I gotta stop making excuses! I am a man g********! |
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Yeah, my friend is cool with ladies and not shy at all. It's just me though. I'm not shy around women (women I know), but if I had to just walk up to a random chick, I always think of what she might think of me. |
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I gotta stop making excuses! I am a man g********! |
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"La bellezza del paessa di Galilei!"
Thanks. |
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Last edited by Oneironaut Zero; 03-13-2009 at 04:21 AM.
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Yeah i dont really know too much about her. I think she might play soccer but i dont really know. She has a brother thats in her same grade but i dont know him either. Maybe i can think of something. Does anyone have any sort of quasi-generic topics that i can use that will make her interested, but wont make it akward/boring? |
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"La bellezza del paessa di Galilei!"
By being comfortable yourself. If you are completely comfortable, and it shows in how you act and what you say, she will inevitably become comfortable herself. |
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You could think of it as a game so you aren't as nervous.. It kind of is as you want to win by having her go out with you. |
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My favorite dead-cold pickup line is to just be honest and say, "I really like your style," then talk about whatever it is you wanted to talk about. I think it sums it up in the most honest way. Sometimes you see people, and you really just like the way they carry themselves, the way they look, the way they smile with their friends, their overall "Style". It lets them know you've seen them around, but not in a pervey-stalker way. |
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I will take all of your advisements into consideration. |
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"La bellezza del paessa di Galilei!"
Do the pencil first then wait a week. |
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Onei's advice is the best. |
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You do this every fucking time.
No sweat.
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not saying that this isn't good advice or anything, but something about these posts seems a bit shallow... just the fact that you're basically telling him to use other girls that are less attractive as practice. |
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Last edited by lagunagirl; 03-16-2009 at 04:49 AM.
I don't think it's shallow. I think it's realistic. Do you deny that there is a lot more anxiety felt when you're talking to someone that you find really attractive, and someone that you don't? That, in itself, could be interpreted as shallow. |
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Last edited by Oneironaut Zero; 03-16-2009 at 06:16 AM.
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^^ Well she's a freshman so it might be easier than i thought... |
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I was just saying that it can be really easy to mess it up and make saying something nice like "I think you're attractive" seem like something a player would say. It depends on how you say it, but a lot of guys either end up sounding like a player or really nervous. You have to be able to find a good middle ground so you can seem confident but not cocky. |
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I didn't say anything about all girls. I didn't even say "most." I said "too many," and it's true. There is a culture of girls out there (mostly the fake, big-city type) that think exactly as I've accused them of, and act accordingly. And we're not talking a small patch of girls here and there. It's something well-rooted in popular culture. Just as there are players out there who think they can get any girl they want, there are these vain, high-maintenance, superficial girls who think guys are supposed to fawn all over them because they are self-proclaimed "hotties." I'd be so bold as to say that there are many girls on this very forum who would agree with me on that. |
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Last edited by Oneironaut Zero; 03-16-2009 at 11:36 PM.
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Yeah sure there are some girls out there like that, but this is high school we're talking about. If a girl is like that you'd probably be able to tell that's how she thinks just by the way she presents herself in general. And if that's not how she is then a conversation alone isn't going to make her think that all the guy wants out of it is sex. At least that's how it is at my HS. |
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Last edited by lagunagirl; 03-17-2009 at 01:48 AM.
Here's a damn good technique that has always worked for me, and doesn't require balls of steel. |
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Last edited by CRAZY BONE; 03-17-2009 at 02:54 AM.
I agree with O again about plenty of girls being full of themselves, and that talking to other women for "practice" is not anywhere near shallow. |
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I never said there was anything wrong with becoming more social and talking to people no matter how attracted to them you are or not. I just meant it seemed kind of shallow to blatantly go out looking for people that seem "easy" with the sole purpose in mind of practicing your flirting techniques. Especially if it's going to lead the girl on in any way. When looking for social interaction it should be because you actually care about the person at least somewhat, not cause you need a "practice dummy" |
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Last edited by lagunagirl; 03-17-2009 at 11:30 PM.
Ah, but see, you misunderstand my initial point. There is a difference between "flirtatious banter" and "leading someone on." There is a whole world of innuendo that can be thrown back and forth without actually putting out the idea that you are truthfully interested in developing some sort of relationship with someone. In fact, it's pretty normal, and it goes on all the time. That is the kind of banter that I'm talking about; playful jokes that are meant for giggles and light-hearted socializing. I'm not talking about "putting moves" on someone, and making them think you really like them and might want to start some sort of intimate encounter. Just random little come-ons and witty one-liners that are all in good fun, no matter who you're talking to. |
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Last edited by Oneironaut Zero; 03-17-2009 at 11:47 PM.
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Seriously bud, just go talk to her. Its really as simple (if a little hard) as that, girls at your age really respect a guy who can do that. |
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