Thread: Falling in love in dreams

For the past 5 years I have been dreaming about a ex love. There are recurring themes in the dreams. There is always love of course. They all feel real. With each dream they feel more and more real. I have yet to figure out why I keep dreaming about him. I've broken down the dreams. Discussed it with friends and family to get others ideas. But the dreams still come.The last dream stayed with me for most of the day. Some of the dreams are lucid, others are not. I am so happy in these dreams. I wake up most of the time feeling confused and a bit lost. I'm also disappointed because of the love, and the connection is so real. Regardless of all that I think that dreaming of love is amazing!!! I hope one day that I will have that "aha" moment to figure out what the dreams mean...lol...

Not so much falling in love but sometimes when I feel particularly lonely I have a dream where I meet someone, I feel better in the morning, feels like my brain is trying to cheer me up.

I have not experienced falling in love in my dreams, i'd rather fall in love in real life

A frequent happening for me.

Been there done that.

First time I felt in love with some random guy in a dream, I don't think he is even a real person. It was nice, but those feelings didn't last long (only one dream). But now I have this other thing...my lucid dreams are chance to be together with man, with who I couldn't be together in real life. Some people would call this depressive, but it is wonderful to just explore the dream with him, talk to him about everything and of course, having sex even if I have someone else in reality.

Originally Posted by Everlong

Based on my experiences, there are two possible scenarios of falling in love in dreams. The first experience of mine was when I had a dream about a girl I'd never met before. Even though she wasn't even real, it sure seemed like it, she loved me for who I was, yet it was too good to be true, and I woke up. I never had the same dream again. These kind of dreams can really make you want to go back to that dream again. It is best to just live with it, you eventually get over it. Otherwise, you'll never move on.

The second scenario is where you fall in love with a girl in a dream, but they actually exist. Normally, after having these dreams, I'm happy for the rest of the morning. I'm guessing that falling in love in a dream, is actually better in many ways than falling in love in real life.

The first one is basically the ones I have but about men like its not a real person and I thought it was just me

Originally Posted by Mellanhavande

Been there done that.

First time I felt in love with some random guy in a dream, I don't think he is even a real person. It was nice, but those feelings didn't last long (only one dream). But now I have this other thing...my lucid dreams are chance to be together with man, with who I couldn't be together in real life. Some people would call this depressive, but it is wonderful to just explore the dream with him, talk to him about everything and of course, having sex even if I have someone else in reality.

Took the words right out of my mouth

So i had a very weird dream and in it i found this girl. I cant remember her face only that i think she was blonde. Basically in the dream some people went into my house i beat them up. But i also knocked this girl out but then afterwards came out and we both were crying and just held each other(I know its weird). It felt amazing. I woke up so upset craving to see her again.
Is there any way in which i could re enter that dream? Do these dreams often mean anything? I recall the possibllity of knowing her is ther a way to find out if it was a dream character or real life character?And several other questions i have forgotten.

Anon it's a real person. Your soul is subconsciously is guiding you to your soulmate

I genuinely hope so. It felt amazing

Originally Posted by Anon365

I genuinely hope so. It felt amazing

Anon looks like you had the exact same situation as me. Had an amazing dream and then took to the internet for answers ahaah.
In my whole dream the beginning felt like a game. I had to rack up points and then a window opened up and I had the option to select a dream girl. I picked some girl with black hair, she was about 5ft 4, very small and gorgeous. We were in a mall just constantly hugging, kissing, going on adventures, taking on the world.. Some sort of bonnie and clyde relationship and I have had those type of dreams many times over the years. Anyway just like everybody else I woke up miserable because in my dream I have met my complete soulmate and there is no way of getting her back, I have thought about this dream all day and it made me emotional. I have to tell somebody to get it iff my chest, Im going to tell a couple close friends at college tomorrow/this morning, they would probably laugh for a while which would damage my alpha male status, but i am not bothered because its what my heart wants i guess, a relationship which is like what i have in my dreams. Anyway im no way near an experienced dream handler christ i dont even know how to lucid dream, I believe lucid dreaming makes your emotions within a dream less genuine/fake I guess that is my two cents on these kind of dreams

