Thread: What do your friends/family think about it?

Originally Posted by Scatterbrain

You should just type your dreams into a text file, put a password and hide it well.

Smart thinking!

Originally Posted by zoo york is cool

My friends think its gay.

I've tried but they won't change there minds. They just go through my dream journal and embarress me.

Well just punch them in the head.

Well i told my family about it they think its just something they dont really care for it and think im just being weird when i talk about it, my closest friend is really the only one iv talked to about it he thought it was cool but i could tell he wasn't really interested himself. If your friends think its dumb and actually make fun of you for it well then why are they your friends?

Originally Posted by HypnoPsychE

My best friend thinks im going crazy because i kept looking at my watch and asking myself ' Am i Dreaming'.
I don't think people would really understand the beauty and agony of Lucid Dreaming without experiencing it.
Heck, even my so called 'Spiritual and Religious' sister thinks im Mental.

Now, i just keep whatever it is regarding Ld to myself.

haha, am I dreaming....

I've only told one friend. He knew about the subject and listened to a few of my rants, but in the end doesn't really care. Sad, he's turned into a real asshole the past few months, I HATE how women change some people.

Another friend really surprised me when he said he's sort of trying to drown out his dreams, since he thinks about them too much while he's awake. At first he's one of those people that seems ignorant and only skin deep, but has very much surprised me lately with his complexity (he's one of those "losers" that people don't really give a chance). I will surely explain it to him sometime in the near future.

I told my parents, cos my dad knows what its like and we both think its cool. He used to keep a dream journal, has a whole years worth of dreams, but I dont think he tried to gain lucidity. My mum took no interest, but I didnt really want or expect them to start trying, was just letting them know how cool it is. If I wanted to I could probably get my dad into it but meh.

As for friends?... naaaah. They might be interested deep down, but I dont think most of them would get it... proabbly just mock me about it or something... yeah they act too immature most the time.

I'm kinda new to all of this, but I do know that the vivid dreaming thing runs in my family. My family is always talking about wacko dreams they have and sometimes different people have deja vu moments where they think things are from a dream. Perhaps it's just the mind playing games - I'm not sure. Hopefully I'll understand more about all of this soon. For now I'm going to keep all this to myself and see how it develops for me.

I actually like the idea of having my own 'realm' where anything and everything is possible.

Now I just have to see if I can learn to control my dreams ...

Originally Posted by TheSixthSide

Most of us care what other people think what we are doing no matter if we say we don't give a crap about what other people think. I know this, because my subconscious makes me nervous if I have to go do something that's in public. Possibly a social anxiety disorder.

Anyways... Have you tried getting your friends around into dreaming like you are? Does your family know? What do your friends/family think about it? Do you think it can be discouraging if they think it's silly?

I'll start off by saying my family doesn't know and I'm sure they would think I'm half crazy. I told my cousin about it and he laughed and said I was a dumb f***. My friends take no interest in it. They will listen to me, but all I get from them is "when will he shut up".

Great question I tried telling people about my dreams when I was a teenager, they all thought I was mad and looked at me like I was off my rocker. It stopped me mentioning them to anyone apart from my really close friends who mainly rolled their eyes at me. I would sometimes say 'oohh I had this real good dream last night' which was a cue for them to start talking about anything other than my dream so eventually I stopped telling people. I do discuss my dreams with both my kids who have similar dreams to me but even my husband just rolls his eyes and tuts. My husband says he never dreams so when I told him that he would be dreaming but just cant remember he again rolled his eyes and said 'well they cant be that interesting if i cant remember them'

But..... a while ago at work my work partner asked me what I had been doing before I came to work. I told her I had been on here (against my better judgement lol) and told her a bit about the site and omg she became really interested and started telling me dreams she has had. It is brilliant!! The only thing is that so far I havent managed to talk about my dreams cos I think shes telling me about every dream she has ever had and I cant get a word in edgeways

It's funny that I care what some people think, but not others.

I told my immediate family, and they think it's pretty cool, though they don't participate in it. I know that they aren't just pretending to be interested, because they always ask me if I had any lucid dreams last night. (Although, there is no chance in me teaching it to them [exept for my brother] because they always say "I just like to sleep at night.")

I told my grandparents on my mom's side of the family, and they do not like the idea very much. My grandma says it's not possible, even thought I tell her it is, and my granddaddy is a bit interested when I tell him about mine, but he also says he'd rather "just sleep." I don't care though, I actually like to taunt them with information about it.

I have also told my grandparents on my dad's side of the family, and my aunt, and they love it. My grandma (whom I call Nanny) says she has pre-cognitive dreams, and she is very interested in the subject. Papa doesn't give much input, though he does seem interested. My aunt is extremely interested, as she has also had pre-cognitive dreams, and has expirienced SP. I think she said she even took a class in dreaming and dream interpretation.

As for friends, I've told my best friend, and she says "Your crazy!" I sort of care about that, because I would have liked her to try it with me. I've also told my online friend from Wales, and she loves it. She almost had a WILD on her first try, so I think in the future she might be pretty good at it.

