any other virgins out there that find dream sex to be weird and difficult to perform?

[intheworldofnim]

I'm a virgin but whenever I try to have sex with a random dream character, it never feels right. the dream character always seems to change while trying to perform for some reason. one time I tried kissing one and her head turned into one of those voodoo sruncken heads. Another time the girl looked as if she melted on me. a day ago during a WILD, I pulled some girls pants down, tried sticking my penis in her anus and then not much later, it's like half of her body dissapeared and it was the lower portion of it that was left. That suddenly turned into what looked like a mutilated corse with some tube thing coming out. I looked at the tube and it looked like a penis was coming out of it. in the dream, I then had to put my arm over the body and slowly wave it back into view (which worked surprsingly, which I should probably thank this one guy who said waving things into existence works) her body was now facing upword instead of down like originaly so now her anus is where vag should be. I couldn't get anything out of it so I got bored an flew away. I saw another women and I impulsively attempted to rape her. I tried kissing her but after a few short seconds, her face turned into what looked like a fish. does this happen to anyone else? I heard sex was very pleasurable in dreams but for me, the women keep changing and I can't seem to get aroused by it. I'm also a vigin so I don't know if that has anything to do with it. does this happen to anyone else?

[CharlesD]

I had dream sex a few times before I was married and all I can say is that the real thing is way better. Now if I dream about sex it's still with my wife and it's a closer approximation to the real thing, but still not as good. When I was still a virgin the dream sex didn't seem to have a whole lot going on as far as the sensations, but I think that with things you do in dreams that you can do in real life your mind has to have a point of reference as to what that experience feels like. Since your brain is creating the dream, it's going to be hard to fully simulate something you've never experienced. Before I learned how to ride a bike as a child, I had a dream that I was riding. A couple weeks later I was riding for real and the sensation was completely different. As to the other weird things going on, I don't really know. Now when I dream about sex, the job never gets finished so to speak and I wake up wanting to wake my wife up and pick up where I left off. I guess I'd say you could just do in dreams things you can't do in real life. When you find the right person, real sex is way better anyway.

[Radioshift]

Most of the time if the dream isn't vivid or if you're not very lucid it can be hard to have complete control over what happens. I don't know how experienced you are at lucid dreaming, but is there any other things you have problems with doing in a lucid dream?

[Robot_Butler]

I'm not a virgin, but dream sex is still weird. The randomness of dreams always manages to sneak into the act.

[h1nchm4n]

It happens to me, but I'm a pretty accomplish LD'er and I'm pretty sexually experienced. Like Robot_Butler said: I'm not a virgin, but dream sex is still weird. The randomness of dreams always manages to sneak into the act. It's not as crazy as the things you're experiencing. Usually if its someone I have seen naked or in a bathing suit or something, it goes pretty well. But if its someone I don't know, or haven't seen, it can get pretty weird.

[slyman]

i'd say my dream sex is the same now as before i lost my virginity. the actual act didn't seem weird or anything but i mean sometimes the situations were but that's how dreams are haha

[Linkzelda]

I'm a virgin, and the only time I really had "dream sex" was with 5 women I think, but most of it was air humping. But for dreams involving oral sex, the sensations are amazing, often augmenting the sensations I had in waking life. So at least I can feel something there because I already had it.

[Robot_Butler]

I remember having a sex dream where I kept switching places with my partner. My perspective kept switching back and forth. It was very confusing, and slightly disturbing.

[Sivason]

I was not a virgin when I started LDing in the way back, but still had experiences like the OP mentions. I remember the top half of a girl disappearing and cases where there were no girl parts down there and so on. I had only been sexually active for a couple years at that time. I often loose lucidty and wake up if I try tl have sex in a dream, but not always. I do not know if it is more experience with sex, or more experience with LDs, but none of that weird stuff happens now. If I do not wake up accidently the sex can be very realistic and feels great.

