Thread: What causes physical attraction?

Originally Posted by strael

first off, that means the same exact thing.
and yes, you did say it.

No, it doesn't. An average-looking girl lacks physical attraction, which I don't mind. An ugly girl is repulsive to me. In other words, her overall features are repulsive, disregarding sexual attraction. When I said unattractive, I meant it in the sense of a girl being ugly. Which should have been obvious anyway.

So no, I didn't say that.

Originally Posted by strael

It's not that i reject having high standards( standards to me does not include judging someone based foremost on the way they look- to me this reeks of shallowness, but hey, you can have shallow standards), it was the way you seemed to be attaching negative character traits to someone who doesn't fit your ideal of being sexually attractive while knowing nothing at all about them as a person.

I dislike ugly people because I am repulsed by the way they look. If I dislike the way they look, I'm not going to be interested in them or their personality. Sorry if that hurts your feelings. (Not really.) I consider physical looks to be more important than personality much in the same way that you consider personality to be more important than physical looks. I'm not interested in your values, though, because I'm not you. And the fact that you're arguing with me about MY personal preferences tells me that you're the one with the problem here, since you're the one getting upset over something which is completely acceptable and, quite frankly, none of your business to fuss over in the first place.

Originally Posted by strael

I never said that he has an obligation to get to know people he doesn't like, it was the wording- ugly women repulse me- that made it seem like he bases his interactions with women on whether or not they are sexually attractive. The part I found really presumptuous and shallow was when he went on to attribute negative character traits to people he knows nothing about.

Nope. I base my interactions with everyone based on many factors. And one of those factors is that I will not choose to interact with someone who I find repulsive. An average-looking girl's lack of attraction will not prompt me to avoid her, but I will avoid interacting with an ugly girl. Ugliness is a negative trait. And I have also found that ugly people generally have personalities that I don't like, which is part of my reasons for choosing not to interact with them.

It's human nature to judge people. I just take physical traits into more account than you do. I'm sure you judge people based on their personality. There is essentially no difference, no matter which traits you take into account when judging someone.

Originally Posted by strael

You have every right to judge based on what you think is important in a person. if this must include being sexually attractive, wonderful, but just keep in mind that other people have every right to think what they want about this requirement of yours, and the judgements you make about people who do not fit your standard of physical attractiveness.

Thank you for your input.