Will lucid dreaming help me be with her?:(

**StonedSoulReapr** · 06-18-2012 05:33 AM

There's someones I can never be with or be close too in my life. Shes my whole world and I wanted to lucid dream so I can see her. So we can spend time together even if it is my imagination. Can I do this. Can I see her in my dreams.

**xChris12** · 06-18-2012 05:43 AM

You can do whatever you like Stoned once you are lucid you can change the color of the sky if you really wanted to.

**Ekyu** · 06-18-2012 05:46 AM

Sure, it is possible to summon a dream character just like her. But if u mean having a relationship with her, in your dreams. It's not really healthy for you, in the sense of it's not 'reality'. It's not really her.

I know it's easy to say there are more fish in the sea, but it does get better. I've been in your situation. Best thing u can do is just have fun, get your mind of her. Cause in the end you may end up with depression, if u just keep thinking about her non stop.

**Carrot** · 06-18-2012 05:51 AM

Do I sound bad if I say the "her" you see in your lucid is actually a projection? She's not really "her", she's just a reflection of who you think she is.

**roman67** · 06-18-2012 09:59 AM

I also have this question in my mind for last few days.

**isthisit** · 06-18-2012 03:36 PM

Originally Posted by StonedSoulReapr

There's someones I can never be with or be close too in my life. Shes my whole world and I wanted to lucid dream so I can see her. So we can spend time together even if it is my imagination. Can I do this. Can I see her in my dreams.

When you lucid dream well enough, then yes you can be with her in your dreams. I don't think it is unhealthy as other people have said. You are just indulging in your fantasies. Have fun!

**littlezoe** · 06-18-2012 04:26 PM

You can, but you need practise first. If you get good at summoning, you can just find her easily anytime you want.

**WaaayOutThere** · 06-18-2012 04:50 PM

I agree, there is nothing unhealthy about it. Why shouldn't you enjoy your dreams? It's your own private world... for the most part. I have shared lucid dreams before and had someone say something to me about it, without my having told anyone. So I say the possibilities are endless as to what you can do with your mind! Best wishes.

**Ekyu** · 06-18-2012 07:01 PM

I didn't mean that it's unhealthy to dream about a girl u like. I was more talking about the fact that you do it to a point, where it starts to interrupt your social life. Nothing wrong with having some fun in your dream, but it is a dream in the end. And it's important to understand this.

Just assuming for a moment that he isn't doing any shared dreaming with this girl, if that's even possible. Not sure if u guys see where im coming from? Just saying that in my opinion it is healthy but only to a certain point.

**Carrot** · 06-18-2012 07:41 PM

Originally Posted by Ekyu

I didn't mean that it's unhealthy to dream about a girl u like. I was more talking about the fact that you do it to a point, where it starts to interrupt your social life. Nothing wrong with having some fun in your dream, but it is a dream in the end. And it's important to understand this.

Just assuming for a moment that he isn't doing any shared dreaming with this girl, if that's even possible. Not sure if u guys see where im coming from? Just saying that in my opinion it is healthy but only to a certain point.

I get you.

It's the obsession for a person that's unhealthy, a person whom you'll never be with. It's as bad as idols' fantasises. If she's a real life acquaintance, I would rather you confess or made an effort to be her friend or more than just a friend.

**StonedSoulReapr** · 06-18-2012 08:31 PM

this person isnt a person in reality tho. thats the thing.

**Carrot** · 06-18-2012 08:37 PM

You can try. I wouldn't stop you from doing it. But I'm not sure how effective it will be on a long run.

**CJC** · 06-18-2012 08:38 PM

Originally Posted by StonedSoulReapr

this person isnt a person in reality tho. thats the thing.

Well who is she? Explain the whole thing

**littlezoe** · 06-18-2012 08:39 PM

Originally Posted by StonedSoulReapr

this person isnt a person in reality tho. thats the thing.

Then who cares, do what you want ^^

You can use your dreams for whatever you like.

