Hi, I haven't read any of the articles on here, and I'm a bit unfamiliar with the lingo, so forgive me if I say something obvious...

I have found that if I focus on any one thing for too long, everything on the edges of my vision gets cloudy and I lose control of the dream. So my advice is to constantly look around you, and maybe try to be in a place with lots of dream characters. That's how I finally got control of a sex dream...do it in public!