince you, it'll probably be pointless
There is one thing I'd like to add. Doing it is not the same as being addicted. Though a lot of people are addicted, there are also a lot of people who aren't, but they just like to do it ( luckily, I'm one of them). Women can't just control that type of people either. And I would really love it if you wouldn't claim that asexuals are the only mature ones out there. The fact that most people are immature has something to do with the fact that they are stupid (people on DV tend to have a much higher intellect, lucky us).
I'm sure you didn't mean to be offensive, but saying that asexuals are the only mature people out there implies calling us al immature.

P.S.: fun fact, I used to refer to myself as asexual as well, but I no longer do that, because I stopped bothering with the 'I can do without, and I'll prove it'. I figured that if everyone loved it so much, it was most likely a good feeling, so I might as well try it. Broke through the barrier of finding it dirty, and it turned out to be enjoyable. But I never really got addicted (that's why I'm having it easy with the challenge) and I'm still MUCH more mature than everyone around me (not referring to anyone on DV, I'm talking about real life now).

Originally Posted by 12padams

Lol well I am glad I dont know what an orgasm feels like

You sad sad soul

teehee

It was easier when I didn't set a goal, I guess the word "NOT" is making one think of doing otherwise.

I'm sure you didn't mean to be offensive, but saying that asexuals are the only mature people out there implies calling us al immature.

Ah don't worry about that it was just a little fun to say at that moment.

I used to refer to myself as asexual as well, but I no longer do that, because I stopped bothering with the 'I can do without, and I'll prove it'.

You must understand that there is a difference between asexual and chosing not to have sex to prove you can live without it. Asexuals have no sex drive... Nothing "turns us on". Masterbation is impossible for us because it requires the association or though of something at turns that particular person on. For example, some people use porn as a trigger and others just imagine that their sexual organ is some place else rather than their hands.

I don't not do it because I want to prove I can live without it... I don't do it because I actually have no sexual attraction or fetishes to anyone/anything. Another thing you must grasp is that I don't actually know what it feels like to be turned on. I have seen guys my age looking at girls they think are "hot" but I don't know what sexy/hot is. All girls are exactly the same to me however some have better personalities than others. You must understand that as an asexual I don't know what sexual attraction feels like as it is completely absent from my "feeling databank" which renders masturbation and sex completely impossible.

Anyway I don't wanna become the main focus of this thread or lead it off topic so if you have any questions about asexuality just google Aven forums and you will be able to get your question answered within minutes.

Originally Posted by 12padams

Ah don't worry about that it was just a little fun to say at that moment.



You must understand that there is a difference between asexual and chosing not to have sex to prove you can live without it. Asexuals have no sex drive... Nothing "turns us on". Masterbation is impossible for us because it requires the association or though of something at turns that particular person on. For example, some people use porn as a trigger and others just imagine that their sexual organ is some place else rather than their hands.

I don't not do it because I want to prove I can live without it... I don't do it because I actually have no sexual attraction or fetishes to anyone/anything. Another thing you must grasp is that I don't actually know what it feels like to be turned on. I have seen guys my age looking at girls they think are "hot" but I don't know what sexy/hot is. All girls are exactly the same to me however some have better personalities than others. You must understand that as an asexual I don't know what sexual attraction feels like as it is completely absent from my "feeling databank" which renders masturbation and sex completely impossible.

Anyway I don't wanna become the main focus of this thread or lead it off topic so if you have any questions about asexuality just google Aven forums and you will be able to get your question answered within minutes.

I think I'm getting it now, thx for explaining. It sounds like the sexual part of your brain isn't turned on for whatever reason. But I suppose that it is no problem if you have a great life without it, you can't miss something you don't know.

Oh, and one more thing. After reading through my comment again it sounded a bit hostile. It could just be me, but if it came across that way, I apologize. I didn't mean to be offensive in any manner.

Originally Posted by Carrot

It was easier when I didn't set a goal, I guess the word "NOT" is making one think of doing otherwise.

'I will refrain from doing so until...' doesn't have the word 'not' in it, so that might be useful

Originally Posted by Spyguy

'I will refrain from doing so until...' doesn't have the word 'not' in it, so that might be useful

My goal is till 8th April. Bleh. This month has 31 days.

