Thread: JML-Just My Luck, In the Next LD when I'm Trying to Find the Guy, There's always an issue!

I remember somebody else had the same problem I read on another site. They were referred here: Erotic Lucid Dreaming: Exploring Sex & Spirit | The Dream Studies Portal Seems to align with your problem. Hope it helps!

i have a similar problem, but unlike yours it is one girl that isn't random, i know her in real life. if you have an interest its in the control thread under want it too much. my solution was to be patient and try it over and over again and let it play itself out.

Originally Posted by frizzyfolife

i have a similar problem, but unlike yours it is one girl that isn't random, i know her in real life. if you have an interest its in the control thread under want it too much. my solution was to be patient and try it over and over again and let it play itself out.

Yeah, I tried that 5 times with sunglasses dude. This was over a course of two weeks. I stopped because not only did it get boring, but I saw no point in doing it anymore, the point wore off. I was starting to forget what he looked like .

And thanks so much Reptile00Seven, I'll have to check that out!

What's your ultimate intention? To fuck them? I'm not sure I follow.

No. Everything but that, actually.

Have you had ANY successful dreams where you manage to stay in the dream while kissing them?

When I kiss girls in my LDs, I usually focus on the sensation of stroking their hair. It's also important to not close your eyes (although I'm sure you're aware of that already). Closing your eyes really used to be a problem for me though, since it comes so naturally when you're kissing someone.

Yeah, I know how to fix it and what to do differently. I have started to feel it going once while kissing a guy in my dream, and I told myself instead of waking up I'd appear at the computer in my house, and I did! I know I have to focus, but I always get lost in the moment. THAT I do know how to fix, but I often forget it and don't pay attention at the time.

Originally Posted by XeL

What's your ultimate intention? To fuck them? I'm not sure I follow.

Wow, you really don't mind being blunt do you? :p

I see.

One idea is to try to become as passive as possible while gaining stability in the dream. Let them do the kissing entirely. You've probably thought of that too, though

Originally Posted by Reptile00Seven

Wow, you really don't mind being blunt do you? :p

Huh. I've never thought of that before. Let's see if I remember for next time .

How often are you guys able to get lucid?

Few times a week.

When I'm on DV and stuff, a few times a week, and when I'm not maybe once a week. Usually if I get one and it's the summer and I fall back to sleep, I'll get another (hence the looking for the guy again-it comes naturally to me).

Same here! :/ im currently looking for my DG whose a guy, and i once spent 7 lucid dreams trying to find him and failing every time X_X
Ever considered,say, just NOT looking for him? Go about a lucid doing random things and maybe he'll appear?
My DG guy always seems to appear when im not looking for him.

Stand where you are and expect them to tap you on the shoulder. Imagine what they'll look like and what they'll be doing as you turn around and see them. It's the easiest method I've used that doesn't involve searching and trying to get the guy out of a sheet of paper.