Thread: 365 days w/o Jerking Off: A self control challenge

I failed....

How do you people do it, this is a very difficult challenge :O

So anyways, I shall attempt another challenge, but for one week this time >_>

Challenge starts tomorrow :3

Originally Posted by Solarflare

I failed....

How do you people do it, this is a very difficult challenge :O

So anyways, I shall attempt another challenge, but for one week this time >_>

Challenge starts tomorrow :3

My tip would be to not focus on being in this challenge. If you think about how you should not fap, you'll get tempted to do so. Focus on other things. Hobbies/work/anything, but not the challenge. The less your mind is busy with it, the less temptation there will be. Good luck on the new attempt!

End of day 8, as I said already I'm going to end the challenge sometime later this day. I faced no problems during this time, at least none related to the challenge. Can't say it helps my dreams though, given I had 1 dream I recall the past 2 days the challenge certainly didn't do a lot of good. It might be because I have to sleep polyphasic now but it most certainly didn't help much.

Originally Posted by Spyguy

My tip would be to not focus on being in this challenge. If you think about how you should not fap, you'll get tempted to do so. Focus on other things. Hobbies/work/anything, but not the challenge. The less your mind is busy with it, the less temptation there will be. Good luck on the new attempt!

Thank you! It'll be hard though, but I shall prevail!! ^-^

For everyone who goes through this challenge to improve his/her life/dreaming experience, you should definitely read this!
This is about the assumption that abstinence helps to rebalance you in some way, improving your dreams and maybe other aspects of life. There are reported cases this works.

I'm not going into details about this small part but let's just say that I ended my challenge this night, like I planned. I had fun, discharged 2 times and even overexerted myself a little.

Now here starts the interesting part. I went to bed pretty much right after that, and barely a little more than one and a half hour later I woke up after a lucid dream. It wasn't an insanely vivid one but, but it had some good details and to have a lucid in my first sleep phase a day, after around 7 hours without sleeping is something fairly rare for me. Not to mention that in the 8 days of my challenge I encountered only 2 other lucid dreams and they were inferior in nearly all aspects, and in the last 2 days my recall dropped badly as well.
First I thought it wasn't related to the challenge, I thought it was related to my need of a polyphasic sleep schedule which came up again with more pleasant temperatures, but I might be wrong.

In fact I'm now sure I'm wrong because to have a lucid dream like this right after ending the challenge is quite a lot to be coincidence. I conclude; the abstaining decreased my dream quality, and ending the challenge restored it.
I have observed absolutely no change in other aspects of my life, apart from the fact I lost my mood to work on my own stuff, which is yet another bad factor.
I decided I will not try this again, as I have no gain at all.

Now there is the fact that I seem to be one of the few persons here with no issues in terms of control at all. During these 8 days I often remembered the challenge, I still looked at some lewd stuff once in a time and even had 1 or 2 conversations about lewd stuff with my girlfriend (on the phone).
Normally I regularly discharge, at least once a day, sometimes more. I like to search for more explicit and interesting stuff often. I fall into the category of people who would be highly suspected to become addicted to the pleasure and porn, however as I already tested quite a few weeks ago I'm not remotely addicted. I'm not normal in most of these ways, I seem to simply work different.

Conclusion (and TL;DR):
Now I'm not going to say abstinence is always bad for you, like it is for me.
I'm saying abstinence might not be good for you.
Trying a challenge like this might be well worth it but depending on how your body and your mind works it might actually be the case abstinence decreases the experience of those areas in your life instead of increasing them like often described here. The effect of abstinence might be highly different from one individual to another.
I still would recommend you to try the challenge at least once to see how it affects you, since most people here reported good results, which I believe to be the norm. If I would experience good results I would be more inclined to try this again as well.


(Damnit I can't stop seeing and doing everything in a scientific way , hope this helps and sheds some light on abstinence anyway)


Happy fapping or not to all of you, depending on what works best for you

Day 20/21 - Sex. Ridiculous dominance.

Day 22/23 - And so, the challenge continues. One episode of sex did nothing to satiate my lustful thirst. It is even worse. I feel like a raging beast.

Whilst I have regressed to an animalistic persona, this primitive way has been useful. My presence is strongly felt, and I have an uncanny sense of raw power surging through me. A question that stays with me: How will I tame such energy - should I?

Apprx. 70 sessions avoided so far.

After a month, I have determined that it is unnecessary to completely stop. Rather than the usual schedule of once at bedtime, once at WBTB, and once or twice in the morning, I only do it when it is necessary. The longest no-fap period in the month of May was about 5 days and the shortest 2 days.

Well today i finally realized that this challenge is really not made for me. This was day 5 today, but as i was walking around the city, i had so many lustful thoughts anytime i've seen an attractive girl that it was just unbearable.. i almost got crazy, lol.... :/

So yeah, i failed yet again, but it was an emergency now xD

Anyway, i don't think that i'll attempt this challenge again soon. I'll just go the way as anderj, i'll only do it when i feel it is really neccesary..