After coming out to my family and almost driving my mother to kill herself, talking about Lucid-dreaming is a walk in the park. I've always talked about dreams with my brother and sister since I can remember, and these days my mother still tells me about her dreams about winning the lottery, which still makes me laugh.

But on a related note, I've become a lot less concerned about people's opinions about how I perceive the world, but outer and inner. It's impossible to switch off your perception of what others think of us, and actually it's quite important in gaging how far we have come and how we've changed. Honestly though, you need to tune out a lot of it just to remained focused on yourself.

It's only selfishness when you tune others out altogether, really. LD-ing is awesome, and we all know that. Being content with your own sheer satisfaction is enough for it to radiate out into others. It's all a question of whether they're tuned into it or not.

Vibrations, baby.

I told my sister and she said she wouldn't want to control her dreams, and doubted it was even possible. I have a friend who LDs naturally, but he isn't really the kind of guy you discuss dreams with (into beer, rugby and birds :p) My parents have no idea that I LD, and I mentioned it in passing to my brother who nodded and said "yeah, sounds pretty cool".

My fiancee humours me, and can LD when she spots a dream sign (eg: when I'm in her dream and we're apart) but never refers to it as lucid dreaming.

Ironicly, the person who most understood my lucid experiences was an ex who was deeply into wicca, and via me got into lucid dreaming. Not sure if she still does it...

All in all, I have few who understand what I do, and I come here because 9 out of 10 people on this forum can and enjoy lucid dreaming. Also lets me explore more of the advanced stuff!

Originally Posted by weelilhazel

...they always say "I just like to sleep at night.")

Try saying "But, wouldn't you like to love sleeping at night?"

Well lucid dreaming did get a write-up in the New York Times.. you could always show them this article: http://www.dreamviews.com/community/...ad.php?t=43631

My friends are far too wrapped up in the real world and their own persuits,so I never mentioned it to them.I dont really like my dad,so I didnt tell him(I do tell him about some of my dreams,but he doesnt really pay attention.)My mom always has highly amusing dreams,so I think she'd be interested,but I havent gotton around to telling her about LD yet.

My friends don't really know about it and my family just can't imagine what it's like. Actually I did get few feedback or comments about it, which leaves me guessing what they really think.

Thinking about it, I had an interesting conversation about sleep paralysis with my Auntie, I should have gone into lucid dreaming... I might do this next time I see her, would be awesome if this is something she can do too! She tells me she has had SP so wonder if she has become lucid too....

Both friends and family don't take lucid dreaming seriously. I'v tried to explain how amazing it and get them interested but it didn't work. My brother is the most interested and he isn't really interested, he's had a lucid dream before.

A few of my friends understand this.

My family likes to appear to believe me, on my moms side, but they really dont. Theyre the "oh lets be all family family and have christmas and birthdays together and cookiecutter houses and when we retire we will own an RV and travel the world!"

My dads side is pretty down to earth with it. But thats most likely b/c theyre too stoned out of their minds to understand what I'm saying. I'd say really only my brother and I have decent conversations about Lucid Dreaming

I told 2 of my friends about lucid dreaming. One of them is more into it and they both have accounts here on DV. The more into it is more of a natural and is pretty active. The other has had like 3 ld's i think. He's not very active here but he said he would start trying lucid dreaming again on the hols (1 week from now). I did tell my brother once but he said it wasn't real. Meh, his loss. Yeah, so the only people I talk to about it are those 2 friends.

It amazes me that people don't find lucid dreaming to be awesome. It's like saying you don't want to be god in your own world.

I bet alot more people would be interested if they fully understood Lucid Dreaming.

my family is sooooooo bored when i talk about it
they follow the "there's nothing boring like other's dreams" line

Originally Posted by italianmonkey

my family is sooooooo bored when i talk about it
they follow the "there's nothing boring like other's dreams" line

Yeh doesn't it just annoy you!

I've told my brother and he showed intrest but nothing more. I also told my friends some said they know their dreaming on a daily bases (liars) but cant describe any of it... they just think im crazy on the other hand some belive me and think it's cool but they never "get around" to trying it. My best friend though has been on this site once and read about shared dreams and said he'd try ld if i apeared in his dream to make him do a rc :/.

~Luc

My mum knows about it but thinks its pretty weird, I'm like "but mum, it's scientific, it's not anything weird!" She probably thinks it's odd also because I'm into other "strange things". I tell her "but wouldn't you love to be able to do anything you want, ANYTHING?! You can in a lucid dream". She's pretty uncreative and uninterested in anything like that though so she's largely not very interested!

My best friend and I used to talk about it and tried to have them, but I was more interested than her and as far as I know, she's never had one. Another friend can do them naturally so we'd talk about how cool they are, and my brother is a natural too, but his are mostly scary I think (alcohol probably messing with his dreams) and we've not really talked about controlling them, so I don't think he likes them that much. I've not told anyone else.

Most people just don't get how amazing lucid dreaming is! Ah well, it's there loss isn't it.