Thread: Rant and Rave, Cry and Complain

Originally Posted by Original Poster

I'm in love.

Oh who with?

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

Haha sorry for the vagueness. I'm me with a kid from a past marriage, and I'm with a guy who has kids with his past marriage. But he and I aren't married.

I just think that other people treat my son like shit. Which means I treat my son like shit for letting them. I'm explaining this really badly, because in this moment, I think I'm recovering from a relationship tragedy.

Ah....
I thought that, then I thought I was just thinking of Suena.
Feel free to vent like a mother fucker.

Originally Posted by Original Poster

I'm in love.

You said that last page. No one cares. We only care if Aly's in love. Unless you're in love with Aly and you're the guy she was talking about.
Nah but seriously, I was supposed to comment on this when you said it before, but I forgot.

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

Is it possible that evolution says we're not supposed to like other people's kids? I think naive me assumed that "We would be different"

Does your bf not like your kid?
It is a possible explanation, or it could be that he's just a reminder about the other guy you've had a child with. Either way your bf is immature as fuck and you need to confront him.

Don't worry, I'll probably be saying it a lot more times.

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

Haha sorry for the vagueness. I'm me with a kid from a past marriage, and I'm with a guy who has kids with his past marriage. But he and I aren't married.

I just think that other people treat my son like shit. Which means I treat my son like shit for letting them. I'm explaining this really badly, because in this moment, I think I'm recovering from a relationship tragedy.

I don't think it lies on how you scale yourself as being a good parent, because obviously, it's not going to be perfect. I don't know what it is you have to deal with, because I have yet to understand what it means to have a child, but I'm sure that by you giving your son a chance to think for himself, then you are a good parent, because even if you're worried about him now, he will realize what's happening, and he'll develop better than parents just lecturing him.

As long as your kid is just fine, it's not your fault Ophelia.

It only becomes your fault when you apply the same mechanics many parents try to do to raise "good children" who end up being dependent on their parents' scolding.

You on the other hand, are giving your son a chance to think.

And you know what he'll think when he grows up?

"My mother has put so much faith in me that I will do well in the future, and earnestly believes that. Because of that, and her allowing me to try and think for myself through my childhood, I will be able to make my own decisions, but still acknowledge what my mother suggests, and be the pillar of hope that she wants me to be."

It's not parenting skills at all Ophelia, I'm sure you're doing just fine...because ultimately, he will be responsible for his life when he grows up, and you should be proud that you've set the forces in motion for him to get that opportunity, even if you're going through a little struggle yourself.

To me, that's being a good mother.

But hey, I don't have a kid, so I'm probably just being naive myself.

Thanks Link

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

Is it possible that evolution says we're not supposed to like other people's kids? I think naive me assumed that "We would be different"

Maybe its because parents see their kids as extensions of themselves. Any other children cannot match that simply due to biology. Philosophically speaking, we are all extensions of each other but the connection is more obvious when the parents go through the birthing process.
My sister recently married a guy who already had a child. They have since had a child together. While its definitely not always daisies, they seem to be able to work with each others differences pretty well. And I get to be the observer on the sidelines.

While I don't know the details, I have faith in you Ophelia

Hey Link. Maybe you should've gone into Psychology instead of Biochemistry. You'd already have the PhD.

For the rest of you... my heart goes out to you all, it's just that I don't have the time or energy to respond to each one individually... sorry. Especially true today, which brings me to my own rant:

For some reason my brain randomly decided it didn't want to let me sleep last night. (My stomach wasn't that happy either, but I think that was from too much pizza ) Basically, I was way too tired to risk making the drive to work through rush hour traffic, so I took a sick day. Only I've got a second wind or something going on, so I don't even feel that tired any more. So I think I sorta wasted one of the two sick days I get this year.

There's also the general malaise around this job and whether I still want it or not, but that's nothing new.

Lastly, I'm so happy that you're happy, Aly.

to everyone.
That guy SOUNDS creepy, Yuppie. I hope he doesn't return!! I've only gotten powerfully bad vibes off of one person that I remember. I was a new mom, so I don't know if I was just sleep deprived and delirious but he creeped me out in a major way. I knew his footsteps on the walk outside the apartments and I always cringed when he walked by.

