Thread: met someone in a dream before you met them in RL?

This is very interesting, though it has never happened to me. Sure, I've met people and thought, "I know them from somewhere..like a dream." Sounds super-corny, but actually happens often. Not only limited to dreams, but events, places, etc.

Originally Posted by Akono

it's never happened to me, but recently, I had a dream where was dating a girl, and I told her that we were only friends in my dimension...but the thing is, I don't even know her in real life. I knew i didn't belong there, and supposedly I know this girl, but i don't, and I wasn't lucid.

I was wondering has anyone met someone in a dream before they've actually met them in real life?

Yes, at least three times, off the top of my head.

1.) I had a dream about a woman I'd never seen before, who was standing outside my screen as I answered the door. I saw her long enough to note her hairstyle and the pattern and colors of her top. She said something like, "I don't like her." and I worried that this would be someone I wouldn't like or vice versa. I said as waking, "I don't know who that is!" My inner guide said, "You will!"

A few days later, a woman I knew slightly on an email writing workshop, and who lives in Rhode Island (I'm in Connecticut), but whom I'd never met IRL, emailed me and invited me to a Christmas party for all her writer friends. I happily agreed to go, and said, hey, why don't you come on over for coffee and dessert before that. So she agreed to come, and this was a week or two after my dream. I heard the doorbell, opened the door, and not only was it the woman from my dream, but she was wearing her hair the same way and wearing the same top. During her visit, we got to discussing someone else on the list whom we both didn't like very much.

2.) During the time after my divorce, I had this picture in my mind of what my ex's second wife must look like, based on her son's appearance, but I'd start out a dream with this picture of her in my mind, and it would keep changing to someone who looked totally different, someone I described in one dream as looking "like a housewife." My ex had made a big deal about her supposedly being a "career woman." Then in one dream, I saw her very clearly, hairstyle, facial features, clothing, and she did look more like a housewife, for sure. About a year after the divorce, I finally met her, and she was as the corrected person in the dream. I assume her son takes after his father.

3.) This one was just hearing and seeing printed the name "Andrea" pronounced in the Spanish way, like Ahn-dray-ah. I didn't know anyone named Andrea, and would normally prounounce it in the English fashion, Ann-dree-ah if I read it. A couple of months later, I got a job as a library assistant, and my favorite co-worker was... tada! Andrea! We had so much in common it was spooky, we'd do things like make the exact same thing for the library bazaar or Christmas cookie swap, and finally realized we had to compare notes so we'd do different things. We'd show up at work wearing very similar clothes, despite her being a lot younger. She bought a lot of her clothes at thrift stores though, so that explained some of it. But it was funny, we'd come in both wearing a black skirt and red sweater or both wearing a blue dress, or something. Very odd! She then moved into an old farmhouse that I love as the caretaker... it's owned by the historical society. And I used to think that job might be a neat one to have long before I met her.

So yes, I have met someone in a dream before meeting them IRL.

Of course, I haven't met most of the people in my dreams IRL either though. But maybe it's a matter, as my guide often says about a lot of things, that I haven't met them YET.

I have had this before... but only once...

I have had this dream every so often for about 3ish years now...

I have this dream I am with this guy with short, dark, messy hair. He's wearing a Fox Racing hat, and he bmx's. Him and I are going out together and then one day he just disappears... I walk around where it is that i am upset and sad...then I see him bmxing in a setting almost like a downtown setting. I am trying to run and talk to him but its as if he can't hear me. Then He turns a corner and i go to turn it as well and he stops me and say Hello! Then everything is back to normal.

Now... I have this friend... Who i have always felt connected too and we've only been talking for about 2 years...I didn't realize it until i had seen a certain picture of him.. that HE was the guy from my dream. Everything I described to him he said he had. Like the fox racing hat....he has dark short messy hair, and loves to bmx... and i have always always felt something between us... just never realized it until i thought of this.

Seeing the future is something some of us have experienced... Usually I'm awake for them..

