Thread: i had a lucid dream where i raped a girl. is this bad?

Depends on what people think of dreams.

If people think that dreams are not real, then it is as though you have not done that action, but if some think that you might be in a different universe or dimension, or that shared dreaming is involved then the action might be real and so it might have to be resolved by perhaps not doing that action.

Some people also believe (like myself, within reason), that dreams are half real, in that they represent something else - usually something largely unrelated. I'm not going to try and analyse your dream, as I have neither the expertise nor the authority, but you may want to ask yourself what it could have meant? To be honest, the usual belief in dream meanings is that the dream represents something hard to deal with your conscious/waking mind, by showing you something less traumatic - but I suppose that doesn't really work in this case!

So long as no harm has, or will, be done - as you clearly have respectable morals - I wouldn't worry about it.

I'd say, since you KNEW it was a dream, and not real life, and you know the difference between right and wrong in REAL life, then it's not technically 'bad'. Though I might not be too public about admitting those dreams, just to keep your butt covered

It depends on you, your own morals, and what others have said. The simple fact that you're feeling bad after doing it simply means that you don't believe it was the right thing to do, regardless of how you try to rationalize it. I personally would feel terrible after doing something like that as well, because even though I know it's not "real", I'm not comfortable with seeing someone screaming for me to "stop"; the fact that I'm ignoring pleas when I'm in full control would make me feel like a bad person. I don't care if they're real or not.

did you ever assume that is what she thought about you at one point even though she never alluded to such?

I wouldn't worry about it. I'm the least violent person you will ever meet but in my dreams I like to fight people and sometimes even kill. It doesn't mean I would ever do this in real life but because I'm not violent and I have little outlet for anger in life I use my dreams for that. It's like video games. I can run around shooting everything that moves but I'd never ever think about shooting something in real life. It's just a release of stress and emotion. I have woken up a few times feeling uneasy at what I've done but ultimately no one was harmed so really it's ok.

I have worried a bit about similar things. In a few recent lucid dreams I have done things that were a bit out of kilter with my standards of morality, and immediately regretted it upon waking up. It seems that our ability to make decisions is skewed in dreams somehow, even in lucid dreams. Or maybe it's just that there are various levels of lucidity and in a lower level of lucidity we know we are dreaming but we can't act as rationally as in real life.

Of course, we all have a dark side to our nature. Generally we are able to control this while awake, but under the influence of drugs or alcohol people occasionally do things they would never consciously think about doing or even think they were capable of doing. I wonder if it can be a similar effect in a lucid dream. Or if it's like the old saying "absolute power corrupts absolutely". Omnipotence itself can be like a drug at times.

Like everybody else has said, it doesn't make you a bad person.

Unlike everybody, I'd TOTALLY do that in a lucid dream. Probably not all the time, but sometimes you feel good to go wild in a lucid dream.

Personally I think it is good to be consistant in your morality whether asleep or awake for the sake of integrity... Im working on that. But I too have done the same as you. It IS a dream and it is tempting. But remember, "with great power comes great responsibility".

Originally Posted by michael98

I would NEVER even think of doing this in real life.

That's all you need to know
It's perfectly fine. As long as you don't hurt anyone, nothing is "wrong".

Well i wouldn't say it's bad. The official Dreamviews lucid sex tutorial say's to find a target and do the deed.. and that she won't 'usually put up a fight'

It isn't real life, so your fine

Well, I wouldn't exactly say that just because it is a dream that there is no longer any morality. I would be uncomfortable if someone spent every night pretending that he was Jack the Ripper, and enjoying the experience of mutilating defenseless women for example. If you enjoy the suffering of others, it still lacks morality in my opinion whether it is a dream or not. I believe that morality is dependant upon our motivations more than on what is actually done. If you rape a girl with the thought that "nobody is actually suffering here, it is all in my head" it isn't quite the same as thinking "I want to see what it's like to rape someone". It still begs the question of sexual morality of course, but in a different way.

And I don't necessarily agree that just because something is done in a dream that no harm is done. In my opinion, we can harm ourselves psychologically and emotionally by things we do in a dream, just as we could in waking life by having violent fantasies all the time.

I have many thoughts on the subject, which is a section of philosophy that is not very well explored and I think could use some discussion.

Someone suggested that feeling bad is evidence you did something wrong. She assumed you were in full control, when you plainly indicated that you weren't. Besides, how we feel is sometimes based on delusional thoughts… on our beliefs about what reality should be like (as opposed to what it actually is, aside from our beliefs). Feelings are never trustworthy guides to what's real.

For example, maybe you feel bad because you think this DC is somehow a "real person". The DC's not a real person, and neither were you in the dream. You did differently in the dream than you would IRL, and that's the proof it wasn't "you". Funny how quickly we attribute personhood to fragmentary beings.

The DC screamed… Well, the DC would have done anything according to your expectations. With different expectations she might have smiled and dropped her panties on the spot and jumped on you. Either way, she's a program playing out what she must, according to the dreamer's expectations - like everything in a dream (including "you" to some extent).

In this dream the dreamer wanted sex and his inhibitory function wasn't in full swing (it being a dream and all…), so he did what he desired. Getting morally uptight about it would be like criticizing a bear for shitting in the woods.

So IMV nothing "bad" happened here. Actually it's a marvelous opportunity for examining your beliefs. To me, to watch dreams or try to be lucid in dreams is nothing but thrill-seeking, and wasted time, if it doesn't challenge your beliefs.

Personally I'd seek to make my personal ethics and behavior consistent in lucid dreams. (Though it'd be a stupid expectation in non-lucid dreams, since those are fully automated and there's no ego there to make moral choices). DC's are almost certainly automata. But being "more ethical" is good practice at increasing the lucidity, one's mental presence, both in dreams and awake.

Yes it was wrong, nowhere near as wrong as real life, but, you essentially just raped an aspect of your own mind.....

Well, if dreams are just in our heads, in our personal playground, then I would say no harm done. But I can't really buy the idea, that we are provided with this ability of lucid dreaming for a purpose of doing bad deeds.

And what if dreams are not just in our head. What if DCs we meet are another dreamers, lucid or not. Can we really say "no harm done"?

No one ever screams and begs to me... it'd probably be more interesting than turning into a mannequin and taking it like they usually do.

But it would also make me feel awkward about it

haha mannequin?

Mine sometimes turn into not-really-that-mean demons, or they shrink into midgets

I HATE that

Not literally. I mean they just like... go blank. Like the body's still there but the personality is gone

What I wanna know is, you said there were no girls around, but then you went to your neighbours and found her at the pool..Why did you take the rape approach from there?

Its a dream! If you like it then it's not bad! Though you should keep these things yourself. I even have to add a chainlock to my dream journal because its full of... Odd types of... Yeah its secret!

what do you mean by "take the rape approach from there"?

Originally Posted by elucid

Depends on what people think of dreams.

If people think that dreams are not real, then it is as though you have not done that action, but if some think that you might be in a different universe or dimension, or that shared dreaming is involved then the action might be real and so it might have to be resolved by perhaps not doing that action.

Perhaps, of course!

You had a twisted thought play out in one of your dreams, it's no big deal. As long as you know it is wrong and won't do it. Try not to dwell on it too much, messed up dreams happen some times. The next time you want to have sex with a lady in your dreams clap your hands or something, with lucidity you can make it rain beautiful babes.

Because I believe in Shared Dreaming, I think that's bad...What if she was a Dreamer, not a DC?