What horrible luck, OctoberWind. But those balloons look beautiful. I hope your sister enjoyed them despite ruining (?) the surprise. I hope you're feeling better today.

Link... what a rant. I hope you're feeling better today too.

And I hope you're over being sick, Singularity. Perhaps it was just the pizza Did you at least get to relax today?

OP, So happy to hear we have another person in love

Ophelia.........

I think I know a little about what you're talking about. My hubby has 2 kids from his previous marriage. They're 12 years apart and they are absolutely amazing kids. I hate to be stereotypical but their mom is Chinese. She's an OUTSTANDING woman and was (to me) a god of a mother (Even if she could be a bit of a "Tiger Mom" from the stories I've heard).
She seemed to be very hands on and involved. My hubby never really had anything to do with them except to be "fun dad" on weekends. When we got together, only his daughter was around (son was off at college).

Diana (his daughter) stayed with me and my kids when we got the modular back in 2000. All of the kids (my 4 plus Diana), hubby and I would go out to eat, see a movie. Even for longer breaks and holidays, she stayed with me and my kids (until her mom finally put her foot down a few years later).
My hubby lacks tact for the most part. If you have a smell, he tells you that you smell like shit. If you're overweight, he points out what you shouldn't be eating. His daughter wasn't immune to that when she was younger being a little overweight. But my kids got the worst of it.

And then holidays would roll around, which we didn't celebrate for religious reasons... but his daughter always got stuff. My kids have always been sort of the black sheep.
When Diana started staying with her dad, I started making excuses for them to do things alone. I just didn't want the kids to be around his negativity. But it backfired in it's own way. They don't know him. His literally just the guy who buys them food, insurance and shelter. And even that's grudgingly.

BUT, in hubby's defense, my kids never could take care of anything. He'd take them shopping and buy them clothes or gadgets and a couple months later they'd be lost or destroyed. He felt like he was throwing away "good money after bad". But they saw it as he just didn't give two craps about them.

I have some guilt over having stayed with my hubby. But what were the alternatives? He makes me happy and he provides for us. Before he came along, I was a stripper living in the "projects" and heading down a very dangerous road.
But kids don't see all of that. We're supposed to be superwomen and know all the answers and do all the right things at the right time.
It's just not that easy. If we -parents- love our kids and have half a brain, we do our best for them.
From what I've read here, though, you're very intelligent AND compassionate and I'm sure you're doing your job as mom extremely well

Being in or having a mixed family isn't always the easiest. I definitely agree with that. When my mom met my "dad", I was about 2 years old. When I was 4, they had my brother. Dad always played favorites in my favor. Mom accused him of thinking I walked on water lol. My brother couldn't get away with anything...


Oh yeah... my rant lol... I skipped sleep last night so I'm a bit tired. I've also almost burned out on Farmville (finally) lol, but now I'm obsessed with 2 other games I never even wanted to play. "Disney's Ghosts of Mistwood" (for my mom) and "Dawn of the Dragons" (for my boys).
I'm also aching for an exercise pole but hubby wont get one for me because he's convinced I'll break my neck
It started as a CNN article about "pole dancing" for kids. In the comments, someone gave a link to YouTube about where the exercise supposedly originated (India). I was lost on YouTube for several hours lol, but I found something I might be able to compromise with:


I was most impressed to see they climb with their feet and toes like I always have And while I can't afford a pole, I'm sure I could buy some rope...

I hate my parents. I told them I wanted to go to the police school and study criminology afterwards. Because that's what I really want to do in life. But they just said: 'You won't even make it through the physical test, keep on dreaming'. My mum and dad thought I was joking, they laughed with it. So they won't let me. Both of them just expect me to take over my dads construction business. It's a good paying job though and it's not that bad. But I don't see me doing that job for 50 years. And now I feel so embarrassed for even telling them. Gotta love their support. D:

It does suck when parents don't realize that it is your life, and you deserve to do what you want to do, but because they use that they were the ones who raised you and took care of you, it's suddenly as if you were a liability or something, it's as if making children suddenly becomes a burden lol. Then when the child wants to do something they want to do, the parents think they're trying to be big shots, or that they can do everything for themselves, which is not the case (for some people).

