Thread: A rant about all things female.a

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

Well now let's don't get carried away there.. I don't care if it's -40 out, I wanna see some thighs and cleavage!

Hey, me too ! Don´t get me wrong

Small rant about all things female:

The "classics" are by and large male writers, despite that during their time, female writers were the vast majority.

Furthermore, writers who are female tend to be categorized as "female writers" and not just "writers". Same way as an asian-american writer will be classified first and foremost as asian-american over their writing, regardless of if their writing is about being asian-american.

It's an annoyance of mine.

Ok am I the only one who noticed that the op wrote "female.a" in the thread title? Whuck is it...

I wrote it off as a typo

No worries, Snoop. I have this conversation with my (grown and still living at home) kids a lot. I tell them it's about observation and consideration. If you're going from point A to point B in the house without any particular goal or task at hand, just stop and look. Ask yourself if anything needs done.
With kids especially, the default is always "Well, it's not my turn". I don't care whose turn it is. If you helped contribute to it and you're not doing anything else, take care of it. Or bring it to the other persons attention so they can do it.

Timetables/chore charts are excellent. I think your roomie just liked having something to bitch about, Anju.

idk how this is going to come off to the women here, but I think the female objectification thing is kind of overblown.

everyone is objectified to a certain extent. I think when a woman aspires to be what the modeling industry wants them to be, and not what men actually find attractive, they end up morbidly skinny or whatever it is they're going for. and when the realistic people of society point out how unhealthy it is they blame it on degradation from men lowering their self-esteem. which is not fair to the respectable males who are now handicapped by this notion all we want is sex.

the thing is, most people don't even go to those extremes anyway. women LOVE Abercrombie and Calvin Klein models and shit, but I know I don't have to have flawless hair and irresistible chiseled features or even an enormous unit you can see through my underwear, in order to have chemistry and mutually beneficial interest with a healthy woman.

everyone gets to make their own choice. if you want the power so much take it, I don't think we are deliberately holding it out of your reach. I guess in short I just don't agree that extreme feminists should be going around blaming all their problems on us because its counter productive to what you want to accomplish. anyway that's my two cents on female objectification hope I didn't offend anyone haha

I thought this forum needed a thread to complain about women, awesome.

I've noticed that all women generalize too much and that's pretty frustrating. I also kinda think they're too indecisive, or maybe not. I don't know.

Originally Posted by Zoth

Lmao that's so funny

Originally Posted by Original Poster

I thought this forum needed a thread to complain about women, awesome.

I've noticed that all women generalize too much and that's pretty frustrating. I also kinda think they're too indecisive, or maybe not. I don't know.

hahahaha, this post could not be more perfect.


But if I'm being honest to my experiences, some generalisations are true.

I think women in general are less emotionally attached than men.

There was a great post on reddit recently explaining why men continue chasing women or trying to date, despite every possible obstacle in their way.
And no, it's not because of insane sex drive. That's total bullshit.

It is because men do not have emotional outlets like women do. Women can confide in their friends to their hearts content, male or female.
Men cannot do that with their male friends, and rarely with female friends (if they try with lady friends they are instantly considered pussies).

So if a man find a girl he can open up to, he does not want to lose that. He becomes reliant on her, because everyone needs to rant sometimes and let out their emotions (see: RRC&C thread, probably the most popular of all time on DV).

Women on the other hand, have a tonne of girl friends they can open up to any time, and if they're attractive, male friends will happily cater to their emotional needs. So if they lose a guy they like romantically, they move on far more quickly.
Whereas men feel good at first, but soon feel like shit since they can't open up to anyone anymore, and that's mentally unhealthy.

This isn't the exact image I formed this theory from, but it's the same general idea


This is the only gender stereotype I've found almost universally true (obviously some people do not fit in to the stereotype).
Those people who don't fit in to that generalisation seem to be far better, more mature, and honest people.

Man or woman is irrelevant.

I don't judge anyone on sex or race or religion or whatever, it's just not how my brain works. So I feel fairly objective in my opinion on this, although obviously there is some bias, as always.

