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    Nighttime intruder

    by , 03-25-2013 at 10:45 AM (1088 Views)
    I dreamed that I was awake at night. Perhaps had gone to the kitchen to fetch a glass of water or something. When suddenly I realized there was an intruder in our house: a black man with a flashlight. Interestingly enough even though he did have a flashlight which was on, the lights in the room were also on, so I could clearly see everything (in fact I think that's why my dream mind decided to have the lights on).

    (Side note: why was he black? Is my subconscious racist? Did he just happen to be black? Have I been conditioned by society to fear black men more, so that an intruder is more scary if black? I am white btw.)

    He was on the younger side of middle aged, looked clean and clean shaven, and made the impression of being smart and surprisingly well off for someone who chose to burgle homes at night. He was wearing a clean sweater that looked good on him. He seemed fit, not athletic, but slim and healthy looking - like he took care of himself.

    He was clearly here just looking for valuables: a burglar. He was very surprised to see me. He stopped and stared at me in shock, and said something like "What the heck? This has never happened before." He was clearly unprepared to face an awake inhabitant of the house. He did not seem aggressive, and just seemed to be thinking of what to say and do next.

    Meanwhile I was terrified. I realized I expected that he would rape me. Next thing I know I am lying on my back on the floor with my knees up, even though I had been standing a moment ago, and the dream does not even bother to provide a transition. The burglar looks at me clearly confused and disturbed by my actions, as if he wanted to say "What are you doing woman?" He does not appear to have any intensions to rape me. he appears to be a cultured gentleman burglar.

    This however does not diminish my fear. Next thing I know I wake up still horrified.

    Side note: Why I had this dream: On DV some woman questioned why do rape victims make such a big deal out of it - a statement which kind of shocked me. Then on Facebook a friend of mine posted an interesting article about a professor teaching high school kids how not to rape, an article I read last evening, and someone else also posted a rape related comment because of News of course.

    Upon waking part of me wondered whether the reason why I assumed the position was because part of me wanted to be raped in my dream. But no, I don't think so, my reaction was definitely sheer fear not any anticipation. I assumed the position in my dream because of the simple expectations cause effect in dreams.

    Reassuringly enough my burglar's personality was such that I believe I was in no danger of actually being raped, even if I had not woken up. He seemed to be evaluating my reaction, and judging me to be a very confusing and ridiculous woman. So it was all in my head. My DC was not actually threatening, despite the potentially dangerous situation. Maybe given his personality I should not have expected him to try to rape me, but rather expected him to invite me to sit down with him at the table and calmly discuss the consequences: whether he could persuade me to please not call the police.

    On another note: this was a very vivid dream. I think the vividness was enhanced by and also helped cause the intense emotions.

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    Comments

    1. Darkmatters's Avatar
      Ah crap - we TOLD Onieronaut Zero to quit doing this!!

      Just kidding! Don't worry, I know it's embarrassing but the subconscious can tend to work from stereotypes. Dream schema just tend to come together along paths of least resistance rather than always checking to make sure they're being politically correct. People always seem to be apologizing in here for racist and sexist dreams.

      Sorry, I can't help laughing at the ridiculous image of you suddenly 'assuming the position' and begging not to be raped.. See, now if someone else had dreamed of a white woman doing that it would be racist and sexist! Ah, our sub-C's are terrible, aren't they? Forcing us to take part in these crude, tasteless Scary Movie type scenarios, knowing full well that we're reporting our dreams for public inspection here... I think they like to torment us like that.
    2. JoannaB's Avatar
      Oh, I do realize that our subconscious is bound to be non-pc at times, and cultural stereotypes are bound to creep into our dreams. And yes, you are absolutely right, it was a ridiculous position I found myself in. Alas, I was too engrossed in the dream to question its ridiculousness while it was happening, which is a shame.