Thread: Girls & Guys

Originally Posted by makeastar

My boyfriend is 30 years older than I am, and I didn't care. I said, "Fuck you," to everyone who had something against it. You can imagine what people must've said to me (and to him, especially his ex-wife), but I only cared about my parents' approval, and they were cool with it (as cool as they could be in a situation like that). It's been a year and a half, and everything's great so far. I don't care if people look at us as if something's wrong, 'cause nothing is.

And as long as you know that's true, it SHOULDN'T matter. But as we all know, anything too different is "wrong" or needs to be "fixed" and that really stinks. I'm sure you've been through it all already though. :\
Keep up the attitude! I hope one day I can find the same strength to shrug off the judgmental gazes and exist as I truly am.
I wish you two my love and happiness~

I dunno I guess.. it's because "guys" seems like gay if they're not the one who'll be chasing after girls. I mean It's good to have confident guy than weak one.

Originally Posted by Kevs

I dunno I guess.. it's because "guys" seems like gay if they're not the one who'll be chasing after girls. I mean It's good to have confident guy than weak one.

(First off, I don't think there's anything wrong with being gay.)
Secondly, I'm not gay. o_o I'm gender-fluid.
And I'd rather have a confident woman.
I think it's insanely cute when my girlfriend tries to talk with a lower voice.
She has a boyish charm. <3 So...
Not everyone will choose to follow those preset standards and rules- that most people see as the only option.

Hell, even though I feel female sometimes, I'll still be aggressive and be the one to grab her hand and lead her along.
We break all of the rules, and I love it.

would showing people the truth actually help?

Would telling everyone in this thread what is actually happening going to change anything? Every day we are flooded with constant bullshit about what and who we are. Unless you can personally unplug from all that shit, you will never see reality for what it is...

Anybody ever thought guys like being chased?
All these attributes that we assign to gender and sex apply to both parties...You can say the same thing about men and women on most counts. Aside from the fact that we have differing anatomy(mostly), mentally humans are all the same....Dreams are an excellent example of that...

Originally Posted by Chimpertainment

would showing people the truth actually help?

Would telling everyone in this thread what is actually happening going to change anything? Every day we are flooded with constant bullshit about what and who we are. Unless you can personally unplug from all that shit, you will never see reality for what it is...

Anybody ever thought guys like being chased?
All these attributes that we assign to gender and sex apply to both parties...You can say the same thing about men and women on most counts. Aside from the fact that we have differing anatomy(mostly), mentally humans are all the same....Dreams are an excellent example of that...

I wouldn't say that we're exactly the same. More similar than a lot of people think, but not the same. I'd guess that there are some surprisingly mild differences resulting from nature, and most would be due to nurture.

Well, what's interesting and confounding about this problem is that all humans perceive the world with biases based on culture, personality etc; If they're told that a child is a girl, they will make themselves see typically feminine features and behaviors, and the opposite for a boy, even if they're filtering out information that doesn't confirm their perception of what is "normal" and "acceptable". There was a good comic strip about this, I think it was from Cathy. Even scientists can have biases, make biased hypothesis and conduct their experiments in narrow ways that will confirm their bias (especially concerning gender studies), so patriarchal thinking is very deeply ingrained and normalized.

I've had girls straight pick me up. I know some guys don't like a woman putting the moves on them, but i can honestly say I LOVE IT. If only it would happen more often and/or the type of girl picking me up is looking for commitment. "cause most that pick me up are just players.

Did I say that you're a gay? I'm just expressing my opinion 'bout this thread duh'....
And I have respect for gays too... cause I have so many gay friends, Hanging out with them was totally awesome!

..What I mean to what I have post, is "FOR ME" it's much cooler if the guy who makes the first move.

Originally Posted by SzuruDusk

(First off, I don't think there's anything wrong with being gay.)
Secondly, I'm not gay. o_o I'm gender-fluid.
And I'd rather have a confident woman.
I think it's insanely cute when my girlfriend tries to talk with a lower voice.
She has a boyish charm. <3 So...
Not everyone will choose to follow those preset standards and rules- that most people see as the only option.

Hell, even though I feel female sometimes, I'll still be aggressive and be the one to grab her hand and lead her along.
We break all of the rules, and I love it.

Originally Posted by Kevs

Did I say that you're a gay? I'm just expressing my opinion 'bout this thread duh'....
And I have respect for gays too... cause I have so many gay friends, Hanging out with them was totally awesome!

..What I mean to what I have post, is "FOR ME" it's much cooler if the guy who makes the first move.

Sorry Kevs, I just realized how BLEGH I sounded in that post. >~<]
I was just pointing out that it is possible for the roles to switch without having to be gay. Hence me. xD

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Pregnancy is also a huge area of inequality. Women have to return to work too early and many times their partners are not allowed leave to care for a newborn...

Patriarchy is the domination and control of society by males. This is so glaringly obvious in the world, I don't understand how anyone cannot see the reality. Unless you want to deliberately blind yourself, the truth is clear.
Men control our world society and it has been this way for a long time. This permeates every piece of our culture, and our lives.

There are specific psychological reasons for behavior. Analyzing behavior in detail will give you a good idea of how and where influence is coming from. Open your eyes, be smart and learn to be an adult...

I don't really understand dating or relationships in general but I'll have a go at the question. Consider the process of reproduction itself. Countless male sperm cells come together to fuse with the one female egg cell to synthesize the zygote, not the other way around. This very simple fact of biology make females more 'precious' or scarce as far as mating is concerned. Also, by observing people's behaviors in everyday life, it is apparent that men seem much more eager to find a suitable female. This is consistent with our original analysis of the issue. Simply by the way men are 'built', they are able to/ and should be the ones putting in the effort.

Unfortunately this area of discussion isn't in my familiar territory but I thought I ought to add to the ongoing debate. Hope it helps.