Let me know if you find out a way to see her again

Hi new here great stuff iv read so far! This is my dream last night... I'd gone to America with people I didn't know but felt like they were very close long known friends then I end up at an ice cream van and the girl serving me is in my eyes beautiful and I instantly felt drawn to her so I told her she was the most beautiful person I'd ever seen and her reply was " I don't think so" and laughed, I said no you really are and was there any way of me contacting her later so we could go for a drink and she then agreed :-) iv never seen this girl before but remember her pale blue jumper blue jeans long loosely tied back dark beautiful hair her USA accent that was soft and warming she was just wow and later we were walking through a city hand in hand feeling very close like we connected on a different level I was in love as was she and I felt I'd really found the presence I craved to find and we never kissed or did anything but talk and feel great together,, then I woke up.... Gutted! :-(

I fell in love with a man in my dreams when I was a young teenager. The feeling lasted a couple days. I was walking through a desert and there was a single white building. I walked in and he grabbed me in his arms and kissed me. A few years later I met my husband who looks and feels very similar to my dream man. I also have a close friend who had recurring dreams of his future wife before he met her.
On another note I've had dreams of having babies for years. I'm childless and am planning on staying that way yet in my dreams I feel that true overwhelming love for my baby that mothers always talk about. This feeling also stays with me for days. I'm comforted by the fact that I can die knowing what loving my own child feels like without actually having to have kids of my own.

I woke up in love this morning.

In my dream I seen this pretty woman. I decided to make her my girlfriend, so I went up to her and asked her out. She was willing to be my girlfriend and seemed pleased that I asked her. It didn't take long before we were holding hands and I would put my arm around her. I realized I had fallen in love with her, it was great. She was much shorter than me, only coming up to my shoulder height and me being 6 foot 2 inch tall. Her hair color was a dirty blond, and shoulder length. ...

The place we met was this large house, or probably a mansion. Even though she went into the next room with some of her friends for a bit, she did come back. I was so glad to see her again, and I could tell by her expression that she was pleased to see me too. It is a little hazy of all the dream events that were going on. Not that dream events mattered to me at this point, only she mattered to me now and I didn't want to lose her. When I woke up though I realized my efforts were in vain. I still felt in love with her, and it lingered for days even though I knew she was only a dream character. I also felt the heartache of losing her at the same time as still being in love with her.

Even though I had this dream awhile back, I still remember how I felt for her.

Every night your conscious mind shuts down and every morning you wake up, ready for a brand new day.

But while the conscious part of your mind shuts down, your brain remains very much active throughout the night. Part of this brain activity generates what can sometimes be extremely vivid and even haunting images during the rapid-eye movement (REM) stage of sleep – what we know as dreams and nightmares.

The average person will spend 19.3 years of their entire life in this trance-like state we know as sleep. But even though we spend nearly 1/3 of our lives sleeping, most of us know surprisingly little about what happens to our brains when we shut off for the night.

Personally, I think it's only a problem if it becomes an obssession that make you begin to ignore everything else. Never experienced such situations, but that's what I believe.

It seems so easy to fall in love in a dream. Happened again for me last night. Girlfriend Dream

Originally Posted by FreshKing

I believe lucid dreaming makes your emotions within a dream less genuine/fake

No way! Because you have a mix of your subconscious and conscious minds making you fully aware on a level that is greater than that of even WL and because everything that happens in a dream is "pure" (nothing else matters in that moment), your LD emotions are hyper-real!!!

I have never fallen in love in a lucid dream and I'm glad because I think it would be painful. I did lose someone in a LD that I already loved in WL and it was one of the most tormenting experiences I'd ever had. I was convinced that the dream was a sign that the real person in WL was either dead or dying. I didn't even want to change the dream or wake up because it felt like I couldn't do anything to stop their WL death. I cried so hard in the dream that I woke up with tears streaming down my face!

I have a friend who regularly has dreams (non-lucid, he's not a LDer) about a particular girl. In his dreams they are madly in love and have the perfect relationship. He is convinced she is a real person and that they will someday meet each other and get married. Idk... it sounds too good to be true. I've heard that happens, but I don't think it's something you should bank on. And in any case, if he wants her he needs to start looking for her. It's too much to ask that she will randomly show up in his life.

