Dreamviews Anonymous Confessions & Opinions Thread

[♥Mark]

*unsubscribes*

[Linkzelda]

*unsubscribes* >♥Mark asks what I did to her throne >I tried to make something comical even though I didn't do anything to said throne > ♥Mark unsubscribes You did this to me ♥Mark Don't run awayyyyy.

[Linkzelda]

I am madly in love with a girl whom I barely know. I can't get over her and I don't want to. She is the most important person in my life. It depresses and pains me greatly that I might never be with her. She is just so beautiful, funny, and adorable that my heart melts at the very thought of her. I would likely give my life for her, if it ever came to that. 10/8/2013 8:51 PM You don’t truly love this girl, you’re obsessed with her. Sure, you may have some affection for her, but you barely even know her. I’m sure you had this same episode with other women, where you feel you couldn’t get over them, restricting yourself by not giving up without realizing you're setting yourself up for despair. Thinking the girl will be there just for you and all you have to do is go to her and everything will be just and fair for you and her right? Creating an image of someone you barely know, letting your mind build a skewed and fanatical disposition of her, and even allowing yourself to absolve your bonds with your friends, family, and peers just for her. I guess we all want closure and comfort with the people we interact with. But if you’re willing to put your life on the line for a perfect stranger that somehow is able to make you feel at ease, hiding her true emotions and struggles she’s been through…imagine, what does that show about you? She may have the same limerence for you, but she probably has her own history of doing it with other men and failing. Maybe she’s just some pretty and naïve girl where you can get some chance with her. Then if you meet, everything feels so perfect, creating a delusion that it’s just you two doing whatever you want. Then both of you get sick of each other when you start becoming more familiar with each other. It’s probable that both of you can end up appreciating each other despite of your differences, but with your Romeo attitude, you would kill yourself if she found someone else. And maybe that same person wants her as well, and probably has a better chance than you ever could. And if he actually hits it off and she somehow commits, you’re just going to sit there, sobbing and bitching on what ifs.

[Athylus]

For real link, you're totally right bro. We've all been there, I was obsessed with my ex but was too blind to realise it. That cute face and voice... but that two-sided demon/angel personality was a real fuck up. Anyways, you should go up to that chick and ask her number, then later call her and tell you're going to check out some cool place like a newly opened icecream shop or whatever and ask her if she wants to join you. There you go, doesn't even necessarily sound like a date. Btw Link those comics you make are hilarious LMAO, they're so random and the art is so horrible that it's good. Keep them coming. Is it cool if I confess without that all that monkey shit? Just write it in a post? o.o

[Linkzelda]

Hey man, you're free to confess whatever here. I have no jurisdiction on who says what. Even if it's something about me or some other member, it should be allowed. It was only a censorship because some thought it would be offensive. But if an ex-mod can agree on this, it should be allowed, as long as we're not going in a flame war or very intense drama (like Grod mentioned). If you're ready for any comments (good or bad) in relation to your open confession, feel free. It's just that the last time things were open, it ended off in a bad way and was deleted. This thread was made to where people can still troll/flame/insult/argue/comment on the confessions (like I've been doing to most of them) because they're anonymous. But if it's an open confession, I try not to respond to it in a comical or somewhat comical way.

[♥Mark]

You don’t truly love this girl, you’re obsessed with her. Sure, you may have some affection for her, but you barely even know her. I’m sure you had this same episode with other women, where you feel you couldn’t get over them, restricting yourself by not giving up without realizing you're setting yourself up for despair. Thinking the girl will be there just for you and all you have to do is go to her and everything will be just and fair for you and her right? Creating an image of someone you barely know, letting your mind build a skewed and fanatical disposition of her, and even allowing yourself to absolve your bonds with your friends, family, and peers just for her. I guess we all want closure and comfort with the people we interact with. But if you’re willing to put your life on the line for a perfect stranger that somehow is able to make you feel at ease, hiding her true emotions and struggles she’s been through…imagine, what does that show about you? She may have the same limerence for you, but she probably has her own history of doing it with other men and failing. Maybe she’s just some pretty and naïve girl where you can get some chance with her. Then if you meet, everything feels so perfect, creating a delusion that it’s just you two doing whatever you want. Then both of you get sick of each other when you start becoming more familiar with each other. It’s probable that both of you can end up appreciating each other despite of your differences, but with your Romeo attitude, you would kill yourself if she found someone else. And maybe that same person wants her as well, and probably has a better chance than you ever could. And if he actually hits it off and she somehow commits, you’re just going to sit there, sobbing and bitching on what ifs. smells like projection

[paigeyemps]

smells like projection that sounds like a perfume ad... Smells like Projection........Only $49.99 Other fragrances include Rejection, Protection, and Erection. Okay what the hell is happening to me i think this thread is toxic

[♥Mark]

that sounds like a perfume ad... Smells like Projection........Only $49.99 Other fragrances include Rejection, Protection, and Erection. Okay what the hell is happening to me i think this thread is toxic Smell like how you think others smell only with Projection.

