has anyone here ever heard of the term Patriarchal? That is the world we live in. Our cultural values are defined by males...and saying it is this way because of biology is nonsense. |
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So, I have to say that I over-reacted in the tone of my posts. It doesnt make for a good representation of my thoughts. Now that we know that lemme say a couple reasonable things... |
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This issue presses on my mind a lot and I do agree. But it's more complicated and I have many thoughts on it, more than I can get around to. |
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Last edited by Dianeva; 10-03-2012 at 10:40 PM.
I'd back you up...but you still never told me what wine you drink. |
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Yes I did, the very same day. Yellowtail red wine usually, not because it's that great but it's good for how cheap it is. And I was heartbroken that you never replied back. |
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I'm pretty sure I was absolutely stone wasted when I wrote that....lets see. 4am post that I don't remember whatsoever. Yup. |
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All I have to say is that I'm glad there's a guy like Chimp who's just as pissed off at all this as I am. It seems like people aren't skeptical enough of what they've been taught is true by society (well this is clearly evident by religion, but I digress). What I really get tired of is everybody just shrugging with complacency and slapping an overly simplistic "evolutionary psychology" label on everything from courting to why women should stay in the kitchen and pump out babies. I'm glad I didn't have to be the first one here to mention anything about culture, instead of just "nature". If it was all nature, we wouldn't need to try so hard to force all boys and girls into a very extreme, black and white and sometimes ridiculously arbitrary (hair length, dress code, makeup, earrings etc) gender binary of "men" and "women". That's patriarchy, not reality. |
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Last edited by DeeryTheDeer; 10-11-2012 at 07:13 AM.
DILDs: A Lot
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I agree it's cultural and not evolutionary per se, but patriarchy? Are you fucking kidding me? Think of all the things you just mentioned. Dress code, hair length, makeup, jewelery. Who's got the leeway in that regard? Women. I'm not saying patriarchy isn't part of society but women can do anything men can do today. And men aren't allowed to do most anything formerly allotted for women. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
I agree that itself isn't patriarchy. I believe the patriarchy part is that men are considered superior in the first place, for whatever reason. Think of the insult in calling someone a 'pussy' and other names that reference females and imply that they are weak-willed. The reason men decline to wear dresses isn't because they aren't allowed to due to sexism against men. It isn't socially acceptable because wearing dresses is considered girly, which is synonymous with weak, stupid, being a bad decision maker, submissiveness and countless other negative things associated with women. So looking at it like this I agree with Deery. |
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I just want to make a few rambling points about the nature/nurture distinction, in particular the notion that patriarchy is the product of culture and not our biology. This is of course a very tricky question to answer (like many other contentious issues in the social sciences, many hypothesis are not testable) and an even more tricky question is that if patriarchy is biologically reinforced does that justify it? The latter is more of a philosophical question than a testable scientific one because science is in the business of explaining "is' " not justifying "oughts". |
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Last edited by stormcrow; 10-13-2012 at 09:09 PM. Reason: Spelling error
I agree with Chimp that not a lot of the evolutionary based arguments are questionable. We can't blame human behavior on instincts that were suitable for tens of thousands of years ago. Look at condoms. They fly in the face in everything evolution drives us to do. They serve only to stop the propagation of our genes yet most people slip one on most of the time. I disagree that society is patriarchal right now though. The power imbalance has been fixed, but the values/culture reminiscent of the male-dominated times still permeates our society. |
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Okay, clearly you are a very bitter, biased guy (no minority for sure) who thinks that I or any woman don't already do those things. Yes, I have paid for food on dates, even FOUGHT to pay on dates sometimes, when the guy admitted he hoped to step in and pay for me next time. 90% of the time I ever attempted dating, I asked the guys out, and once in a while some would ask me out. And yes, I'm single now. Your guilt-placing, misogynistic assumptions run rampant through almost everything you say, expecting me to get intimidated, back down and admit that women should just put up and shut up. And no, I'm not thankful for any "special rights" given to women, as if they're that great or that they somehow make up for general suppression or oppression. I also would like men to not be constricted to idiotic male roles and be able to do whatever they want as well. |
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Last edited by DeeryTheDeer; 10-14-2012 at 01:18 AM.
DILDs: A Lot
You know what......you're absolutely right, and I apologize for the things I said. There was a time when I would bend over backwards for a woman only to get my heart broken, and after so many times I became bitter. That bitterness has clouded my judgement on women for so many years and has turned me into my own worst enemy. You've helped me understand that I need to stop letting the past ruin my future. And I thank you for that. |
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*Mentally marks down Auron as one of the 0.0001% or so of people who are willing to admit when they're wrong.* |
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I used to be bitter. But I just had to learn more about women. They are actually very easy to have sex with once you figure them out. I've also had to learn to let go. Even when everything is perfect and intimate, you still need to let her go. Especially then. That's when it's hardest because you have no reason to let her go. |
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Everything works out in the end, sometimes even badly.
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Last edited by GavinGill; 10-16-2012 at 03:25 AM.
^Seems like the likely reason. And I like that site. Usually some site that's labeled "Understnading Women" I'd expect to be filled with derogatory remarks about how they think strangely and illogically or something, for it to be explaining exactly where their senses of reason fail so that you can try to think like them or something. But it isn't like that and actually explains things and is true it seems for the most part. |
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Last edited by Dianeva; 10-16-2012 at 04:49 AM.
This video is my input on the subject (skip to 2:51 if you don't have the patience to watch majestic mountain lion jumping) |
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Our truest life is when we are in dreams awake
^That was really cute. |
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I was actually the one who spent an entire month giving my current boyfriend little presents (chocolate, mostly) and coming up with ingenious ways to "bump into him" before finally asking him out on a date. Am I an alien? |
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I'd like to note that I am a guy (even though I feel my inner self is SERIOUSLY female, no joke) and my girlfriend (who is more akin to a male) and I had an interesting first few months. She knew I was female inside and would buy me pretty things like bracelets and rings and even got me flowers once. But society was overbearing, and when I was forced to get a job with manual-labor at a steel-manufacturing plant, I shoved my female deep inside my head. I write the notes, and I give the gifts and whatnot now. She isn't sweet anymore to me, like she used to be. |
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