How is it possible? How can 2 people still love each other after they get wrinkly? Do they accept the truth (that they themselves and their partner is old and ugly), is it the memories that keep it going? Is it something about the look in the eyes, shared expieriences, the voice, the way you walk and talk, the personality? I don't think physical appearance ever becomes obsolete, a 70 year old guy still gets turned on by a good looking young girl and he is not going to get turned on AS MUCH by an older woman. So there has to be something to fill the hole when physical attraction disappears, right? |
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The worst thing that can happen to a good cause is, not to be skillfully attacked, but to be ineptly defended. - Frédéric Bastiat
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haha, Ginsan! |
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Last edited by Occipitalred; 03-27-2015 at 08:14 PM.
I don't know man, I still don't really get it. Maybe I have all these delusions about love because I've never had a girlfriend. So maybe it's just me |
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Well, I don't understand any of it myself to be honest, Ginsan. I am 21 and have never had a girlfriend either (by my fault but not by choice, I just wasn't born that way). Sometimes, I think I am asexual. I don't know. We'll see. |
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You seem to be assuming that an old person can't be attractive looking. You used 70 as a number, so lets look at someone in their 70's. Patrick Stewart. He is 74 years old. I bring him up because seriously, I saw him on tv the other day and he doesn't look like he aged over the last 30 year. As for women, I point you to the term MILF, a word dedicated to an entire class of older women who some find very attractive. It is especially relevant, since the carrying the connotation that people find them sexually attractive. |
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Last edited by Alric; 03-27-2015 at 09:47 PM.
I don't think I'm asexual, because I'm really horny |
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Well love and attraction are complicated things. I do have an appreciation for the woman form more than that of men. For example, if a pretty girl smiles at me, it does affect me. But once, I was with a girl that I admired and I had a lot of fun with and I had been acting flirty and when she went to kiss me, I said I couldn't do it. She said we had to be impulsive. But the truth is that I suddenly did not have any desire to kiss and I wouldn't just go along because I don't want to fake this type of thing. The only thing I can take out of that is that we're all complicated and there is more than just how good looking people are (because I found her attractive) and how nice you find them. I don't know what it is. But I wouldn't worry about old people. The more time I spend with them, the more beautiful I find them (They're 80-100) and I know you won't have trouble loving someone when you and them are old. It's all just skin. Any couch will be sat on, no matter its skin. Something leads us to love, and whatever it is and in whichever way it works, it acts beyond looks so don't worry about it. I'm sure we end up seeing beauty in the things we love. |
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Last edited by Occipitalred; 03-27-2015 at 10:57 PM.
That thought experiment with Gollum was strange. I didn't like it at all but I still tried it and you're right, there is beauty to be found. |
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That made me laugh a bunch. I'm happy I gave you this challenge |
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Last edited by Occipitalred; 03-28-2015 at 02:12 AM.
... my niggle, are you for real? |
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My bf seems to think we'll still be having sex even when we're 90. I admit, it seems weird. I saw Hemlock Grove, and yeah, weird. |
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Rofl.. Good to see I'm not the only one who cannot believe this is really a question.. |
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This is the legendary share dreamer at his last dream conference (he died 6 months later). I love him and I recon everyone who share dreamed with him do too, wrinkles and all. |
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So because it's common sense I should just accept it? No way! In my opinion Occi gave the most sensible answer: we don't quite get it, but perhaps we'll understand someday. And I don't get excited by the picture, I'm sure they're feeling butterflies just as much as any young grasshoppers, but when I look at the picture my face just gets sour |
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Last edited by Ginsan; 03-28-2015 at 04:56 PM.
I agree with a lot of the points made in here. Mainly, the chemistry involved in a strong romantic bond doesn't tend to disappear just because of aging. You fall in love with a lot more than a person's looks. Also, a lot of old people look good. |
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That's a good one Universal |
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I changed my mind. Now I feel like there's nothing with it anymore. This sudden change might seem crazy to many people, it even does to me, but I think it's very healthy. It's one of the things you get when you make some effort to remain honest and keep an open mind. Thanks for helping me out |
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It's pretty straight forward, man. |
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Last edited by GavinGill; 03-29-2015 at 03:28 AM.
As I've gotten older my standards have consistently been going down, I figure when I'm actually old I probably won't give a fuck anymore and stop caring about physical appearance altogether, at least in regards to my partner. |
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I do seem to notice people keep talking about cultivating relationships but as much as that's important, I don't think it's relevant in this discussion. You don't need to have cultivated a lifelong relationship with someone to still love them when you're old. Old-looking old people |
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Last edited by Occipitalred; 03-30-2015 at 06:17 PM. Reason: In honor of GavinGill
Of course not. |
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Last edited by GavinGill; 03-30-2015 at 06:04 AM.
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