[Athylus]

Give it a break Mark, I'm serious. People learn from their lives and share their knowledge.

[♥Mark]

I'm serious. Well that makes one of us.

[Linkzelda]

I didn't really unsubscribe from this thread. 10/11/2013 12:21 AM .

[Linkzelda]

Merry Christmas, Linkzelda. I think I will send you a very very special Christmas card. I hope you like it. And while I'm at it, I think everyone else is getting one too. ＝) 10/20/2013 8:38 AM View respondent's answers I wake up just to go back to sleep all I care about is sex and violence a heavy baseline is my kind of silence 10/20/2013 12:28 AM ...

[Alyzarin]

[Linkzelda]

I want to watch my wife have sex with my two sons (her step-sons.) 11/7/2013 1:25 PM Cuckold fetish with a pseudo-incest twist huh

[Linkzelda]

I really love milkshakes 11/8/2013 3:05 PM Are you in any credible position to be giving advice on peoples' personal issues? Despite sensible reasoning, it could do damage. I'm afraid those who who read your advice may lack sound judgement and take it to heart. This is certainly not the appropriate platform for pseudo-therapy. However, I understand you have good intentions. 11/9/2013 3:14 AM It's not there to fix anyone's problems since I obviously can't internally change their belief systems and force them to make a change. If they actually take it seriously, it's their choice. Not here to be a shrink or anything, though I figured I wasn't the only person in the universe to want to sympathize/empathize/suggest, especially considering with the Help! sections and others where people made responses way before I was even in this forum. Maybe people assume a longer post means the person actually wanted to put more thought into it, but things like this require little effort for me. Maybe that's something I should get checked out myself, or something good to have, who knows? I'm not healing or helping anyone's disorder, nor am I making militant strives to do so. I guess what I used to say seemed more serious, or maybe people are just filtering out what other people said in the past and focusing on what I said. It's interesting how words with implications of creating impact can be considered therapy though, thought they were just words. I still have a long ways to go with accumulating experiential learning on things just like any human being, and I'm not sure if you saw the confession I made in the past, but I'm not an old man trying to give fanatical speeches in hopes to change a person's psyche/attitude/etc. about things. It's things like this that makes me wonder if there's really anyone wanting to think more about their lives and be reflective about it. Especially when there's so much a person can do in relation to dreaming, I figured having a higher metacognitive ability for self-reflection on past experiences was a given trait any member here might have. But I guess the self-reflective ability to use retrospect and hindsight gets taken for granted, and it's more about experience, age, and other things to feign authority. Or to put it more euphemistically, same song different dance I guess. As for damage, I guess people prefer the hugbox method where someone's feelings won't be hurt, though I'm not sure if I really hurt anyone or insulted anyone by telling them to commit suicide or something. All anyone can do is provide sympathy, and as for actually affecting a person's desire to reach a certain end goal, anything stated from me or anyone is useless. This implies the wording actually has an impact, but I or anyone else can't really give variables to sustain the presumption you're giving. Giving sympathy online is like trying to like a Facebook page and assuming someone with a terminal disease is going to get better. But hey, if people gain more solace and assurance through someone older, they're free to do whatever they want to take in and out of their minds. I just loved researching a lot of things related to the mind and consciousness, and took advice from those way older than me and decided to take them into serious consideration rather than blindly denying the truth of what they've said. Figured those conflicts or whatever were common sense and they're not really anything revolutionary. If people honestly are going to a forum to solely solve every single aspect of their problems to random strangers, then they do have issues. Nor do I try to have a grandiose delusion that my words will cause significant paradigm shifts. Though from you and others in the past, they seem to garner that predisposition. I guess I'm just supposed to smoke drugs, drink alcohol, or whatever absurd ontological aspects people consider to be "acting" their age, but I guess it's a matter of disposition on aspects that makes a person have authority over someone else. Maybe it's to promote inferiority for the youth so they know "their place" or something, maybe something else. I don't blame you though, most of the time I wished I was more apathetic about things with forums, but I guess the attachment is something I have to learn to get rid of to save my own self. Glad someone is being honest despite of the anonymity.