So you guys know me for being Mr. Single and sexually deprived right? Well, about a month ago I let this girl who I had sex with the very first time of us meeting. We've continued to have sex around once or twice a week. But I mean that's it. We drink, she smokes, and then sex and goodbye. Sometimes we'll even skip the entire day and text each other at anywhere between 1 and 3 askif for sex.

I know most guys would kill for something like this, but it sucks. She listens to stupid radio rap, has a history of doing heavy street drugs, has two kids, and has no interest in going to college. When I say say history I mean a few weeks ago she got coked up and beat some big black chick down. Great story on paper, but there's no way I can really be with someone like that.

I want to end it, but I know I'll turn around and say "damnit I miss getting sex". So I'm just there for the ride until one of us finds someone they actually need to be with.

askif?

Anyway, should be ok to have nothing in common with someone if it's just for the sex though right? Unless you're worried about her showing up at your place all coked up and beating the shit out of you. Though that could incorporate into role play..

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

askif?

Anyway, should be ok to have nothing in common with someone if it's just for the sex though right? Unless you're worried about her showing up at your place all coked up and beating the shit out of you. Though that could incorporate into role play..

It's not that I want to have more in common with her. I just wish I was banging someone that I actually wanted to be with.

I was going to say what you basically said at the end. You're getting good (I assume) sex. Just keep doing it until it becomes detrimental or you meet someone you actually like.

Damn, man.... we should all be so unlucky

But what is askif???? Or was that like a frustrated asdfasdfasdf lol

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

But what is askif???? Or was that like a frustrated asdfasdfasdf lol

I'm still wondering what female.a means.

I think he meant asking.

Originally Posted by OpheliaBlue

Well now let's don't get carried away there.. I don't care if it's -40 out, I wanna see some thighs and cleavage!

I'm guessing you don't live near a college? There are a few inches of snow on the ground, yet I still see high heels out on Thursdays/Fridays when driving to work at night.

Originally Posted by tommo

I suppose I was the woman in my last breakup, heh. I won't lie. I was upset and cried. But I didn't try to suppress it. I looked at as: this situation sucks, but it's OK and normal that I feel sad; it will pass. And it did.


I also love the initial purse post. Though, that applies more to my mom than to my ex-girlfriend...

I think the one thing that consistently bothers me about women is just a subset of them. They hit menopause, kids are out of the way, and for some reason - just like when they were teenagers - they begin to travel in packs again. They talk and laugh to loudly, just stop anywhere to chat... and chat... and chat, preferably standing in the way of anyone trying to get from A to B. And of course they have to have some desperate kind of hair colour, too blonde or too henna, leathery perma-tanned skin with "youthful" new age tattoos. Super charming, especially if it goes with that deep voice that comes from smoking and drinking too much. Damn... 10 years from now, that will probably be me. Just shoot me now.

Really interesting post tommo. I never really considered that before, but it instantly made a lot of sense. I saw that post title on reddit in bestof a few days ago, and almost clicked on it but must have gotten distracted by something else. So I'm glad for that summary.

Sibyline, I'm sure that won't be you if you're that worried about it now. My grandmother just turned 80, and looks really good for her age. She's mentally sound too, she's more observant and has better sense than most people half her age. She's dyed her hair a light, almost-grey blondish colour that says "I'm not trying to fool anyone but would still like to look reasonably nice given the circumstances." And she used to smoke and drink quite a lot when she was younger.

Another thing about old people in general that people seem to forget is that the personality traits we associate with them might be generational. For example, we associate wearing one's pants to their belly buttons, or using certain language as something old people do. But really, they're habits that they learned when they were younger, and it's not like we're going to develop them. Who knows what personality aspects we associate with the elderly are really just habits of a different generation? A lot of women weren't well educated, for example. And that could have many effects.

So apparently the girl I was with is too transparent to tell me she doesn't want me anymore because she bought up the period thing like that's something new to us. I guess the good news is I don't have to break it off with her.

Is there a thread to rant about men?

Originally Posted by Anju

Is there a thread to rant about men?

No, because it would be empty.

