Originally Posted by TimeDragon97
First of all, you're a male. You can't say jack shit on what childbirth is like.
Second, I'd imagine that many women would find it rather disturbing to have an orgasm while giving birth.
Lastly, being kicked in the testes is not proven to be more painful (I doubt kidney stones and headaches have either). For one thing, pain is subjective. Furthermore, childbirth can potentially last for over 24 hours.
Do you understand this? Some women have to endure the stress and pain of pushing a 6-10lb human being out of a coin-sized hole for over 24 hours. And that's to say nothing of twins, triplets, etc.
To set an absolute standard (that leads to a double-standard on your end) that just because he's a male and labeling any of his attempts to give his opinions on it as nonsense because he's not a female is just as narrow-minded as what you presume he's doing. And it's even doubly ironic and bit hypocritical while you try to be the white knight towards empathizing childbirth (pay attention to how your double-standard initiates because of your white-knighting that masks it), and also stating your logic with males can't talk about anything in terms of childbirth, you automatically set yourself up for a major contradiction.
It's one thing to know there are limits and parameters gender (male/female) has in terms of experiencing something like this, but it's another to discredit simple competence for humans to create models of reality to build some empathy or a type of perspective ability. Although the way he presented his post wouldn't cater to the minds of all females AND males, to say a person can't say anything when you've contributed your own opinion makes your post self-stultifying.
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Now, as for OP's intention with the thread to give a message across, just like with any phobia, there are many underlying reasons that stack onto a person channeling more attention towards the irrational fear that comes with childbirth. Especially when the more a person's experiential totality with being around other people (especially childhood) can create and mold predispositions towards having a phobia, such as (but not limited to):
- Especially when younger children will at some point create some scale and contrast themselves to other children on their competency level (i.e. Children going around calling some other kid "retarded" and using the term loosely because of their own naivete)
- The pain that comes with childbirth as a woman actually going through it or a female that hasn't experienced it and is using experiential truths from others who went through it
- How one theorizes and expresses themselves (sexuality, gender, belief systems etc.)
All of these things and much more definitely becomes a challenge because there's a myriad of ways to analyzing and discussing about this particular Phobia, from both realms of Male and Female. It's basic logic to gravitate towards applying this phobia for females, because it's more direct and obviously because they have certain reproductive organs for childbirth, and other reasons I don't really need to state.
However, with phobias, I could see this particular phobia applying towards males as well, since it is an irrational fear, and with any fear, there's anxiety involved. And with how people can easily imagine and try to be empathetic to those who go through childbirth, it's not really something improbable that males would have (in terms of an irrational fear they can visual and imagine). Especially with how certain aspects of society have their own schemata of childbirth and how they sustain ideas that comes with the initial expectation of having healthy and competent children.
China, Italy, India, and all sorts of regions in the world have their own standards that comes with childbirth and just having a child in general. For females, there's more ways for them to channel more attention towards harboring irrational fear with childbirth, but phobias are a type of anxiety in general, and because the person has exponential worrying towards these phobias, it makes their life miserable and makes it harder for them to function in varying ways because the fear built from childhood and the rest of their life stacks on.
For males, they can easily have psychological, biological, and other types of predispositions towards harboring irrational fear of childbirth as well. Especially if they have certain values with wanting to make careful decisions before contributing their "half" of their genes with another female. Especially when they would have to prepare themselves with the responsibilities of raising a child just as a female would. This phobia can be common for both sexes, they just have their own definitions and experiences with it.
Phobias can be more easy to tolerate or even get out of IF a person goes through ways of finding the core of the problem, and not many people will have the willpower or competence to seek help in medical, therapy, and even in a forum thread like this that's a basis for people to give their thoughts out and provide some insight in whatever way they can. The fear that comes with childbirth is practical to have for both male and female, such as:
- Hoping that the child will be able to function correctly based on standards that fits the model of a healthy child
- Being able to raise the child properly and having less liabilities that comes if the child develops a disorder/disease etc. (Anyone would want a healthy child that has little to no ailments, but if the situation arises, it's up to how the person takes action towards this)
- Wanting to have a child that has potential to reproduce and extend familial roots
- And many more reasons
Any human being can have this type of fear, if they have the competencies for being able to have sensory awareness and applying it with the situations that comes before them of course. This phobia doesn't need to be applied linearly just for females, there's just different approaches for both male and female.
Also, anyone can have a certain scale of anxiety towards this, but it's those who have consistent and active exponential worrying to where they can't function decently to have a decent life that fits into the criterion that comes with having a phobia. People can have many phobias, but it gets to the point where having to channel attention towards the worrying where it's just mild anxiety rather than abnormal and exaggerated anxiety.
Originally Posted by Dianeva
Not that it should be thought of in that way anyway. I try to remember that those things are separate. Even the idea of falling in love with someone of the opposite sex can be viewed to be for the purpose of reproduction. And it's true that the feelings of attraction evolved because they led to a higher likelihood to reproduce. But the evolutionary reason and the psychological reason are separate. Love is still love and the good feeling of sex is still what it is. It's not like there needs to be some subconscious 'desire to reproduce' at all.
When trying to define evolutionary reasons (mostly through Darwinian theory application) vs. Psychological reason, each have their own limits before aspects need to be carried on to the other spectrum. Because Darwinian logic goes by natural selection and other evolutionary aspects, when things that are built from the human mind (the presumptions with phobias and anything that involves with human introspection), that's where Darwinian application has its limits, since it's not concerned AS much with societal knowledge or anything that is formulated from gregarious activity to solve problems or explain certain phenomenon derived from that social interaction.
When you go about saying "love is still love," combined with your logic of how there doesn't need to be some subconscious "desire to reproduce," it's just a perfect recipe for a person to stultify themselves. When it comes to having opinions that don't typically require biological predispositions to be a major influential factor towards their reasoning and justification, to presume there can be an actual dichotomy towards "subconscious" desires (or just unconscious for better comprehension) and conscious desires, the logic becomes impractical.
The unconscious (note, I'm using the term for a concept) makes neurological connections and many processes that are done partially on the experiential totality, belief systems, values, knowledge, etc. that a person has, it's an automatic set of processes. When it comes to biological predispositions that comes with reproduction, things like love, empathy, sexuality, etc. are obviously going to intertwine with all other thoughts. There isn't a dichotomy between conscious and unconscious, they are just terms to conceptualize how the mind works in general, and love is clearly subjective, and even just focusing on the pleasure aspect of sex also ties into the totality of biological, psychological, and other types of predispositions within the unconscious mind.
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