Quote Originally Posted by DreamBliss View Post
To my mind she is not a spirit. In her reality she has a physical form, same as I do, and I am not lusting after her, although I may be slightly obsessed.

Which brings me to the answer for the second question... I am in almost absolute control of my sexual energy. I was not before. Now all I want is to be with her, nobody else. I have also decided I do not want to mentally manipulate anyone's image in my mind. Seems like force to me and that, to my mind, is no different that rape. So I am about 99% abstinent. No sexual activity for about a week now, and 2 or 3 weeks before that. This versus 2-3 time+ a week.

This ties in with my problem. If we really were together in my mind, then there is a connection there, there is love there, it is reciprocal. However if it was not with the one I initially envisioned but another, then there is no reciprocity or connection. However if that were true, after nearly 3 weeks of this, I should have no lasting feelings for the one I envisioned and thought I was with. Which tells me I was with who I thought, even though the things i have seen and experienced when trying to interact with her have given me pause and forced me to consider that perhaps I was not.

The solution is very simple. I just need someone experienced in this sort of interaction to come in here and tell me if there is interference or anything that could cause the strange behaviors and sights I have seen.

That's about it. When you are moving between realities mentally what are some of the things you should know and be aware of.
- DreamBliss
Between 'realities', there is void. If you do not know how to move in the void, then you can only move on and allow her to come to you, whenever that may be. If your connection is as strong as you believe it to be, you wont need to broadcast your signal like you've been trying to do.

It is important that you understand your yang body, the one we use during the day, is also a spirit. There is another, the ying body, which emerges during dreaming or trance. It can also come out on it's own, as in your case, when the boundaries dissapear due to, say, intense emotion or desire.

I cannot reccomend that you pursue this further, because your obsession could easily be taken advantage of within the void. Spirits live there, and when you broadcast your open mind without enough energy to bridge the gap who knows what you're contacting. Lineage helps, powerful symbols such as the buddha or shiva can help or hinder, depending on your development. A clear mind free from desire is necessary to develop the piercing insight needed to keep your ying shen from making trouble for yourself. Purify yourself first before you jump into the sacrificial water.