[sramsay12]

Well, I'm a virgin (I have had an.. experience... but it wasn't sexual intercourse (it was with a girl though, not homosexual)) I don't have this horrible morphing problem you describe, for me the whole thing is amazing- better than what happened in real life- and the girl is always willing and friendly, not like the bitchy, cold girls I know in waking life. I enjoy dream sex very much. One of my friends thinks I'm wierd for doing this in a dream until I've had ordinary intercourse in real life, but I'm not going to go seeking sexual relationships in real life, so I might as well enjoy it in my dreams No girls replying to this? They probably think we're perverted

[Dreamcatcher92]

Dream sex has some advantages: multiple orgasms in a small period of time, no diseases, no awkwardness...... to the main subject, I don't think that being a virgin has to do with the weirdness/morphing/and other crazy stuff during a dream intercourse whether it's lucid or not..u just have to take control on the dream (trust me, it's easier than what I've been told) ...but just like flying, you shouldn't get scared or super excited to the point of fearing that you don't have enough time in the dream... good luck with getting better results

[shepchap]

I learned a new technique to keep my images solid and scenes stabilized. When you look at your scene or dream character go little by little. 6 - 8 inches or 15 feet if your doing a large dream scape. If you do look at your character like rendering a image on a website by 6 - 8 inches or 1 foot at a time the character or scene becomes very stable. I just learned this a day ago when I was dream flying. See if that helps. So if your looking at a lady or if you have no ladies in your dream yet, start at either the head or feet and go slowly 6 inches pause 6 more inches pause etc.. till you reach the top. You will then lock the scene or dream character in and stability increases. Works for me at least. You don't have to go super slow i am just saying a very slight pause.

[slyman]

^that's interesting. i was thinking of doing that but not even for stabilization, just to see how detailed things were

[Suck4Luck]

Very wierd thread Never tried dream sex

[SpaceCowboyDave]

I've always figured I shouldn't bother even trying to have lucid conventional sex, 'cause it really wouldn't be realistic. I would probably get more pleasure from something I know more about. Besides, it seems like there is less of of a separation between mental and physical pleasure in my dreams- kissing someone in my dreams felt just as good as more naughty things I've done in my dreams.

[jh477]

For me, it can be really exciting in the moment when I'm able to have sex in a dream, but when I wake up, I become kind of sad because I've had zero success with girls. My absolute preference in a dream is to have meaningful intimate contact rather than going all the way instantly. I have achieved this a couple of times and hope that it will happen again. It's really something amazing to me when I'm able to so freely connect with a dream girl, yet I have a really hard time in waking life. As far as straight up sex goes, it has been difficult and one time carried a strange and very uncomfortable consequence... I do not want to explain it publicly... but most times it has been quite awesome and relieving. Most of my sex dreams took place during my apex dream years, from age 14 to 16 and I've had very occasional ones since.

[intheworldofnim]

I learned a new technique to keep my images solid and scenes stabilized. When you look at your scene or dream character go little by little. 6 - 8 inches or 15 feet if your doing a large dream scape. If you do look at your character like rendering a image on a website by 6 - 8 inches or 1 foot at a time the character or scene becomes very stable. I just learned this a day ago when I was dream flying. See if that helps. So if your looking at a lady or if you have no ladies in your dream yet, start at either the head or feet and go slowly 6 inches pause 6 more inches pause etc.. till you reach the top. You will then lock the scene or dream character in and stability increases. Works for me at least. You don't have to go super slow i am just saying a very slight pause. thats interesting I'm definitly going to try that. I actually do this when I look in mirrors.