I failed again. Not that I was actually doing it intentionally this time lol. Considering starting again for real....

Originally Posted by Wolfwood

Day 20/21 - Sex. Ridiculous dominance.

>w<

Originally Posted by Wolfwood

Day 22/23 - And so, the challenge continues. One episode of sex did nothing to satiate my lustful thirst. It is even worse. I feel like a raging beast.

Whilst I have regressed to an animalistic persona, this primitive way has been useful. My presence is strongly felt, and I have an uncanny sense of raw power surging through me. A question that stays with me: How will I tame such energy - should I?

Sounds like you should just see where it goes to me.

Day 1. A great big fail .

I don't think "fail" is an appropriate term to use here. Perhaps "relapse" should be used instead.

Hmmm Day 1. I did not manage to stay on task during this self control challenge? D:

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

I failed again. Not that I was actually doing it intentionally this time lol. Considering starting again for real....

Only now have my dreams started to become consistently clearer. Hehe, and more odd. Try, try!

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

>w<

^_^

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

Sounds like you should just see where it goes to me.

Haha, I'm already knocking at the door of a raging beast. When the door fully opens... who knows what I'll become. My thoughts are definitely not clean at the moment - base and sordid.

Sad to say that more and more women are still becoming sexually attractive to me. Please Margaret Thatcher, do not become one of them.

So the challenge begins now.... I shall do it! :3

Originally Posted by littlezoe

Well today i finally realized that this challenge is really not made for me. This was day 5 today, but as i was walking around the city, i had so many lustful thoughts anytime i've seen an attractive girl that it was just unbearable.. i almost got crazy, lol.... :/

So yeah, i failed yet again, but it was an emergency now xD

Anyway, i don't think that i'll attempt this challenge again soon. I'll just go the way as anderj, i'll only do it when i feel it is really neccesary..

Lol you horny girl. Don't treat other girls as sex objects, you're not a guy!! o_O

What's with all the failures or relapses in the recent challengers? But that makes it interesting.

Originally Posted by Carrot

Lol you horny girl. Don't treat other girls as sex objects, you're not a guy!! o_O

What's with all the failures or relapses in the recent challengers? But that makes it interesting.

I don't treat them like that... but unlike you i'm interested even in the sexual things with them, not just the love aspect I can't help but have thoughts like that... especially when i'm abstaining for days.... I'm sure it's just better for me to lower the number of times i do it, instead of fully abstaining... o.o

Originally Posted by littlezoe

I don't treat them like that... but unlike you i'm interested even in the sexual things with them, not just the love aspect I can't help but have thoughts like that... especially when i'm abstaining for days.... I'm sure it's just better for me to lower the number of times i do it, instead of fully abstaining... o.o

I can't say I'm not interested in sexual things.

I just don't like to pollute the girls I like by that.

Originally Posted by Carrot

I just don't like to pollute the girls I like by that.

If it's just a random person on a street, does it matter? I don't think so

Originally Posted by littlezoe

If it's just a random person on a street, does it matter? I don't think so

I have extremely high expectations.

Originally Posted by Wolfwood

Only now have my dreams started to become consistently clearer. Hehe, and more odd. Try, try!

You make a good argument for it. *sigh* I might just have to lol. After I've "officially" set the counter back to zero days, of course.

Originally Posted by Wolfwood

^_^

Originally Posted by Wolfwood

Haha, I'm already knocking at the door of a raging beast. When the door fully opens... who knows what I'll become. My thoughts are definitely not clean at the moment - base and sordid.

Sad to say that more and more women are still becoming sexually attractive to me. Please Margaret Thatcher, do not become one of them.

You say that like it's a bad thing! You shouldn't turn down an opportunity to find more beauty in the world.

You talking about all of the energy you have is kind of a turn-on in itself. >w<

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This challenge is going to be awful. X) I'll probably keep smoking through it again, too, just to make life more difficult.

Originally Posted by Carrot

I have extremely high expectations.

You're setting yourself up for disappointment.

Originally Posted by Phion

You're setting yourself up for disappointment.

What I meant by high expectations is I never go for the prettiest girl around. I go for the prettiest heart.

Originally Posted by Carrot

What I meant by high expectations is I never go for the prettiest girl around. I go for the prettiest heart.

Good strategy.

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

You make a good argument for it. *sigh* I might just have to lol. After I've "officially" set the counter back to zero days, of course.

You say that like it's a bad thing! You shouldn't turn down an opportunity to find more beauty in the world. :

lol...really? My arguments make me seem like a raving lunatic. Then again the oddity of the dream content is refreshing... and you'll wake up utterly confused.

And, that's true. It's just unusual at the moment.

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

You talking about all of the energy you have is kind of a turn-on in itself. >w<

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Hah, so the energy has far reaching--across the ocean--effects too. Better than I thought.

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

This challenge is going to be awful. X) I'll probably keep smoking through it again, too, just to make life more difficult.

Yes, it will be awful good. It's fun making life difficult, isn't it...or is that just me?