Thread: Does Kissing another guy in a LD make u gay? or sord of gay?? help..

You're only gay if you feel gay. I've kissed girls in dreams before (and in real life but uhh let's not get in to that) and haven't given it a second thought.

Being gay is not what you do, being gay is how you feel. I myself remember liking boys more than girls back when I was seven. I knew I liked boys, but only later did I find it suspiscious that other boys weren't like me.

If you think you'd give a boy some attention, then there's still no need to panic. You just like boys, that's all. It doesn't mean you'll become a crossdresser who will talk like a duck.

You might also be bisexual, if you like boys and girls at the same time. Or, you could be completely straight: our subconscious plays tricks on us when we're dreaming. Dreams can portray literaly anything. I've had many dreams of me kissing people I completely hate, and it only meant that I wanted to become friends with them.

Anyway, if you want someone to talk privately, go ahead and PM me. I'm all ears (or eyes ^^)

I remember years and years ago I kissed a guy in a dream, it wasn't lucid though. But i'm definitely not gay, and I was a bit weirded at the time, but then I was like "Well it was just a dream, it doesn't really mean anything". So don't let it bother you, it doesn't mean you're gay.

Edit: And like Kromoh says, it'd be more about how you feel than what you do.

You may think you were lucid, but you werent fully, you still have a dream logic, most of the time.. I was lucid once, and talking to some DC's, thinking - this guys are lucid, too and even we were trying to take control of ours lucid telekynisis powers together, or at least practise them... And this other time - I fucked a dog or something like that .. I wouldnt think about this in real life, but.. Probably not the coolest thing for a lucid, right?

I remember back in my highschool psychology class that my teacher said when you dream about something sexual with a member of the same sex, it usually means you admire that person/they are a role model.

Originally Posted by TempleGuard

And this other time - I fucked a dog or something like that .. I wouldnt think about this in real life, but.. Probably not the coolest thing for a lucid, right?

Oh.... o.... Oh dear god....
haha luckily it was a dream hey!


Seriously blade it may not mean anything. If you don't like guys, you don't like guys. There isn't gonna be some deep seeded lust to have gay sex.
It was a dream and the guy doesn't know about it AT ALL. So you don't have to feel weird around him. Although I know how it feels. I was just thinking about fucking this girl once in class and then she came over and started talking to me and I went x infinity because for some reason it was like she knew kinda, not really knew but.... I dunno how to explain it. So if it turns out you do like him the first step to finding out is to not feel embarrassed or whatever. But I would advise not to act on anything while in school, I'm assuming you're in school because you said he's in your class. Mainly because people are afraid to be gay or different in general around peers.

Lol, I once had lucid sex with this boy I like, and it felt weird even to look at him from far away xDD I guess it's because you subconsciously still believe it happened for real. But it didn't, did it?

And the gay thing. Hey, I am gay and there are only two people who know it in RL - one of my cousins and a girl I don't even see anymore. Of course, that plus everyone on the Internet

I've kissed girls several times in dreams - usually girls I barely know or don't know at all, like Angelina Jolie. I don't question my sexuality, either. I think it happens to all of us. There are a lot of things that we do in dreams that I don't think we'd even consider acting out in real life.

As weird as it may sound, I actually had a non-lucid dream that I had sex (sort of) with my step-brother. I was completely grossed out when I woke up and remembered it but I have no sexual feelings towards males in waking life and actually strongly dislike physical contact with males unless it's a sport or shaking hands.

If you're gay, you're gay. It's that simple. Think about it this way: if you fly in a dream, does that mean you're a bird?

No one except this board even knows about this dream so I wouldn't let it bother you unless you are in fact attracted to males.

I had lesbian sex in a dream once. I think it was because I was curious as to what its like. I am straight IRL though, as I've never been attracted to women. I think you're ok unless you actually feel something for men.

A few weeks back I dreamt I was planning on having a 4sum with, among other people, my sister. Thankfully we both decided we couldn't be bothered before it began.. but hey, dreams are dreams and they're a load of nonsense that means nothing!

It could be nothing more than curiosity.

I've had dreams where I had sex with other females, doesn't mean I'm gay. I've had lucid dreams where I was a guy and had sex with another guy. Doesn't mean I'm gay. I've had lucid dreams where I've had sex with clones of myself. What that hell does that mean?? haha. All it came down to in those dreams was me being curious it.