If only adults could understand that they should guide their children instead of spoon feeding them with "NO YOU CAN'T DO THIS" or "YOU MUST DO THIS" (which is really making them spoiled brats), let them think for themselves (but still protect them in obvious dangerous situations), I think parenthood would be much easier for both the parent and the child in the long run.

Meh, I guess the traditional methods of parenting which emphasizes on scolding, and making the child feel hurt, that they're the ones doing something wrong, that they're the rejects, it's a horrible system.


If you really want to do it, then just ignore their words if they can't give you support, and just try your best, and they will realize they shouldn't underestimate their son like that. It may not be apparent now, but it will show, I wish you the best though, Crashhy.

Honestly screw them, Lifes pointless without following your dream. Ask them if what theirs was and if they even attempted to follow it.

I can't get on facebook. It's irritating. I could, but then I'd have to face the truth that my beloved has not contacted me. And that would suck, so I don't want to do that. Right now, there's like this chance, maybe she's responded. Who knows? It's all up in the air and stuff. But if I check facebook, I'll know for sure that she hasn't. And I really can't take that. That would be too much. I don't want that right now. But there are so many awesome status updates I could make. But I can't make them. Because I can't check facebook. Because it would break my heart to check facebook. So I'm in a conundrum right now. And the only cure is massive amounts of ranting, raving, crying, complaining and dubstep.

It's almost 1am and it feels like it's 9pm.

I got banned from ATS (Abovetopsecret) for no reason which is one of the biggest conspiracy forums ever >.<

Last night, I set an alarm to ring two times:

1. It was supposed to ring once, VERY loudly too, because this mini-sound amplifier to wake me up somehow. This was supposed to ring during 3:19 AM.

2. The second was supposed to ring in a loop, which will wake me up for sure, because the sound isn't really appealing at all; it's supposed to ring at 4:19 AM

My laptop, SOMEHOW, gets an update and restarts.....oh my freaking goodness, you have to be kidding me Microsoft, you have to be kidding me! Come on.....you just took my right to try a WILD attempt just now.....

Now it's 6:29 AM, and I have an alarm set for 7:15 AM, but even if I set it for 7:45 AM or something, I don't know, don't think I can drift to sleep and see if I can become lucid or something.....I have a strong feeling to do it right now, since I have some time before I go anywhere, as long as I can get to the area before 9:10 AM. I want to try it, but I also know that there's a chance I will fail the attempt.

I'm complaining, because I haven't even been able to find anyone for an experiment I'm doing. Actually I did, but it was definitely a projection of the two people, one of which is supposed to be the control variable, who I'm not supposed to find in the first place.

*facepalm*

Ugggggh, I can't even set up the right conditions for a damn WBTB without Microsofting doing a system update on me to completely nullify the alarm times I had set.

So whenever I log on, and then see the alarm time already passed, it's like a big fat, "HA SUCK IT."

*cringes* Screw it, I'll do a WBTB, even though I know it will fail. There's only two days left for this experiment, I know I can make something out of it....*sigh* Off to this bed, this same bed that continues to troll me with false awakenings. *cries*

Damn, in order to do epic things in my dreams, I have to settle for this humanistic shit of setting an alarm properly? Come on....you have to agree this reality is BS sometimes....

Sitting in my car on the shoulder. Gonna be late for school. My car has no gas.

Originally Posted by Linkzelda

My laptop, SOMEHOW, gets an update and restarts.....oh my freaking goodness, you have to be kidding me Microsoft, you have to be kidding me! Come on.....you just took my right to try a WILD attempt just now.....

That's why you always have to disable automatic reboot after updates. It screws you over.

God damn curb came out of no where. Damn tiny crowded parking lots.

I'm a creepazoid. This girl at work has been "on my nuts" (I hate that phrase) so to speak since I started working there but she is 4 years my junior (She is 18) so naturally my first inclination was to ignore her advances but she persisted and I found it rather cute and amusing but the other night I dont know how but I ended up kissing her and she let it slip in the heat of the moment that she loved me. I'm kinda, sorta freaking the fuck out now. The feelings are not reciprocal as I barely know her and I just find this whole situation batshit insane. She is sweet but apparently insane, sexy insane but insane nonetheless.