Haha someone should start one.

Originally Posted by tommo

Spoiler for post:

hahahaha, this post could not be more perfect.


But if I'm being honest to my experiences, some generalisations are true.

I think women in general are less emotionally attached than men.

There was a great post on reddit recently explaining why men continue chasing women or trying to date, despite every possible obstacle in their way.
And no, it's not because of insane sex drive. That's total bullshit.

It is because men do not have emotional outlets like women do. Women can confide in their friends to their hearts content, male or female.
Men cannot do that with their male friends, and rarely with female friends (if they try with lady friends they are instantly considered pussies).

So if a man find a girl he can open up to, he does not want to lose that. He becomes reliant on her, because everyone needs to rant sometimes and let out their emotions (see: RRC&C thread, probably the most popular of all time on DV).

Women on the other hand, have a tonne of girl friends they can open up to any time, and if they're attractive, male friends will happily cater to their emotional needs. So if they lose a guy they like romantically, they move on far more quickly.
Whereas men feel good at first, but soon feel like shit since they can't open up to anyone anymore, and that's mentally unhealthy.

This isn't the exact image I formed this theory from, but it's the same general idea


This is the only gender stereotype I've found almost universally true (obviously some people do not fit in to the stereotype).
Those people who don't fit in to that generalisation seem to be far better, more mature, and honest people.

Man or woman is irrelevant.

I don't judge anyone on sex or race or religion or whatever, it's just not how my brain works. So I feel fairly objective in my opinion on this, although obviously there is some bias, as always.

Here's another video supporting your theory that I like and find true (first minute):



Honestly I don't want to get on a woman hating bandwagon here, calling women soulless and whatnot. I don't know what goes on in every woman's head and I know I'm partially to blame for driving girls away that I've wanted. I can't really call a girl soulless if, for example, she didn't know exactly how she felt about me and was leading me on because she wanted to see where things went. I won't fault a girl for being confused and not wanting to reject me simply because she wasn't sure exactly how she felt about me.

However, there's something I think women do that really does deserve criticism, and I think women should stop doing it, they should see that it's bullshit and they should just stop, and that's this game they play where they attempt to keep themselves in the best possible position by refusing to break up officially with one guy while pursuing or getting romantic with another. Like a guy will cheat so he can have pussy on the regular and also try something new and keep working on his game, but a girl can get dick on the regular whether she has a boyfriend or not. She will cheat because her boyfriend gives her security but that guy at the club plays really good guitar. Then she'll discard the guitarist, her boyfriend will never be the wiser, and he'll raise that guitarist's kid and that guy won't get to even know he has a child. She will flirt with her coworkers to keep her options open in case her boyfriend ever decides to leave her, she will keep the fish on a line. Guys go all or nothing, red or black, and marry the girl they want more than any of the others, then if he cheats it's often with a girl who looks like a younger version of his wife. Girls throw their chips all over the board and marry the one with the most credit cards. And then we wonder why they get over us so quickly when we break up, dude she's already been boning her current bf six months beforehand and she instigated the break up to make you feel like you ended it so she didn't have to confront the issue and actually show some fucking resolve.

Now that that's been said, men are capable of the same underhanded manipulation, and men can also be cheating scumbags, this I know. But usually, when male friends are fighting with their GFs, they'll stay loyal where female friends fighting with the BFs start looking at their options. I understand it's probably instinctive as women are raised to depend on men so they need men apart from romantic interest, and are thus more motivated to manipulate. I think if women learned to be more independent then this would stop.

You are usually pretty coherent, Original Poster, but I don't recognize anything in your post from the real world. Not me, nor anyone I've ever known. Credit cards? Guitarists? Raising other men's kids without knowing? I'm stumped.

When I have seen infidelity it was in couples where the woman settled for "Mr. Almost Right" and then realized that she had been too eager to settle down. Money and security may be a factor in choosing a mate (just as men are attracted to women with certain physical attributes - this goes way back in human history), but Anna Nicole Smiths are few and far between.

I have seen cheating, but I have literally never seen what you describe. Except in movies, of course.