I haven't had sex with an animal in a lucid dream yet though.
Thanks alot for getting that idea stuck in my head temple guard.

Lucid dreaming is all about experimenting with thing that you would never do in real life. I kissed a girl in a ld just to see what it was like. I am married to a man, so kissing a woman is something I would never so in real life. I'm afraid of heights in real life too, but in LDs I know there is nothing to fear and nothing bad can happen, so I can fly and go as high as possible.

Originally Posted by goldentheponygirl

I'm afraid of heights in real life too, but in LDs I know there is nothing to fear and nothing bad can happen, so I can fly and go as high as possible.

You should really learn how to apply that to your real life. Sure, if you jump off a building nothing bad will happen as long as you're dreaming, but hey, doesn't mean you'll jump off a building in waking life.

I think you're ALL gay!!

Heh.. only kidding..

Nothing can make you gay, you're either born gay or your not despite with the RPN says. Kissing another guy doesn't make you gay, enjoying it sexually does.

Originally Posted by Anonimus

Think about it this way: if you fly in a dream, does that mean you're a bird?

Totally valid comparison!

ninja, I'm afraid to say I disagree with you

Homosexuality is a sexual orientation, which means society and family inflict that on you. Of course, I doubt it can be change after you turn 10 or around that.

Originally Posted by Kromoh

Lol, I once had lucid sex with this boy I like, and it felt weird even to look at him from far away xDD I guess it's because you subconsciously still believe it happened for real. But it didn't, did it?

And the gay thing. Hey, I am gay and there are only two people who know it in RL - one of my cousins and a girl I don't even see anymore. Of course, that plus everyone on the Internet

Kromohs gay?

Originally Posted by Kromoh

ninja, I'm afraid to say I disagree with you

Homosexuality is a sexual orientation, which means society and family inflict that on you. Of course, I doubt it can be change after you turn 10 or around that.

A neurologist studied the brains of dead gay men and found an abnormally abundant amount of....er something can't recall the word at the moment, it was the connective tissue that allows quick relays.

So basically what i'm saying is I agree with you. As the brain developes (which btw it does develope LOTS of things AFTER your born.) and etc. It is simply the way your brain is made. Some people may very well be "born gay" though. When inside of the womb if you are exposed to too much testosterone as a female, or to much too much estrogen if you are male it "may" the way you develope.

Some people may be born gay, but many become gay as the brain forms when you are young.

Sexuality (as is understood at the moment) is basically like a language...when your young your wernicker and brocha (language developement and understanding developement may have mispelled I gathered this from passing information) language sections are still forming, therefor picking up languages is easier. It may be that sexuality is in the same way as language...something that "can" be altered, but only with a large amount of effort.

I might try to go as far enough to say that you could become gay or straight if you so desired strong enough. If possible, it would be automatic...it would take years and years of HARD work, just like learning languages is hard work.

yeah

boys > wolves > apes



Dude, how did you not figure it out, it's like written on my forehead duh ^^

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Dude, I can speak three languages, but I'm still gay. I don't think one is able to change his sexuality, not after puberty.

I tend to believe homosexuality is like something you "learn". You cannot "unlearn" something, so it's basically about it.

And, just like you said, some people may actually be born gay. Studies show that identical twins have a 40% chance of being both gay, and like 10% chance of only one being gay. Also, the more brothers/sisters a person has when born, the higher the chances of he/she being gay.

Originally Posted by Kromoh

yeah

boys > wolves > apes



Dude, how did you not figure it out, it's like written on my forehead duh ^^

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lol

I guess I'm just slow at these things... <_<

Originally Posted by CrimsonWolf

I remember years and years ago I kissed a guy in a dream, it wasn't lucid though. But i'm definitely not gay, and I was a bit weirded at the time, but then I was like "Well it was just a dream, it doesn't really mean anything". So don't let it bother you, it doesn't mean you're gay.

Edit: And like Kromoh says, it'd be more about how you feel than what you do.

yeah i wont let that stupid dream bother me but i will stay away from him. The funny thing is that i had never even notice him before but i guess my subconsiouce did lol!!!

i would have to say that you are definitely a little bi-curious. the kiss was premeditated and you even buttered him up with some conversation first.