Thread: Tell me how to not think deeply about EVERYTHING

since i was yea high to the knee of a grasshopper i've looked past the outside of things and into all the nitty gritty details that have a tendency to drive you insane if you think about them too much...

for instance,

say a girlfriend doesn't text back, i sit there for hours constantly turning over a million possibilities about why she didn't.

is her phone dead?
is she dead?
is she mad?
did she get mad at me and wreck because she was distracted?
is she in trouble?
did she get arrested?
did her grandma die?
is she cheating on me?
did i piss her off?
for hours...

but it's not just with girls, no it's anything.
anything makes that shit happen.
the thought of what a computer is,
is a computer kind of like another world?
different laws govern a computer than the ones that govern the world i deal with.
i think about how small we might be.
cause we don't really know how big shit can get.
we don't know anything and i seem determined to figure it all out by thinking, but many of these problems are trivial because they're so important if that makes sense. there's no point, i will fail trying to figure this shit out, so why think about it?
quantum shit... there is nothing to base anything on.

it just start thinking and then i don't stop until i get too stoned or sometimes i just go to sleep to kill the shit going on in my head. and i dream. damnit.

anyway, how do i make that stop?

i guess i want to be one of the shallow ass holes i've spent my life hating.

sometimes I will remember people I talk to, and I wonder if there dead or not,(in fact at least 1 time everyda)
and then I wonder how thay died.. Its weird.. I wana know to! lol

What's wrong with thinking alot? I think all the time.

Me too. Going into details is kinda fun.

Have you ever tried writing down as you think?

I usually come off as bat-shit insane when I do.

My advice to the OP: Tell yourself to not worry about things beyond you, and realize that to think about all possibilities will make your mind drown in a sea of infinite potentiality, which could be bad for your mental health. Try to say "fuck it" every once in a while.

Originally Posted by lysergic

since i was yea high to the knee of a grasshopper i've looked past the outside of things and into all the nitty gritty details that have a tendency to drive you insane if you think about them too much...

for instance,

say a girlfriend doesn't text back, i sit there for hours constantly turning over a million possibilities about why she didn't.

is her phone dead?
is she dead?
is she mad?
did she get mad at me and wreck because she was distracted?
is she in trouble?
did she get arrested?
did her grandma die?
is she cheating on me?
did i piss her off?
for hours...

but it's not just with girls, no it's anything.
anything makes that shit happen.
the thought of what a computer is,
is a computer kind of like another world?
different laws govern a computer than the ones that govern the world i deal with.
i think about how small we might be.
cause we don't really know how big shit can get.
we don't know anything and i seem determined to figure it all out by thinking, but many of these problems are trivial because they're so important if that makes sense. there's no point, i will fail trying to figure this shit out, so why think about it?
quantum shit... there is nothing to base anything on.

it just start thinking and then i don't stop until i get too stoned or sometimes i just go to sleep to kill the shit going on in my head. and i dream. damnit.

anyway, how do i make that stop?

i guess i want to be one of the shallow ass holes i've spent my life hating.

That is ANXIETY, probably in the form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, which is what analytical people experience when they have anxiety. There is medication for it, but aerobic exercise, meditation, and other natural things (like orgasms) can help a great deal.

Some of what you described is just your analytical nature and is okay. It is only a problem when it comes with anxiety.

Originally Posted by Universal Mind

That is ANXIETY, probably in the form of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, which is what analytical people experience when they have anxiety. There is medication for it, but aerobic exercise, meditation, and other natural things (like orgasms) can help a great deal.

Some of what you described is just your analytical nature and is okay. It is only a problem when it comes with anxiety.

thank you for being helpful.

you're so dead on it's unreal.

I second what Universal Mind said.
I tend to do exactly as you describe. But I also sometimes have extremely morbid/dark thoughts which include me being tortured, raped and killed (well, they tried to kill me but seldom succeeded). They plagued my thoughts since I was a teen and I would spend hours in my imagination thinking of different plots. But the fantasies always made me feel dirty and guilty.
About 8 years ago I finally decided I had had enough. It took a LOT of effort but I finally broke the habit. I told myself: "Shut up brain!" whenever the thoughts would start. I was amazed when I had to catch myself several times a minute! And it took several months to accomplish.
A couple months ago, the thoughts started back up. I entertained them for a day but after that, I put a stop to it. But, like a drug, it's highly addictive and if I give in again, it will probably be harder to stop. And it hit hardest when I was under severe anxiety and depressed.

Perhaps you're like that too. If you're under strain, do you have the problem more?
Try telling your brain to shut up and STOP the thoughts the second they start. It's not easy, by any means, but it can be done.
If you find you're life is being disrupted because of them, though, you may benefit from medication and/or counseling. Regardless, it takes effort, but it makes the fight a little easier (I've been on meds for several years now and it has greatly improved my life).

Much success!!

your name says lysergic. Maybe it's all the LSD?

Originally Posted by ranma187

your name says lysergic. Maybe it's all the LSD?

i've taken lsd once. i considered the experience important enough, to make it a screen name.

Originally Posted by lysergic

is her phone dead?
is she dead?
is she mad?
did she get mad at me and wreck because she was distracted?
is she in trouble?
did she get arrested?
did her grandma die?
is she cheating on me?
did i piss her off?
for hours...

Wasn't really the "deep thinking" I had in mind. Deep Thinking to me would be thinking about what I like and disslike about said girl and not being able to get her out of my head for those reasons...that or fantasizing.

ok, I'm going to put my 2 cents in here. I'm wondering how old the OP is. I have a feeling that it's a normal part of development, not like adolescence, but I think its something that everyone goes through at some point in their lives when they're younger.

I think it has to do with not having anything else going on to be distracted by. Like a full time job. It could also just be stress. Oh, and insecurity.... especially the bit about the girlfriend. If you're in a stable, secure relationship, you're not wondering what your partner is doing, you just know that they love you and it's all good.

It all boils down to perspective.