Originally Posted by Carrot

My goal is till 8th April. Bleh. This month has 31 days.

xD Yeah, but refraining for 30 days or for 31 days doesn't make that much of a difference. If it does to you, you should've joined this in February

By the way, I'm noticing that I'm starting to get pimples (I usually don't have any, I am so proud of my pimpleless handsome face D: ). It could be because of the increase of testosterone. I don't want to scare anyone off ofcourse, but if it keeps getting worse I might have no other option than to stop the challenge. But for now, I'm still in, and succesfully

Originally Posted by Spyguy

xD Yeah, but refraining for 30 days or for 31 days doesn't make that much of a difference. If it does to you, you should've joined this in February

By the way, I'm noticing that I'm starting to get pimples (I usually don't have any, I am so proud of my pimpleless handsome face D: ). It could be because of the increase of testosterone. I don't want to scare anyone off ofcourse, but if it keeps getting worse I might have no other option than to stop the challenge. But for now, I'm still in, and succesfully

Don't use that as a reason to stop yourself from the challenge. Some cream could be applied on perhaps? Or it could be the weather, etc.

Originally Posted by Carrot

Don't use that as a reason to stop yourself from the challenge. Some cream could be applied on perhaps? Or it could be the weather, etc.

Yeah, I'm already using some stuff against it. Then again, I'm going to watch it and continue the challenge for the time being, because there has been a quick rise in temperature around here lately, which can also be a cause.

This marks the end of day 11.

End of day 12.

Nobody is posting in here?

Nope, it has kind of died. 20th consecutive day of succes here
I kind of miss the folks trying to make the people in the challenge fail. That made for so much fun xD Read the first pages of this thread to see what I mean

Yah I know, I was there.

Day 1

Originally Posted by Wayfaerer

Day 1

Good luck! How long do you intend to keep going?

Originally Posted by Carrot

Haha! I shall try but I wouldn't try too hard to force. That thought was purely random. I'm not sure about regular women. Most of my female friends don't do it.

I'm on day 11 now. What about those who are in this???

Day 50 here. Not absolutely sure about how long I will abstain, but I'm not planning on quitting anytime soon. In fact, I think I'm going to abstain until I get a girlfriend. Regardless of anything that may happen, I'll never go back to porn.

Originally Posted by Spyguy

xD Yeah, but refraining for 30 days or for 31 days doesn't make that much of a difference. If it does to you, you should've joined this in February

By the way, I'm noticing that I'm starting to get pimples (I usually don't have any, I am so proud of my pimpleless handsome face D: ). It could be because of the increase of testosterone. I don't want to scare anyone off ofcourse, but if it keeps getting worse I might have no other option than to stop the challenge. But for now, I'm still in, and succesfully

I don't have a lot of pimples, but I'd say they decreased in numbers rather than increased after a couple of weeks of this challenge. It may also be related to the fact that my diet is somewhat healthier now - I try to consume about as little sugar as possible, and I hardly ever eat junk food.

Originally Posted by Spyguy

Good luck! How long do you intend to keep going?

Forever. I'm making it good with Jesus.

Originally Posted by RemoteVicinity

I don't have a lot of pimples, but I'd say they decreased in numbers rather than increased after a couple of weeks of this challenge. It may also be related to the fact that my diet is somewhat healthier now - I try to consume about as little sugar as possible, and I hardly ever eat junk food.

Ok. Then I'll just hope they dissapear again soon xD I'm not noticing a lot of side-effects from refraining so far. How long did it take you to get those effects?

Originally Posted by Wayfaerer

Forever. I'm making it good with Jesus.

Abstaining forever... good luck man. Respect O.O

Originally Posted by Spyguy

Abstaining forever... good luck man. Respect O.O

Eh, It's really not that hard when you understand the power of Jesus having your back.

Originally Posted by Spyguy

Ok. Then I'll just hope they dissapear again soon xD I'm not noticing a lot of side-effects from refraining so far. How long did it take you to get those effects?

Are you talking about the flatline? I think it started when I got sick at day 33. However, I guess it's normal not to be horny whilst throwing up anyway, so it might as well have started about a week after, when I was healthy again. I'm not quite sure if I'm still in a flatline period, but atm I don't feel any desire to masturbate, I think less about sex during the day than usual, and my morning woods aren't particularly strong. So that's why I think I might still be in it. I remember having ridiculously strong erections around days 23-28 or something, and nowadays they're far from that.