Its sounds more like expectation to me and inexperience.In my opinion rubbing your hands continuously is not good.Not only would you be fueling the schema that you need to do this to LD,but also waste time doing that instead of doing what you want.DreamViews has a podcast about this stabilization topic,all of it's good stuff if you want to check it out.As for the control aspect of dreaming i'm afraid you might need someone more experienced,as I also have lack of control.I've never even flown,or summoned,or anything like that.But,if your philosophy is that anything's possible,which is mine as well.Then my best guess is that your subconcious doesn't think that.You still have your schemas.Like say if I believe anything is possible in a dream.Then I try to move this 2 ton boulder.I still have doubt about moving the boulder therefore control becomes more difficult.As for if it's normal for DC's to resist?I have no clue everyone's different,for me my DC's are pretty sarcastic,but willing to do alot of things with me.As for what you should do now depends largely on you.For me my goals are to get good at LD'ing then practice skills I can't really practice in real life.Plus a little fun here and there.I don't I'd be helping you if I told you where you should go.You can ensure your future success by staying committed that's for sure.My last tip for control would be patience.You can't become a 100% percent lucid dreamer over night,and I think most people get caught on how to do things,instead of finding what works for them.So I hope you found at least some of this helpful,and I forgot to mention your dream was hilarious!