I cant ask anyone what to do because I am kind of ashamed of my actions, I really was not thinking straight (but you reap what you sow) and furthermore I cant confess this heinous sin to a priest as I am not religious so I figured what better audience to confess to than the folks in the Rant/Rave thread. So there you go. I'm a goddamn creep.

I know this response is kind of late, but thanks Carrot and Singularity.

My complaint today is that I have nothing to rant about, but I want to post. >w< I'll have to stick to a reply.

Originally Posted by stormcrow

I'm a creepazoid. This girl at work has been "on my nuts" (I hate that phrase) so to speak since I started working there but she is 4 years my junior (She is 18) so naturally my first inclination was to ignore her advances but she persisted and I found it rather cute and amusing but the other night I dont know how but I ended up kissing her and she let it slip in the heat of the moment that she loved me. I'm kinda, sorta freaking the fuck out now. The feelings are not reciprocal as I barely know her and I just find this whole situation batshit insane. She is sweet but apparently insane, sexy insane but insane nonetheless.

I cant ask anyone what to do because I am kind of ashamed of my actions, I really was not thinking straight (but you reap what you sow) and furthermore I cant confess this heinous sin to a priest as I am not religious so I figured what better audience to confess to than the folks in the Rant/Rave thread. So there you go. I'm a goddamn creep.

Shit happens, we all get caught up in the moment sometimes. At least you have the heart to regret it. Tell her how you feel and get it over with. You're only hurting both you and her by doing any different.

Originally Posted by Crashyy

I got banned from ATS (Abovetopsecret) for no reason which is one of the biggest conspiracy forums ever >.<

I forgot about that website! Maybe it's good, because it made me paranoid...

Remember that super trawler that was coming to Australia that I posted about? (You almost certainly do not remember, but oh well).
WE FUCKING STOPPED IT!

WE.
FUCKING.
STOPPED IT!!!!!!!!

HAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHHAHA

Oh man, I was going to post about this yesterday but got caught up in other stuff. I really could not believe it.
There was a pretty big campaign on GetUp and 18,000 people e-mailed the Environmental minister and he STILL allowed it to come here and destroy our oceans.
So we had another big campaign and e-mailed all our state parliament members and they voted to not allow it! HAHASHAHASg ewrkgbjererber!!!!!! D
It is now banned from coming here for two years. Funny thing is, it had just arrived (from Holland) so they probably wasted fuckloads of money getting here.
And the best thing is, I don't think they will bother coming again because they'll think it's too much of a risk coz they might get banned again at the last minute.

THIS IS HOW YOU GET SHIT DONE IN POLITICS, PEOPLE!

FUCK. YES!

Also today I just bought tickets to a Lisa Mitchell concert. I actually got good seats to this one, coz I got in a minute after they were available lol

How is it already 3 AM? I guess that's what I get for staying awake for 3 days then sleeping for 15 hours (I didn't wake up until almost 6PM).
I love my sleeping habits now, but it's stupid. If I was accomplishing something then it would be great, but all I do is play facebook games and watch Hulu I think I've already said all of that here before Another bad thing about staying up all the time is that my memory is almost non-existent

everyone.
And major grats Tommo

I have no real rants other than I bought a salad at midnight instead of my usual hotdogs. I didn't take my meds ahead of time so now I'm running to the toilet every 10 minutes But the salad was very yummy and is worth the trouble. Grilled chicken with Romaine Lettuce and tomatoes, sliced eggs (which I eat before the dressing), cheese, croutons and honey mustard dressing. They were out of black olives

Oh Zhaylin, I got excited when I read your "No real rants" part, then of course you had to complain about salad related bowel movements, tut tut tut. Hahahhaha, kidding!
Okay, rant; I feel like I'm everyone's psychologist lately. I love helping people, and I'm always here for my friends, but it gets you down in turn, you know? It's tiring stuff, I miss the days in primary school, where life's biggest problems were your school yard crush going out with that jerk who threw sand at you in the playground. Now it's stopping people from cutting their wrists.
I'm pretty proud that I lead a positive healthy life style, like I have a pretty great ability to maintain happiness, even at the worst of times.