Daily in dreams fall in love with different persons.
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I'm no expert, and do not claim to be. My opinion is that you could be experiencing a negative entity or spirit. It could just be your minds natural way of dealing with painful emotions. I have only had the experience one time where I was sleeping with a woman that I slept with in real life while I was asleep. It was spectacular, and too good to be true kinda feeling at the same time. It was the only time I had what you may refer to as a wet dream, and the thing is, I had a normal sex life at the time, and was not going through a drought, or hard times emotionally. But I have had sexual relations with other unknown women in other dreams, but none had the same outcome (no pun intended) as the previously mentioned experience with the woman I knew in real life. But in all seriousness I felt uneasy about it afterwards, and then learned what a supposed succubus was/is, and then I got turned off to the idea of having such dreams. I know some of you will reply and say that a succubus was just something that the church made up to keep people in line, but nonetheless, I would prefer not to have sexual relations with a demon, entity, etc. Even if I am overthinking it, I prefer real women. Now It would be interesting to know if any 2 lovers, partners, etc have had time with each other while both were in a meditated state or lucid dream, and then were able to both remember their experience.

(That's some Hunter S Thompson type stuff)

The reason I feel the way I do is because I had a dream that my female cousin was trying to make a sexual advance towards me. Its kinda funny and very odd at the same time. This dream was about a month ago. I am 32, my cousin is like 27 or so, and though she is attractive, I am not into incest, and she has never acted like that in real life. We don't even live in the same state (several states apart).

I'm not an expert lucid dreamer, but sometimes I get signals that things aren't real, and then I become aware that it is a dream, or at least no that things don't add up.

You see, she lives in a rural area on the south east coast of the United States, and in the dream I was having we were in the major metropolitan city area far from her house, we were in what looked like a nice hotel hi-rise and probably at least 10 floors high. What I like to do when possible in dreams is to pick up phones, try to turn on tv's, use electronics, turn on the a/c, etc. , and these things do not work correctly in dreams as they should in reality. So the weird thing, besides being in a hotel with my cousin who is trying to make sexual advances and seduce me while half dressed , while she was laying in the king size looking hotel bed was that I could see a major highway out the window and there were no cars on the highway except for police cars that were parked sideways across all lanes of both directions of traffic, and on several surrounding streets, but no cars. Weird right? So tv did not work, hotel phone did not work, the a/c did not work when I tried to use it, and the cell phone that I was trying to use to attempt to call her mom or dad (my aunt and uncle on my moms side) did not work, and wasn't even a model of phone that I own. And she kept telling me just relax and enjoy the moment. That is why I believe negative energy, spirits, demons, jinn, entities, etc are possible scenarios that could happened to someone. I kept telling her that she was my cousin and that we were not supposed to be doing this, and she just kept attempting to kiss all over me and damn near rape me. I guess the empty roads with police road blocks everywhere could have been a sign from my spirit helper signalling to me with flashing lights that this was not right and not real. For the record, no I did not try or want to have sexual relations with my cousin. That's just odd to me.

But yea, trying to operate real world technology in a dream is usually a good indicator that something is not right. It took me several dreams in the past to figure this out. I had a dream once that I was in a county jail or something, and had a land line, and 2-3 cell phones and a tv remote with me in the cell. I somehow could not piece it together in the dream that hmmmm, thats a bit off, but I knew it was screwy when I woke up. Ever since then the jail phone dream, I have been able to sometimes trigger myself into a semi-lucid dream by trying to use electronics, and sometimes realize that i'm dreaming. But it is still very difficult for me at times to realize i'm dreaming, even if an elephant with a disney billboard is walking through my room. Ha ha

Anyways, I am just sharing, and no offense to anyone.

I had my first dream where I fell in-love last night. All my family had died and this guy was there for me, the only person I had left, I wasn't lucid, my family isn't dead irl. He made me feel like everything was going to be ok, I've never felt love like that, It was amazing and I will never forget him.

Yup. I agree with the early posters on this thread. It can be very dissapointing to love something that isn't meant to be real.

I just had a dream about Snow from Final Fantasy XIII last day. It was a wet dream. He was so sexy without any shirts(with his bandanna though) and doing sexy stuff to me. What do you expect from the physical characteristic of a fictional character, right?

Then, as I woke up, I felt this uncontrollable feeling of dissapointment. Anyway, looking at a positive side, that's the nature of dream. It's temporary but I can use it to content, to vent myself about something that I can't get it in real life.

This also means I've what it takes to dream about my dream characters and have fun with them while I get the chance to do so. Drinking, eating, making love, cheese making etc with them. That's just fun.

Those who've played FFXIII and have an infatuation toward Snow, don't get jealous ok? Lol. Just kidding.