[intheworldofnim]

Most of the time if the dream isn't vivid or if you're not very lucid it can be hard to have complete control over what happens. I don't know how experienced you are at lucid dreaming, but is there any other things you have problems with doing in a lucid dream? I've had exactly 31 lucid dreams so far (most of them wilds) but the more advanced techniques I can't do. I sometimes have trouble remembering im lucid due to forgetting to reality check later in the lucid dream but usually im fully lucid in my WILDs. flying ability sometimes ranges tho like one time I could fly like superman while other times I can only make very large jumps before hitting the ground but ussually it's inbetween. recently I've only been able to glide instead of float but I learned that extending one fist out inproves my flying ability greatly. I have trouble changing my dream scenery but I rarely try and I can stabalize my dreams pretty well. I do have trouble with recalling things in most lucids. the last 3 lucids I had I can only remember fragments. But I rarely write dreams down so thats to be expected plus like I said earlier, I tend to forget i'm lucid when I don't remind myself and that effects my lucid dream recall. other than those things I don't have much trouble doing much in lucid dreams, only thing now I have noticed being a problem is womens faces and bodies changing on me when I try to engage them with physicaly.

[intheworldofnim]

I was not a virgin when I started LDing in the way back, but still had experiences like the OP mentions. I remember the top half of a girl disappearing and cases where there were no girl parts down there and so on. I had only been sexually active for a couple years at that time. I often loose lucidty and wake up if I try tl have sex in a dream, but not always. I do not know if it is more experience with sex, or more experience with LDs, but none of that weird stuff happens now. If I do not wake up accidently the sex can be very realistic and feels great. yes, thats exactly what happen with me, the top half of the girl disappeared and I had to slowly wave it back into existance which strangly worked.

[Sensei]

I had plenty of dream sex before I was married (yes, I waited till then). It was normally very strange Sometimes not even involving nudity. I didn't LD back then though, I just always have had extremely long vivid dreams.

[Sopanen]

like half of her body dissapeared and it was the lower portion of it that was left. This exact thing happened to me last night, I wrote about it on my dream journal. November 22th - I raped her - Dream Journals - Lucid Dreaming - Dream Views I don't think it has anything to do with you being a virgin, as someone else stated dream sex is weird.

[Yomi]

I'm a virgin but whenever I try to have sex with a random dream character, it never feels right. the dream character always seems to change while trying to perform for some reason. one time I tried kissing one and her head turned into one of those voodoo sruncken heads. Another time the girl looked as if she melted on me. a day ago during a WILD, I pulled some girls pants down, tried sticking my penis in her anus and then not much later, it's like half of her body dissapeared and it was the lower portion of it that was left. That suddenly turned into what looked like a mutilated corse with some tube thing coming out. I looked at the tube and it looked like a penis was coming out of it. in the dream, I then had to put my arm over the body and slowly wave it back into view (which worked surprsingly, which I should probably thank this one guy who said waving things into existence works) her body was now facing upword instead of down like originaly so now her anus is where vag should be. I couldn't get anything out of it so I got bored an flew away. I saw another women and I impulsively attempted to rape her. I tried kissing her but after a few short seconds, her face turned into what looked like a fish. that sounds....horrifying. but uhm.... no that kinda thing never happens to me.

[intheworldofnim]

This exact thing happened to me last night, I wrote about it on my dream journal. November 22th - I raped her - Dream Journals - Lucid Dreaming - Dream Views I don't think it has anything to do with you being a virgin, as someone else stated dream sex is weird. I figured it didn't have much to do with being a virgin, I was just playing it safe and being formal since I am one. I wasn't entirely sure, I also noticed that kissing is almost completely unsatifying to me. Theres just something about the women everytime they are close to my face that doesn't feel real. I was in a lucid dream a day ago and I tried kissing this women, but I noticed her face looked almost like it was out of focus, not detailed and a bit small. It's kinda hard to recall exactly. I wish their was a machine that could record and show us what our dreams look like cause it's hard to correctly visualize exactly what it looks like.

[Kruse]

I've not had problems with lucid dream sex, worked in two out of two attempts. However, since dreams are created by our experiences and interpretation of things, I figure it MAY have at least something to do with being a virgin. As for characters turning weird, it's about finding the right balance between maintaining the character (through concentration), but also concentrating on the dream so that it does not collapse. But even if it were to work for you, you wouldn't be sure to have it the way it feels in reality because you've ever tried it - how does the mind recreate something it hasn't experienced?