Thread: Need help with stabilizing

Everytime we try to form a new habit or behaviour we'll become completely overwhelmed by it.

For example right now I am forming a habit of just walking around my town talking to one stranger a day (usually girls that I want to date) and the first day I was SUPER excited, until I realized how freaking scary it was. Then over a few days I got used to it, the brain adapts really quick! Then I finally got the courage to run up to a girl, and holy shit I was excited but also freaked out because I had no idea what to do, the experience ended very quickly because of over-excitement and me freezing at the same time, not able to act calmly.

Lucid dreams are the same way, we use the same brain for everything, so we go through the SAME process.

The problem with our society today is that we live in a world that is PROMOTING UNCONSCIOUSNESS, technology thinks for us, we rarely focus on just ONE thing. Our brains become overstimulated by social media, notifications on the phone, unhealthy food, TV, alcohol, porn. And what happens is that our brain becomes flooded with dopamine because we are constantly exposed to supernormal stimulus, in order to protect itself the brain then inhibits the RECEPTORS that are responsible for recieving motivation chemicals such as DOPAMINE, and even the substances that probably in large part affects our dreaming quaility, like acetylcholine. I am not 100% sure about the exact details, but just know that our experience become less vivid both during the day AND night when we are overstimulated. Why is our society geared towards this madness? Because it creates social order and comfortzones but at the same time lowers the natural self-esteem (as a child) of the people and we become the perfect consumer! It drives our economy!

Here I am when I am overstimulated: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RLSaxCbaHqE
And here I am when I am less overstimulated: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hx1eaBgKhrs

And now when I basically can find happiness simply by staring into a white wall and feel energized, barely need sleep and I don't dwell or overthink things, instead I just do it, I got this experience: Intuitive Sexual Awareness - Dream Journals - Lucid Dreaming - Dream Views

So as complicated as everything above might have sounded, the solution for lucid dream inductions and stabilization in general is very simple:

Learn to focus and practice focus. You attract what you are, not what you want. Simply breathe and be in the moment.

Meditation is a great way to practice this.

If we are habitually unfocused during the day, it's going to be very difficult to be focused and maintain focus when we are in a dream during the night. Seriously. If you can't even sit on a chair for a few minutes without going crazy, how are you supposed to handle a direct experience of that same crazy mind? This is what I asked myself the first time I tried meditation. I couldn't even sit with my thoughts for just a minute. Now I do one hour a night. And when first hearing this it sounds like something very hard, but the truth is that, no it's not hard to sit and enjoy the moment. What's more difficult is to try to cope and live in a mental prison of overwhelming thoughts and emotions, that's hard...

I'll end this with a quote from Aristoteles: "We are what we repeatedly do, excellence therefore, is not an act, but a habit."

Peace!