Originally Posted by Zhaylin
Auron, I thought about you while I was waiting in the car for my son to do his stuff. Women in relationships who pursue other people, in my experience, fall into 2 basic categories. Perhaps your "type" is one of them.
Type 1 is strong, independent. She might love who she's with very much, but she wants more. Perhaps she's a party girl. For such a type, maybe you're drawn to a no-strings-attached type of relationship initially.
Type 2 is the Damsel in Distress. She's miserable. Maybe even abused. She's looking for someone to be her Knight in Shining Armor. Maybe this type appeals to your nourishing side or the protector in you.
Or I could be completely full of crap lol. That's just what passed through my brain....
That's exactly it. I'll get a combination of both. The ones who like to complain every day that their relationship they're in are miserable every day. In the back of my mind I'm going "I know you can do better, cause I'll actually give a damn". I'll give a good example of both.
Damsel....she was pretty awesome conversation wise, we had a lot of things in common....and I decided to ask her if she was married....turns out she was, and she wanted to get out of the relationship she was in. Or at least that's how she spun it on me. Turns out this chick had been married with this rich guy whom she also worked for, and was cheating on him with several guys. She was married for 20 years to this dude, but supposedly "stuck".
Damsel 2: The chick at the gas station....
Damsel 3: This girl at school. She complained about her boyfriend months on end, and wanted to move out. She even wanted me to be her room mate or something like that. I didn't fall for it....I just listened to her, suggested things, and let her tell me why anything I suggested was impossible. She broke up with him for a month, and now they're married.
Main thing they all had in common. Tired of who they were with, but were in super long horrible relationships. It almost made me think is this really what women do when they're not with their men?
Strong Independent 1: I dated this girl who would talk circles around me. I couldn't tell her anything because she thought she knew it all. Really intelligent girl, but she had this weird habit of bringing up the same exact stories. Well anyways, money was tight, so I couldn't see her that often, but when I did, it was all on me. I'd say we would see other a couple of times a month.....and then my mother died. That day I want to see her...just to be with her, and I wanted to go to some place quite....and she insisted that we go to a big bar/dam near night club. Ladies were drinking free that night and she still wanted me to buy her a drink. Anyways, I got to the point where I was like "hey, can't we go some place quieter?". And she was like yeah "yeah, you can go....I want stop you". I was trying to tell her that I needed to be with her because of what happened, and she tried to flip it to "what about when I need you"? Yeah....that was the end of that.
Strong Independent 2 "The party girl". Lets just say, I can raise my hand when someone says "have you ever dated a stripper before". She was cool, but she was always in "spend money on me" mode, and if I didn't, she'd be pissed off for the rest of the day. After losing my mother, and that crap relationship I just mentioned earlier, I just wanted to hold on to anything, and every time we went out, she would set my wallet on fire. She used to lie to me a lot, and one day I told her if she didn't call me back at a certain time, it would be over. Well she didn't....and tried calling me back the next day. I told her she was cool, and beautiful (like really, this chick was gorgeous) but in the inside, she's ugly. I hung up the phone, and she tried calling me back once, and I threw away my phone.
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