Thread: Is it possible that one just can't DILD?

First, welcome to DV This is a long post and I think I've been concise but there is just a lot of stuff here.

Yeah I definitely think it is possible that for some people, DILDs or any kind of satisfactory lucid dreaming or dream recall is not going to happen. And if I didn't think that before, after reading your post, I should believe that it's possible. I've spent some time in DV chat and talked to some people who are the opposite of you regarding dreams. 1 Woman said she had extremely vivid lucid dreams where she often cannot even tell whether she is dreaming or not (but she is aware and actually wondering whether she is dreaming or not!), she said she would often call people and talk to people to find out whether she was dreaming. I don't remember how long these dreams are, but anything from an hour to 3-4 hours a night. The dreams have consistent maps/locations and physics works and electronic devices usually work. So if you can have such superior LD-time, I think you can also be super unfortunate and have almost no ability. And there are many people like this, though less extreme, people who have great elaborate plots, people who have very vivid, long, beautiful dreams regularly.

This may sound pretty annoying, but did you try prospective memory training? I read great things about it, though I didn't do it because I'm lazy. And just out of curiosity, how often do you get lucid? Never? How many lucid dreams did you have in total, approximately? And you say you recall dreams only once in a while now, could you maybe try the following? When you wake up, try to meditate (lying or sitting doesn't matter) and don't explicitly try to remember a dream, but just try to be mindful of your breath or your body or whatever, just do some simple awareness practice, and the dream will come to you. This (and wbtb) is my best way of recalling dreams, and writing them down obviously.

You have my sympathy and my admiration for still not giving up. Maybe you don't care and just want to get lucid, but I think you should be proud of your perseverance and I'm not just saying this because I feel bad for you not getting good results. Oh and you can maybe try supplements.

To the optimists in this thread, GET REAL. Some people maybe just can't get lucid? It sucks but maybe affinity for lucid dreaming and dream recall is another one of those things that is not distributed equally, like health, IQ, an attractive face, genes for athleticism, being born in poverty, to shitty parents, in a shitty society or being born in a nice place, just plain being lucky for not getting into a terrible accident or catching a nasty disease. You see clear evidence of his failure despite his great attempts and pretend that it doesn't matter and that he just needs to do a better job, it is dishonest.