Thread: Tell me would you date outside your race?

Generation Y's (as the gen. x's call us) seem to be less concerned about race these days than our parents and grandparents. I like this "intellectual/mental progression". But tell me...what about when dating/marrying someone...are you less likely to date outside your race?

If you are a person of color, would you date/marry a white person? Would your parents get upset?

If you are white, would you date/marry a person of color? Would your parents get upset?

Race has absolutely no bearing on whether or not I will date someone.

I prefer dating outside my race.

Arab women can be such bitches.

I want a half black chick, or 1/4 black, I decided. Some Halle Berry looking girl. Yeah, that'd be legit.

Interesting answers fellas.

Makes no difference to me, but my parents and grandparents would have heart attacks.

It dosn't matter what color they are. As long as there a good person.
My mom would prob disown me though.

Doesn't really matter to me, either. And I don't know what my parents would think, they don't seem very racist. (My mom's parents were racist iirc, but they died before I was born)

Jeff, I'm Black, have dated mostly Black (tho I dated a White guy for a minute), my first marriage of 2 years was to a Black guy (and we had a son) and my second/present marriage is to a Spanish guy.

My parents were cool about my Spanish husband (all they cared about was that he would be good to me and to my son).. my husband's parents (particularly his mother) were less than "thrilled". She threatened to disown him, referred to me as "that black woman" (among other things), she stopped eating, etc. When we chose to get married, I decided that I would never let on to his parents that I knew what she'd called me or that I knew of the resentment she'd felt towards me. We met/spoke for the first time maybe six months after our marriage. I always treated her with the respect due to the mother of the man I loved. Within less time than you'd think, his mother grew to love and appreciate me and my son. She even put our pictures up on the wall of her home along with all the other "family" photos. She once stated that I was the best thing that ever happened to her son (she's passed on now).

Because my husband refused to let me go (basically choosing me over his parents), we've been together 10+ years and going strong. He is the best man I've ever known and my best friend.

Life has shown me that it's about how someone treats you.. not about their skin pigment that makes a suitable match (tho sadly race mixing still bothers alot of people).

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I would date someone outside my race. It probably won't happen though, because I rarely find someone of another race who I think is attractive. Nonetheless, if I do, I would.

Alot Most of you said that your parents would either disown you or have heart attacks, but that you personally don't mind dating outside of your race. That's exceptional, though I expected that your parents would think that way considering the times they grew up in.

Originally Posted by Clairity

Jeff, I'm Black, have dated mostly Black (tho I dated a White guy for a minute), my first marriage of 2 years was to a Black guy (and we had a son) and my second/present marriage is to a Spanish guy.

My parents were cool about my Spanish husband (all they cared about was that he would be good to me and to my son).. my husband's parents (particularly his mother) were less than "thrilled". She threatened to disown him, referred to me as "that black woman" (among other things), she stopped eating, etc. When we chose to get married, I decided that I would never let on to his parents that I knew what she'd called me or that I knew of the resentment she'd felt towards me. We met/spoke for the first time maybe six months after our marriage. I always treated her with the respect due to the mother of the man I loved. Within less time than you'd think, his mother grew to love and appreciate me and my son. She even put our pictures up on the wall of her home along with all the other "family" photos. She once stated that I was the best thing that ever happened to her son (she's passed on now).

Because my husband refused to let me go (basically chosing me over his parents), we've been together 10+ years and going strong. He is the best man I've ever known and my best friend.

Life has shown me that it's about how someone treats you.. not about their skin pigment that makes a suitable match (tho sadly race mixing still bothers alot of people).

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Thanks for sharing Clairity. I agree that it's about how someone treats you as opposed to the color of their skin. Or as MLK said...

I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.

On another note, your mother in law (god rest her soul) initially had a problem with her son dating outside his race or was it that she just had a problem with him dating a black woman?

Originally Posted by Jeff777

Generation Y's (as the gen. x's call us) seem to be less concerned about race these days than our parents and grandparents. I like this "intellectual/mental progression". But tell me...what about when dating/marrying someone...are you less likely to date outside your race?

If you are a person of color, would you date/marry a white person? Would your parents get upset?

If you are white, would you date/marry a person of color? Would your parents get upset?

I thought you were called generation I?

I think naturally people are attracted to those who look like them. Freud believed so too (Oedipus complex)

That said, yeah, I would definitely date or marry outside of my race. I don't consider it when talking to a girl or scoping one out. Some people are just hot, nothing to do with race.

I love you Emmanuelle Chriqui



Clairity's black? I always thought that you were middle eastern?

I am very, very, very attracted to latina women.

Race makes no real impact on my choices for dating(unless they're Asian/Pacific Islander/Hawaiian)... it's the person I date, not their skin color.

Having said that, so far I've only dated white chicks, but thats not to say I haven't tried with other races or won't in the future.

My parents are pretty *I can't think of the word, they're not racist, but they really lump people into their respective race's stereotypes before they get to know the person* so they might not approve.

Oh, and my dad calls any black person that pisses him off a moulignan(Italian for eggplant), so I guess he is kinda racist.

Originally Posted by ninja9578

Clairity's black? I always thought that you were middle eastern?

Nope.. I'm Black (just light skinned). Sorry to disappoint.

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Everyone's ugly without skin.

Originally Posted by ClouD

Everyone's ugly without skin.

Indeed.

If I were single I'd date whoever managed to appeal to me mind, body, and soul. It wouldn't really matter what color their skin was, or what genitals they had between their legs. I find every color appealing. And while I'm more attracted to women in general, there have been some men who have made me melt.

My parents wouldn't care about what race I dated. My grandparents have gotten used to mixed couples, as there are several in my generation. However, if I ended up with a guy, it sure would create a stir!

Originally Posted by ClouD

Everyone's ugly without skin.

Clairity is beautiful inside and out!

Originally Posted by Howie

Clairity is beautiful inside and out!

Wow .. thanks Howie! The feeling is mutual!!

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Originally Posted by Howie

Clairity is beautiful inside and out!

Oooh. Smooooth, Howie. Wish I'd have thought of that.

Where was your profile picture taken? That looks like a middle eastern headdress to me.

Originally Posted by ninja9578

Where was your profile picture taken? That looks like a middle eastern headdress to me.

I think Clairity looks sort of Indian.

Basically the answer is yes. I usually date outside my race. my first two girlfriends were native. one was half native and half chinese. I will not be laid to rest until i've dated a woman of every "race".

Yes

I don't mind dating asian, latino, whatever. I just don't like dating black girls. Not because "THEY'RE BLACK", but because I don't find black features very attractive. Large lips, large rear ends, curly hair. I don't know, I just don't find that very attractive.