In the waking state happens that I control everything pretty well, but I'm not aware of what happens in general and my behavior is like a zombie... I think it's clear what happens in my dreams
Have you read about the ADA technique, it helps increase awareness during the day and the critical mindset and awarness is also very helpful for lucid dreaming. Here is the link:

http://www.dreamviews.com/induction-...kingyoshi.html

Note for the technique - you actually don't need to be aware of everything, every single moment, but simply pay more attention when doing things.