For me lucidity seems to be about timing, only on weekends only in the morning after I would normally wake up.

I am lucky that I dream about a dead relative often. One night I dreamed about this relative then woke up and smacked myself
Then latter that night I dreamed about them in the second dream, they were the center of the whole dream again woke up and smacked myself
Then I had a dream about a dream object and didn't notice I was dreaming even tho I knew it was a dream object, woke up and thought WTF?

Next I had a fourth dream (near morning) there was my dead relative sitting on a couch watching TV. BAMM instant Lucidity!
I was highly lucid I focused on my hands, I took off my shoes and walked in the grass it felt awesome, being barefoot was such a good way to be anchored
stupidly I then decided to fly for most of the rest of the dream.

Latter I managed to go back to sleep and trigger on a recurring dream (so for me its all about being in a dream at the right time of night)
(I do use Melatonin B-6 and even 5-HTP to increase vividness to help detect the dreams tho)

So you might try meditating on things like "I will dream of (insert dead person/pet you know here)"
then when you see them you might become lucid.

Or meditate on doing something impossible "I will bench 1000 lbs in my dream"

Or "I will look into a dream mirror" (that is what I did, it was cool but I didn't trigger)

Once I even saw the dead relative and knew they were dead then I thought no they were just visiting their mother
in fact they were going to drive my car to see her (only problem is my car is as dead as their mother) meanwhile
they were playing with a dead cat. I woke up and Quadruple smacked myself
(so this might not work, even if you see the dead / or do the impossible)