Yea, I need to work on the relaxing without focusing. Even when I try to relax, I think I concentrate too hard on it.

Your point about the unfocused eyes is a good one. I find that I'm always focusing on something. I don't think I usually focus on the blackness behind my eyes, though it's certainly possible. More often, I focus on the white blobs that dance behind my closed eyes. Even if I'm trying to focus on sound, I still end find myself trying to focus my eyes on where the sound is coming from. I try not to do it, but that usually means pointing my eyes somewhere else, not just letting go.

I need to go back and read the dream yoga posts again. I think some of them talked about observing without focusing.