**isthisit** · 06-18-2012 08:51 PM

Does it matter? I hear of people flying in lucid dreams all the time. We can't really fly, we never will and it's a mere fantasy. Does that mean we should stop being obcessed with it in our lucid dreams?

**Mystycal** · 06-18-2012 09:18 PM

IMO it's not really that unhealthy unless someone develops, or already has, some kind of mental illness that leads them to reject other people in real life just because they have an imaginary person to come back to in lucid dreams.
I'd say go on, fantasise about her all you want to your heart's content. After a while you'll probably discover that you get bored of her anyway and the feelings for her dissipate, even more so if you stop seeing her for an increased period of time. For peace of mind I'd advise you to confess your feelings to her as well. Maybe when she rejects you, you'll see that she's not worth your attention; after all, if she wouldn't be good enough for you.
Sorry if this sounds harsh, but IMO if someone doesn't want you, after numerous attempts and efforts on your part, they're just not worth it.

**ZeraCook** · 06-19-2012 01:49 AM

Yes you can, I did a very similar thing in real life, and It even helped me push myself so that I tried being with her in real life, but then that turned out really bad and started the greatest downfall in my life. So I don't really recommend it because Having someone always in your dreams, and knowing that they'll be gone in the morning, Starts to have a depressing side effect.

**Ollie** · 06-19-2012 01:57 AM

Originally Posted by StonedSoulReapr

There's someones I can never be with or be close too in my life. Shes my whole world and I wanted to lucid dream so I can see her. So we can spend time together even if it is my imagination. Can I do this. Can I see her in my dreams.

You can legitimately do anything you please. A very common thing I do is spend time with the people I love in places that we're generally unable to go to. Lucid dreaming is your free plane ticket or even space ticket to anywhere in the multiverse, my friend.

**StonedSoulReapr** · 06-19-2012 01:57 AM

As weird as it sounds her name is Rukia kuchiki and she is from a tv show.

**CJC** · 06-19-2012 02:27 AM

Originally Posted by StonedSoulReapr

As weird as it sounds her name is Rukia kuchiki and she is from a tv show.

Go to a doctor now. Unless you have met the person, the are some serious problems here. You need help.

EDIT: I just googled the name. Its a cartoon character. Can't tell if this is a troll thread or not?

**Empedocles** · 06-19-2012 02:50 AM

If this is a serious thread, and you're talking about your ex-gf or something, then I would suggest using lucid dreaming to get OVER her, not be "with" her.

If you are really in love with a cartoon character and this is ruining your life, then you do have a serious problem. Whether or not lucid dreaming could help you with that, it depends how you would utilize it.

If this is a troll thread, then please go away.

**Ollie** · 06-19-2012 03:35 AM

Originally Posted by StonedSoulReapr

As weird as it sounds her name is Rukia kuchiki and she is from a tv show.

I am both deeply concerned and sincerely entertained. Well done.

**n00bf0rlyf3** · 06-19-2012 03:37 AM

yeah and you can bang her too

**Sivason** · 06-19-2012 05:10 AM

Originally Posted by ThAtaInTmE

Go to a doctor now. Unless you have met the person, the are some serious problems here. You need help.

EDIT: I just googled the name. Its a cartoon character. Can't tell if this is a troll thread or not?

No it is not anything to be suprised about, the young around us older men enjoy japanese cartoons. The style lends to devloped heroic beatiful fantasy people. As an adult I still find some of the cartoon charectors alluring.
Now we arevtalking about going aware into the world od dreams, why the hell shouldn't he plan on having a lovely exotic fantasy cartoon woman for is date? Sound just as valid as any other cool dream.

I would agree that if she was a real person something may be in need of counsaling.

**Carrot** · 06-19-2012 05:34 AM

Originally Posted by StonedSoulReapr

As weird as it sounds her name is Rukia kuchiki and she is from a tv show.

I understand.

She looks lovely, I see why now.

I've been through something similar, to love a person I can never be with, she's real but our paths will never meet, after sometime you need to realise this love bears no fruits but it's good to have something to hold on to.