Like Sageous said, its all about your mindset. Its all about persistence. It took me about 3 weeks of doing Reality CHecks to get my first DILD. But then one day I told myself, "Yo im having a lucid dream" then i went to take a nap and I did. Your mindset is all that really matters. Be persistent and never stop trying. I was like you one time but then I realized im just gonna chill and never give up. And it worked. Persistence and mindset. Have an All Day Awareness, that helps too, alot.