Originally Posted by bubbabvi

It is very strange, but a couple months ago i had a dream that this girl and i, were living in the islands. I work at a grocier store, and the next day i saw her and i could not take my eyes off of her. I wanted to say something, but i couldnt get the words out. At first i was stunned that this had actually happend to me. Well a couple weeks after that, i saw her at the store, and she had gotten a job there. after i clocked in i didnt see her, so i was a little sad, but then one of the managers told me to go stock this one shelf, normally im a bagger, so i go and start to stock, and she is right across from me stocking! i dont know what this means, but today was the 3rd time i saw her, she is a cashier, and i bagged for her for 3 hours, we didnt talk that much, but im hoping to get to know her, there is just something inside me that when i first saw her it was like love at first sight, i dont know how to explain it.

Run to her.
(haha, say that in your head in a really overly dramatic way)

No but really, if you haven't yet I think you might want talk to her.

I hardly dream and when I do, I do not most of the time remember what I dreamed about. Just that I know I had a dream.

In one of the dreams, I didn't see any face in the dream which I had few years before I met these two girls.

Someone said in my dreams that "These are the two girls. One is from this religion and the other is from hilly area. Whom would you like to marry." As I heard this, I woke up and thought what was that and said to myself, I wouldn't let the first one come in my life.

Then after about an year or so I met one girl in some office. Since I had to wait for the person I went to meet, I had a long general talk with this girl working in the reception. I was so impressed with her and liked her alot. I called her in couple of days to be friends with her and she accepted my proposal. She called me after two days to ask me if I could go with her to some place where she had some work. It was more like a date and that is when I came to know about her and I was shocked. How could that dream come true and how this could happen even when I said I would not let that girl come in my life. We were deeply in love with each other but couldnt get married due to restriction from her family side.

When the first one was out of my life, I met the second girl whom I fell in love with and got married to her.

In my life, like everyone else, I dated many girls but these were the 2 girls I really fell in love with.

I am looking for the answer to this dream I had. Was I given a choice by some unknown power to select the girl and if I had said YES for the first girl, I would have got married to her?

Originally Posted by StarfilledEyes

I have had this before... but only once...

I have had this dream every so often for about 3ish years now...

I have this dream I am with this guy with short, dark, messy hair. He's wearing a Fox Racing hat, and he bmx's. Him and I are going out together and then one day he just disappears... I walk around where it is that i am upset and sad...then I see him bmxing in a setting almost like a downtown setting. I am trying to run and talk to him but its as if he can't hear me. Then He turns a corner and i go to turn it as well and he stops me and say Hello! Then everything is back to normal.

Now... I have this friend... Who i have always felt connected too and we've only been talking for about 2 years...I didn't realize it until i had seen a certain picture of him.. that HE was the guy from my dream. Everything I described to him he said he had. Like the fox racing hat....he has dark short messy hair, and loves to bmx... and i have always always felt something between us... just never realized it until i thought of this.

Wow! So now what are you going to do?

Akono sounds like your soul lover/twin flame. have you read that thread? does any of it hit home for you?

Yes, this has happened to me but only once.

When I was 11 years old I had a vivid dream about myself as an adult. I was on vacation with a man who I knew to be my husband. We were on a tropical island that had a volcano. We were standing in line at a store and speaking to the cashier who I remember to be a young woman a little shorter then I. We are discussing a transaction of which we were upset about but then come to a smiling resolution. I remember all the physical features of the man especially height and body shape, and the feeling I had while standing next to him.

Last year I met this man. It took me over seven months to realize it was him, happened around the same time I decided I could love him. After this I remembered another dream I had about him when I was around 22 years old. In this second dream I was meeting his friend who I remember the face, hair and height of quit clearly. We are standing on the side of the road near the ocean and it is morning. Fog surrounds us and the friend tells me he 'has heard so much about me and is glad to finally meet'.

The actions of my dreams never came true so in knowing that I wonder if they will still. This person is someone I no longer keep in contact with so sometimes I see our encounter as having happened too soon. Nonetheless, it was strange and intense to know him – a waking dream not yet had. Is something I never imagined would happen. Had I not known this to be true I may be a skeptic but now my instincts has me believing in powers beyond our control more then ever before.

