Thread: Ask me about being Transgender

Originally Posted by Darkmatters

And please ignore the testosterone dripping ape above.

Its kinda hard to when we can see his ignorance from outer space.

There's a very well known and accepted inverse correlation between testosterone, intelligence and the ability to get along with others.

... see what I'm sayin'?

Originally Posted by marwanin

Blah blah prejudice and hatred, et cetera

You have my sympathy.

Originally Posted by Tara

I'm not trans but if a wizard appeared and I had a chance to become 100% totally and completely a man, I'd probably change. I think I'd just enjoy that body more, though I do love my lady body. Even better would be the ability to change 100% between male and female each month.

Anyways! I'm going to donate all of my points to you so you can change your username should you want to, and here's my question: I don't know your current name in real life but are you going to change it to something more feminine? If so, what names have you considered? Name-changing seems like it'd be so much fun. :3

Aww, you're so sweet! Thank you so much. I am going to change my real life name, at least the first two and maybe the last. I've got some ideas, tried a few out. Mia and Mai are both out. Right now I'm going by Nicole, but that may change. It is a lot of fun.

Originally Posted by Darkmatters

Yeah, I was curious about this too. Will it change perhaps to Maria?

And please ignore the testosterone dripping ape above.

Yes, actually.

As for said ape, I'm going to have to deal with these sorts of people no matter what. I actually do pity them; being trapped inside their tiny little world views. No matter how much you argue or fight or call them very mean things, little is more effective at proving them wrong than refusing to stoop to their level.

Yes - I should remember that...

Originally Posted by marwanin

*Rage*

Reading and intelligent discussion shows maturity sir. See below.

Originally Posted by Maria92

Please don't troll. Religious extremists eager to condemn me to hell can piss right the fuck off.

Anyway, love the idea of Mai, I don't know why but that is such an awesome name.

Also keep being awesome! I'm glad you're enjoying being excited about the change.

I just wanted to say thank you, everyone. Marvo, Darkmatters, Oofen, Stormcrow, Tara, and everyone else who has been so kind and understanding. I love you all. :3

idk if this has been asked but will you have to go though the menstrual cycle

Originally Posted by funnky

idk if this has been asked but will you have to go though the menstrual cycle

Partially. I never have to deal with the bleeding, but I'll be on a hormone schedule that mimics that of the menstrual cycle, so I'll still get the mood swings and all the other happy fun. >.<

i like your name change

Have you had a chance to download a copy of the video of my night out? Please let me know so I can remove it and hide the evidence!

Originally Posted by marwanin

you're a little gay

Welcome to Dreamviews!

Originally Posted by Maria92

Aww, you're so sweet! Thank you so much. I am going to change my real life name, at least the first two and maybe the last. I've got some ideas, tried a few out. Mia and Mai are both out. Right now I'm going by Nicole, but that may change. It is a lot of fun.

Good thing you don't need surgery to change your name.

Originally Posted by IAmCoder

Have you had a chance to download a copy of the video of my night out? Please let me know so I can remove it and hide the evidence!

Yus, quite interesting.

What triggered this decision? I'm sure it was on your mind for a while but what was it specifically that made you go "Alright, I'm actually going to do this."

Originally Posted by GavinGill

What triggered this decision? I'm sure it was on your mind for a while but what was it specifically that made you go "Alright, I'm actually going to do this."

Last year, living on my own, I became depressed. Not just sort of sad for a while; actual loss-of-function depression. That set off a cascade of self-evaluation. Eventually, I realized that at home, I could express myself a lot better, but at college, I was horribly lonely and massively uncomfortable in nearly all social interactions. I never had friends in high school, but I didn't need them; I had my family.

Hey Maria, I completely respect you for doing this. I sort of had the feeling we didn't like each other back in the old days with the spam thread. All good?

Originally Posted by Maria92

I'm not going to be into heavy makeup, but I'm already shaving. Arms, legs, face, the recreational funpark, etc. Essentially, Alopecia from the neck down. Makeup will be light after I transition. A little foundation, maybe some light blush and very light mascara (not the stupid-looking raccoon thing). Not a whole lot, and probably not every day. My sister doesn't use much or any and still looks fantastic every day, so I'll shoot for something like that.

*Confession*
Even though I am a guy, I have to admit makeup sounds like a ton of fun. If I was doing this, I would be really into makeup XD.

So will you have transvesticles?

Originally Posted by Mancon

Hey Maria, I completely respect you for doing this. I sort of had the feeling we didn't like each other back in the old days with the spam thread. All good?


*Confession*
Even though I am a guy, I have to admit makeup sounds like a ton of fun. If I was doing this, I would be really into makeup XD.

Yeah, we're cool.

Originally Posted by ooflendoodle

So will you have transvesticles?

lol for about a year, yeah. There enters the brave new world of tucking.

Have you had a chance yet to read any of Siddhārtha Gautama's teachings?

You could teach a drag class

Originally Posted by IAmCoder

Have you had a chance yet to read any of Siddhārtha Gautama's teachings?

Yes. I don't agree with them. It assumes all problems can be fixed with mental focus, etc. Some can't. I can't just will myself into being happy or being male. What's more, to do so would be to deny who I am. Following the eightfold path to such an extreme would be tantamount to raping my mind.

Originally Posted by ooflendoodle

You could teach a drag class

I'll have to take one, first.

That would be so freaking awkward to take that.

(unless you were teaching it, in which case it would just be awesome somehow)

No, not by mental focus. Awareness is a more accurate term.

And the assumption is that ignorance is the cause of all suffering.

I would be very interested to hear how you identify with the fictional character of Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. It is a free book and can easily be read in a day.

Originally Posted by IAmCoder

No, not by mental focus. Awareness is a more accurate term.

And the assumption is that ignorance is the cause of all suffering.

I would be very interested to hear how you identify with the fictional character of Siddhartha by Hermann Hesse. It is a free book and can easily be read in a day.

Sorry, it just sounds a lot like willful delusion. I've tried eliminating suffering, but along with that goes elimination of every other emotion. Sadness offers a baseline to gauge feeling. It's not good to wallow in it, but neither is it good to cut it out completely. If anything, I'd rather amplify the way I experience it to make life all that much richer. I find Aristotle's golden mean to be more applicable in day-to-day life. Being transgender is one of those things that tends to break most models or paths of happiness. How do you gauge the mean of that? How do you clear yourself of the "ignorance" of that? It's here to stay, no matter what. It can't be "cured" with any amount of meditation or attention or deep thought, no more than you can change the color of your eyes by willing them to be different. It's just an integral part of who I am. I wouldn't trade it for the world.