Metaphysically Speaking: False Twin Flames

To briefly summarize soul mate and twin flame theory (which I always read with a grain of salt but imaginatively delve into once in a while)

A soul mate is someone you have shared past lives with. The roles can switch every now and then. There is always a deep rapport with this person or people.

A twin flame (as the theory goes as dictated by spirits from channeling, which is usually quite unreliable at best.) is one half of your soul. When your soul came from "The Source" it split in two. The soul develops as a separate soul through many lifetimes. Twin flame souls aren't fully united on earth until they have both reached a lifetime where their soul is developed enough that it is time to move on from this plane. They unite here for a purpose as lovers, their love is supposed to be inspiring or something.

However. Now there is a theory that a false twin soul exists. This could just really be an energy vampire. or it could really be your twin soul, just that they aren't as spiritually developed as you.

Have you ever met your false twin flame? Here is a checklist (quoted right from the half assed blog I posted.)

*you obsess/daydream about them
*overpowering sexual energy exchange
*feel anxious or nervous talking to them on phone, by email, or in person
*they come into your dreams often (usually comes with messages to pay attention to)
*they create distance between you by never being fully available or responsible for actions
*controlling and manipulation tactics
*won't open up but will draw information out of you
*they get angry when you pull away or have a sense of your own power
*they tend to disappear or show no real excitement when you achieve success
*intense jealousy and or will try to make you jealous by talking of other relationships they've had
*confusion. unable to make clear choices or decisions all of the sudden
*unexplained series of bad luck
*other areas of your life not flowing as well as before they came into your life
*feeling disoriented, emotionally drained, tired, or worried for no reason when you are in their company or think of them
*they will cuddle you to sleep then distance themselves. this is when the feeding occurs. a true twin does not require this physical closeness as the only way to connect
*they cannot look you in the eyes for extended time or will give a look of suspicion
*they manipulate your time by being late, cancelling plans at last moment, saying they will call and don't, etc., this is done to get your reaction! your energy...
*they blame you for your their behavior or bring up something in the past you may have done to use as leverage
*they rarely apologize or give clear definite responses to your questions and concerns
*they will show up again the moment you let them go
Now last year I briefly dated a girl, who i am convinced is this false twin. How did I come to this conclusion? Well not having a rational explanation as to why she left, why i felt for her even though I knew she was bad news, why after such a long time of no contact, ad infinitum. I eventually sought a completely irrational explanation, which actually describes the situation pretty well. I actually feel quite healed by finding this information out.

*you obsess/daydream about them check. if you call every day for almost a year thinking about them compulsively.

overpowering sexual energy exchange - whil;e we never got physical, I did have a few crazy sex dreams about her which were very vivid and intense.

feel anxious or nervous talking to them on phone, by email, or in person - check.


they come into your dreams often (usually comes with messages to pay attention to) - check, not only did she come into my dreams often, they actually reflected her actions quite often with a precog quality.

they create distance between you by never being fully available or responsible for actions - check. She would quite often play hot and cold. whenever i wouldn't play her game she would ask me what my problem was...

controlling and manipulation tactics - yes. she would say things like "I'll miss you.... but everyone becomes attatched to me." or "I'll really be your friend.... until I have to leave haha" not to mention the times where if I would call her on her crap, she'd flip out and try to reframe it as my problem.

unexplained series of bad luck
*other areas of your life not flowing as well as before they came into your life - check and check. She moved away the exact same day I had to move out from my basement. I moved in with my dad and he was very psychologically abusive, I got involved in really bad drug trips (Also she had taken a very dangerous dose of drugs after she moved in which she lost her purse and wallet. bad luck for her too!). when I moved out my roommates ripped off all of my stuff, then she moved back to town. and when I moved again closer to her vicinity she moved away AGAIN. like her moves mirrored my actions perfectly.

*feeling disoriented, emotionally drained, tired, or worried for no reason when you are in their company or think of them - yes... even when I hung out with her I begged for my obsession to be removed. and when she moved away these feelings rapidly intensified and a year later I am just now getting rid of all that energy.


*they will cuddle you to sleep then distance themselves. this is when the feeding occurs. a true twin does not require this physical closeness as the only way to connect - again I never really got physically close to her but I would often have dreams where I'd wake up to find her cuddling me, and when she noticed I had woken up she would quickly leave the room.

*they cannot look you in the eyes for extended time or will give a look of suspicion - check.

*they manipulate your time by being late, cancelling plans at last moment, saying they will call and don't, etc., this is done to get your reaction! your energy...
*they blame you for your their behavior or bring up something in the past you may have done to use as leverage - check and check. I recall a time she wanted to do LSD with me. we had planned for the whole day. She cancelled at 1 am LOL. so i went to work the next day instead to earn overtime pay. She never showed up at work AND when I checked my phone after work she had spammed me with messages saying she had changed her mind. she made promises to call after I had that abusive episode with my father, but turned me down to watch a movie with her friend instead. and when I confronted her on it, she again tried to reframe it as my problem and that she didn't deserve to be called a liar.


*they rarely apologize or give clear definite responses to your questions and concerns
*they will show up again the moment you let them go * check and check. she did apologize a handful of times, but always flipped it around later as my problem. Also half assed explanations of things was her middle name.