Originally Posted by herReverie

Yes, this has happened to me but only once.

When I was 11 years old I had a vivid dream about myself as an adult. I was on vacation with a man who I knew to be my husband. We were on a tropical island that had a volcano. We were standing in line at a store and speaking to the cashier who I remember to be a young woman a little shorter then I. We are discussing a transaction of which we were upset about but then come to a smiling resolution. I remember all the physical features of the man especially height and body shape, and the feeling I had while standing next to him.

Last year I met this man. It took me over seven months to realize it was him, happened around the same time I decided I could love him. After this I remembered another dream I had about him when I was around 22 years old. In this second dream I was meeting his friend who I remember the face, hair and height of quit clearly. We are standing on the side of the road near the ocean and it is morning. Fog surrounds us and the friend tells me he 'has heard so much about me and is glad to finally meet'.

The actions of my dreams never came true so in knowing that I wonder if they will still. This person is someone I no longer keep in contact with so sometimes I see our encounter as having happened too soon. Nonetheless, it was strange and intense to know him – a waking dream not yet had. Is something I never imagined would happen. Had I not known this to be true I may be a skeptic but now my instincts has me believing in powers beyond our control more then ever before.

Interesting. I've had similar experiences too. I met a woman that was a lot like waking life version of my dream lover Asuka... This woman even remembered some of the dreams that Asuka was in... Nothing amounted out of it I'm sad to say. Though I've had other dreams indicating there is another "Twinner," of Asuka Out there that I'm supposed to meet... and it's more likely My "dream will come true," with her... some people will call BS on this... but If I pull it off, then that's truly something.

Originally Posted by Majestic

I think shared dreaming may be possible, but both dreamers won't necessarily see the same things. But if what that guy says in that video has truth in it, and the dreamscape is really an ocean of dreamers thoughts, then that means certain thoughts attract to other thoughts. Law of attraction, here in waking life and in dreams. Maybe the dreamscape IS the astral realm?? As unbelievable as it sounds, it makes a lot of sense.

These are some interesting links you might like.

YouTube - DreamScape

Reece Jones, of course! I had seen that YouTube video before but I guess I didn't fully take in the last bit at the end (maybe the last fifth). Thinking on my dreams, it makes a whole lot of sense.

An example of the above, is a common dream sequence for me. I'll be kicking around, relaxing in a nice place, like a cottage or second home for me. The place feels familiar, like it's mine. Suddenly, out of the blue, two or three others drop into the scene. They seem just as comfortable in the place as I am (like they live there). But they don't seem alarmed to see me there, usually barely acknowledge my presence.

I had dream about this girl I know. In the dream she lived in a town where everyone rode horses with her gramma and her mom. I told her about the next day and it turns out she did used to live in a town like that where her gramma lives by the border of mexico I think. She got kicked by a horse and had to have skrews put in her knee.
Also the first time I saw her I got this crazy feeling. It was the first day of summer school and I ended up sitting next to her about a week later.

I have pre-cognitive memories from dreams all the time. Even dreams i have had long ago have sprung into reality. Unfortunately over time i have learned to distrust these dreams. The reason being: I have dreams that later come true, then i have other dreams that seem like they could become true as well but do not. So the question becomes, which dreams should we accept?
If one agrees that the world is made of infinite possibilities and that our brain is essentially the transmitter of all those possibilities; then, it seems rational to think when one sleeps they would have more power to transmit rather than during daytime hours. So what i think is that the brain taps into this realm of infinite possibilities during REM sleep and pretty much anything can pop out including future reality.
I think everything is a test. If thats true we should ask what this could teach us. I believe it teaches any person to live in the moment by not getting caught on fantasies of the future.
It reminds me of the first harry potter movie, the only one ive watches so far where dumbledore says to harry "It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live". ]
Every dream usually has meaning but pre-cog dreams arent all that special simply because life goes on. Then again you could win the lottery.

