Thread: Where is Everyone?

Originally Posted by shadowofwind

As another similar example, high school kids try to associate with more socially successfully kids. Rather than support each other, the less socially successful kids generally try to pull themselves up by pushing each other down. I'm not saying that real friendships among socially marginalized people don't exist, but I'm saying they are often less stable than friendships between higher status people, because eventually they'll throw them away in exchange for a chance to climb further up the pile. High status people sacrifice relationships also of course, but it is different for the more marginalized people, because everyone is trying to get away from social failure.

I feel like this is a bit off topic, but I do want to reply here.

This is just simply not true. In fact, I have found the opposite to be true. Many of my friends from high school were the uncool, weird, nerdy kids. I also had to be friends with very popular kids from chamber singers. What I can say is that the nerdy kids don't really care about opportunities to "rise up the social ladder." Why? They care more about being able to be themselves rather than having to mold themselves to fit in a group. To them, real friendship is more valuable.