[Linkzelda]

I find the "American" IRC crew impossible to connect with on any form, and have never been able to talk on chat during those times I find that all Blue and Red dream views mods (past and present, with exceptions) are really up themselves. I hate when they talk on chat because they take it over and everyone adores them and I just slowly fade out and feel excluded and when I do try and take part in the conversation I just get ignored. I feel everyone thinks I'm stupid, threads always seem to die when I post in them. I'll never touch extended discussion due to this. 11/16/2013 7:32 PM It’s not about having authority or intelligence higher than anyone else. It’s about knowing how to extract information from others in unorthodox ways, at least based on the set of circumstances that occurs in DV in particular. If you know how to push people’s buttons right without going too far, you can get some really useful information out of them when you help sustain their egocentric and self-aggrandizing ways to make themselves feel better. They’ll have a sense of urgency to validate that they’re not incompetent and are clearly intelligent enough for discussion. Extended discussions on dreamviews has some nice insight and bits here and there, but inevitably, there’s an impasse that occurs (e.g. “let’s agree to disagree,” “let’s stop this bickering,” confirmation bias, keeping the peace). It’s what prevents people from going further and actually having an “extended discussion” instead of “extended ad hominem, confirmation bias, in-group favoritism, straw man arguments, and all sorts of red herrings.” Wanting to feel intellectual in Extended Discussion in Dream Views will just lead you into disappointment. This is something that can be apparent for any forum where debates, flame wars, and shit storms can occur easily. Just take the information stated, use it for gaining perspective, then lie big and run fast. And as for the IRC, there’s like what…..15-30 members there? And this is including idlers or people that just glance to get in a few chuckles in, or to just find time to kill with the spontaneity that can go in any direction before someone releases the ban hammer. Combine that with people who will find any fault of a member and go about in their private circlejerking hate-on-staff-or-any-other-member-cuz-we're-bored chats creating contingency plans and acting like Che' Guevara with brave-heart speeches to galvanize the small and secluded community because of the mods and staff, doesn’t really seem to be the place to socialize long-term. Maybe if you just want to have a sense of belonging with people who rarely put any thought into anything, but the chat is going to have its limit. That and any other chat for that matter. As for moderators and other staff members, you’ll have to understand when you’re in a position to abide to certain rules and ethics in being a staff member, it’s not something easy to do. It’s more of the people streaming in complaints that have been apparent since 2004 of the site’s “golden years” that’s the issue. It’s easier for someone to say “omg You are a Nazi mod,” “omg You’re just helping Alex get another Mercedes Benz,” and other useless declarations. (Don’t ban me mods, the latter was merely jest, I love you Alex, don't kill me) You can meet some awesome people on chat if you didn’t set a horrible first impression of course, too bad impressions and personas seem to count so much there. But like what other members have done in the past, especially those pioneers during 2004-2007, you’ll quickly realize that chat is just there to kill time/nostalgia trip/etc.. You’ll want to do something more productive, and if you want to take a break and receive a transient lobotomy towards madness, DV general chat is your go-to source for that. It’s your choice of course, and using chat or even extended discussion to help fuel the gap you have with wanting to feel competent and useful to contributing to the community is admirable, but if that’s your end goal, you’ll invariably feel drained out. And at some point, you’ll get sick and tired of that shit. At least that was the case for me.

[Linkzelda]

Contrary to my religious ubpringing I believe that we live and then we die and that is illuminating and beautiful enough without stories of paradise or talk of gods and devils. 11/19/2013 7:59 PM For some reason, this reminds me of Light Yagami from Death Note. After hugging a certain girl from behind today, I got home and realised I had pre-cum (like the lubrication, not actual cum) in my pants. I wasn't even hard when I hugged her, just very slightly erect. My body wants her so bad.... That's never happened before. What am I to do!?!?!???tyuli;oilukyjthrhtjy 11/24/2013 8:15 AM You should get that checked.

[SnowyCat]

You should get that checked.

[melanieb]

Confess!!!!

[Linkzelda]

Free Irken! 9/21/2014 11:09 PM I did not enjoy The Godfather. 9/21/2014 2:30 PM I used to be really good friends with Linkzelda. Now I don't know if he remembers me. I hope he is doing well. 9/21/2014 1:58 AM oh no 2/3/2014 10:55 AM 1 character requirement reached.

[Linkzelda]

I'm sorry man, I'm just taking my sexual frustrations out on you. I wish I could take them out on your tender ass though. 10/23/2014 12:26 AM Linkedzelda got my boyfriend pregnant 10/23/2014 12:25 AM I wish I could rub my nuts against Linkedzelda's giant pair 10/23/2014 12:23 AM Linkedzelda has a giant cock 10/23/2014 12:22 AM mlem 10/18/2014 2:30 PM I guess that's the IRC inside joke, huh? === I think I spent 5 minutes in my bed going, "wtffffffffff"

[Burke]

These "confessions" sure seem to have a common theme, Link...

[Linkzelda]

I'm not creating them, if that's what you're implying.

[snoop]

I am addicted to experience, I crave it and cannot get enough of it. I continually have to remind myself everyday why I choose to keep living and making the decisions I do. I don't feel remorse but I do feel pain, sacrifice, and intensity. Even if I hate life, I love living, and I'll keep fucking fighting until I can't breathe anymore.

[Linkzelda]

Hard core existentialism. WHOOP WHOOP