Originally Posted by Auron

it's never happened to me, but recently, I had a dream where was dating a girl, and I told her that we were only friends in my dimension...but the thing is, I don't even know her in real life. I knew i didn't belong there, and supposedly I know this girl, but i don't, and I wasn't lucid.

I was wondering has anyone met someone in a dream before they've actually met them in real life?

I have met some body in a Dream that i met in real life 2 weeks later.
This has freaked me out for many years.
If you want to know more about this then please visit my blog at storiesofourdreams dot blogspot dot com. to find out more.

Originally Posted by Auron

I was wondering has anyone met someone in a dream before they've actually met them in real life?

Yes, off hand I can think of three occasions. In all three cases, there was something that the other person wanted from me, not necessarily in my best interest, that was advanced by my having dreamed of them prior to meeting. I speculate that their desire there is necessary (but not sufficient) to produce the dream.

I also speculate that there are other worlds similar to ours, with people in them similar to us. From some higher standpoint, we're related to those other people, some more closely than others. I don't think its accurate to say there's a 'me' in more than one world, its more like I'm a branch on a larger tree.

The reason I identify these 'having met someone I dreamed' experiences as 'real', rather than a coincidence involving people with similar characteristics, is there were very specific details about the setting of meeting, the room and what other people were present. Actually in two of the three cases there were multiple people involved that I 'met' in the dream, not just one. But the details about the people themselves weren't specific in a picture-like way. It was how the people felt that matched, and their race, something of their personality, and destiny in relation to myself. Similarly, the place of meeting didn't look exactly the same, but it felt the same, with about the same dimensions and major features, like maybe the sense of a place that a blind man would get from the echos.

This just happened to me last night and weirded me out. I had a few dreams about this very pretty blonde girl, and in the last dream I had with her (the other night) she was sitting on my lap in a bar and told me her name was "Aiwasa" or something like that (which is weird enough by itself, if you've ever heard of Aiwass.) Also the only time I've ever remembered a name from a dream. Anyway last night I was out at a bar with some friends and some random girl that one of my friends knew came over and introduced herself to the ones of us who didn't know her and we all chatted a little. Later on she came by and sat on my lap and talked to me for a few minutes. She matched the description of the dream girl exactly (I went into more detail in my personal journal than just saying "she was pretty" :p) Too bad her name wasn't something weird, haha. Coincidence? Maybe... I didn't even think about the dream until after I had left the bar and went home.

But on another slightly odd note, the girl I met last night shares the same name with the main female character in a book I was trying to write several months ago, who is based on a (different) recurring dream character. In the dreams this character hasn't told me her name but I made one up for the book.

It means you two were destine to be together...at least that's what i believe

If you're talking to me, well I thought of that. I eventually sent her a message on Facebook when my friend pointed me at her profile. She never responded. Oh well, probably didn't remember me.

I met a girl who gave me a really weird name in a dream...then one day I met a girl who had the same name as her last name. We're good friends now. I think maybe I did meet her before I met her.

This happened to me once but overall the whole thing ended up being tragically disappointing cause when you see a girl in a dream before you even meet her, it sort of ruins your chances at playing it cool.

I met a boy in a dream about 5 years ago, by the name of Dominiq. He became a recurring character in my dreams, occasionally popping up under different shapes and such, though aging along with me, and there's part of me that's hoping he's a real, waking life person.

If he is, I REALLY want to find him!

Also, you'll understand my giggle when I went to see "Inception" and learned the main character is called "Dom" XD

Over the last few years until recently my dreams featured a certain female DC in many of the dreams, eventually I met someone who looked like her and the dreams stopped. Then we got on really well, then she decided to just ignore my existence without saying why. But still, it was an interesting experience. A lot of people would just disprove my claim by saying I saw her in real life and that influenced the dreams, but I hadn't.

I'm hoping this will happen to me at some point, but I'm not holding my breath. I have a re-occurring dream character, a girl with straight black hair, I don't know if she's real or not, but I always remember her vividly whenever I dream about her.