You and people

**Mar2000** · 02-15-2014 09:19 PM

You and People

“The Self does not get to know itself unless it encounters the Non-Self”

Every now and then you often think about other people and your relations with them. You often talk of them. You praise, you blame, you applaud, you curse….. But, do you really understand these relations correctly? Here is a way to understand how your interpersonal interactions take place.

1- When you speak to them you see the tears jumping from their eyes, right?

This is not because of your eloquence or because your words are impressing, but people have feelings.

2- You get some money from them and then decide not to give them back what you have borrowed.

You are not clever, but they have trusted you.

3- They have done something wrong and when they came to apologise, you refused to listen.

They are not weak; you are merciless.

4- You saw one with worn-out clothes, you laughed.

They are not amusing, you are heartless.

5- You asked someone to give you a lift although he was very busy, and he did.

They do not adore you; you are tactless.

6- You said something bad to someone, they kept silent and did not reply

They are not cowards; you are insolent.

7- You are the boss and all of them around you obey you without objections.

They do not respect you; you are a tyrant.

8- When they see you they try to get away from you.

They are not indifferent; you are disgusting.

9- When you are delivering a speech, people start yawning.

They are not negligent; you and your speech are both boring.

10- People say they love you, you get annoyed, you feel they are lying.

They are not hypocrite; you are sceptical.

11- They shared with you a religious story to convince you of something, but you didn't listen.

They are not “too religious”; you are devilish.

12- People told you that you are not doing the job in the right way. You grew angry.

They are not envious; you are bad-tempered.

13- People in your work ask you to do a lot of things. You smile and feel very pleased that people cannot breathe without you.

They are not dependant on you; you are simply carrying out your duties.

14- People often backbite you, hate you, despise you, wish you everything bad, count your mistakes, try to harm you, lie to you, misquote you, cool your friends, warm your enemies, dig a hole in your way for you to fall in, they are furious at your success and often they laugh at your failure.

You are worried about it, you think you are right and they are wrong.

You feel how bitter they treat you? Right?

You can’t stand the way they treat you?

You want to know why?

It is just because you are what you are in Points (1) – (13) above

And that is why people are what people are in Point (14):

May God guide you to the right path.

God bless you.

**splodeymissile** · 02-15-2014 10:26 PM

Hey, a guilt trip. Haven't seen one of those lately. So, are you trying to convert people or something? Incidentally, although a cliche, two wrongs do not make a right and I'd say those in point 14 are just, as bad as those in points 1-13.

**Chickadee23** · 02-15-2014 11:04 PM

This is not good for depressed people or people with low self esteem to read.

**Soulless** · 02-16-2014 12:52 AM

3- They have done something wrong and when they came to apologise, you refused to listen.

They are not weak; you are merciless.

This is unacceptable. Apologizing does NOT mean they are worthy of forgiveness. It is ALWAYS up to the forgiver to forgive. This is a ESPECIALLY IMPORTANT POINT when it comes to assault, rape, and sexual harassment. In many cases, apologizing IS CONTINUING THE HARASSMENT. These absolute judgements of apology and forgiveness too easily becomes victim blaming. "He apologized for raping you, so why are you still nervous when he's around?"

7- You are the boss and all of them around you obey you without objections.

They do not respect you; you are a tyrant.

Or, they actually respect you, and don't have anything wrong with you. This does in fact happen amongst humans. It is possible.

11- They shared with you a religious story to convince you of something, but you didn't listen.

They are not “too religious”; you are devilish.

It is NOT up to the listener to be obligated to believe in a religious story. Many religious experiences are wholly unique to each person and it is completely inappropriate to expect total strangers to believe what you believe without the experiences you have had.

14- People often backbite you, hate you, despise you, wish you everything bad, count your mistakes, try to harm you, lie to you, misquote you, cool your friends, warm your enemies, dig a hole in your way for you to fall in, they are furious at your success and often they laugh at your failure.

You are worried about it, you think you are right and they are wrong.

Or some people have been sexually assaulted, raped, harassed, and have to deal with systematic racism and oppression in their lives.

I'm sorry, this post pisses me off so much. It practically ignores on systematic social issues like victim-blaming, systematic racism, sexism, harassment, etc. It paints a huge rulebrush and absolutism when reality is a lot grey than black/white. Interpersonal interaction is incredibly complex and it is based on so many societal norms, cultures, personal beliefs and experiences. Simplifying it to this degree can be incredibly harmful to people.

**Abra** · 02-16-2014 02:00 AM

You make a thread that is your own personal scripture. You are not insightful; you are mad.

**dutchraptor** · 02-17-2014 01:19 AM

How to not make a funny, light hearted post:

11- They shared with you a religious story to convince you of something, but you didn't listen.

They are not “too religious”; you are devilish.

**Maeni** · 02-20-2014 12:37 AM

That was perhaps the most negative and judgemental post I've ever read.
In short, your post is "It's always your fault." Some of your points contradict each other. If I don't listen to someone's story, I'm devilish, but if others don't listen to mine, then it's just because I and my story is boring. Even though I know your post is bullshit, I feel worth less from having read your post. Well done. And the points don't even apply to me.