It would be nice if other members could chip in who have had SP, as I've never had a single SP experience that I can recall, but I've had fever "dream" experiences, which are just... weird. And if it weren't for the fact that a fever is not something you'd willingly want upon yourself, I wouldn't mind having that weird experience more often. In any case, I think with this type of experience you can learn to deal with the weirdness in a relaxed way as long as you are willing to accept it. To me, it sounds like you are open to this, so I honestly can't see what you'd have to fear from finding yourself experiencing SP or something else that has weirdness like it.
This is all just my opinion, of course.
And as well, you may find that if you're focusing solely on this fear and don't let go of it, you might not find enjoyment in the rest of what you're trying to do. Fear is irrational of course, so letting go of it can come with some difficulty if you're not feeling particularly confident in yourself, which can just lead to a cycle of panicky obsession, as you describe yourself, you fear the fear. The best way I know to overcome fears, really, is with being confident (but not overly so) and taking them on bit by bit, so you can gradually get used to them.
I have some recent experience of learning to deal with some of my own long-standing fears and phobias and it's not really something easy to put into words for someone else, a bit like the experience of LDing in itself. I'm trying to think of an appropriate analogy here... It's a bit like you are learning to do something new that you REALLY need to know for, say your next job or project. It can be stressful and make you feel like you can't handle it at all, but usually this comes from feeling overwhelmed with too much at once. Being afraid of something is not so different and the thoughts about the fear itself are a part of what might cause that feeling of being overwhelmed. Another element to dealing with fear is control, maybe obviously, maybe not. This is where confidence comes in because in many situations of fear we probably feel out of control because we can exaggerate the threat. In a sense, you can feel control when in a state of something like SP by simply acknowledging that it can't harm you directly or that it can't cause lasting damage of any kind, especially because it's a natural body function.
If you've ever been in enough pain to wish that it would just kill you, you know that it really just can't do that, because the primary purpose of pretty much every function of our body is geared towards existing and surviving.
Personally I'd be excited to see/hear demons, but that's probably just me. What might be useful to remember is that anything your mind produces is just... You, on some level. Even if it's something really unpleasant to deal with consciously, there will likely be a reason it's appearing, even if it's just a symbolic and abstract reason, and you can always try to analyse why that is. Doing that in the moment can place you outside of your own panic and allow you to adjust your perspective and also let you feel some emotional control. Rejecting that an imagined image is part of you in some sense will possibly only work the same way as obsessing about a fear, reinforcing any negative feelings in a cycle.
Finally, I'll just say that I personally believe expectation is a double-edged blade. Generally, yes, expectation can make things happen but from my experience, conscious expectation does not always produce direct effects on what happens for me in dreams. There are elements of expectation that are under the threshold of consciousness, as far as I can observe. Sometimes my conscious expectations, even about fear, might not materialise, but I guess like so much, this probably varies from person to person.
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