Thread: Would you change yourself for your partner?

I would change myself for a partner because who you're with is just a reflection of how you felt at the time. Fear of changing could also be that one isn't really sure of what they really want out of not only the person they're with, but themselves. I think of it as just seeing the other person as a mirror to be a building tool to become more accepting of yourself (be it sexuality, religious beliefs, etc.), and that you reach the point where you're secured of those desires to where experimenting with a few demeanors and mindsets is solely just experimenting and learning.

Another thing that might hold someone back from changing is how their partner views on being respected. If one person likes to be treated in a way they know they're comfortable with that still makes the other partner question on "I'm not supposed to do this because I'm this kind of person" reason, it's usually just that same person feeling they'll be a bad person because their preset that this way or that way is how respect should be applied to everyone. Though obviously being aware of a person's wants, even if it makes you cringe a little, but is still rational enough to think over, and you satisfying them without deviating from your own wants is genuine respect.

In short, shifting towards roles to accept a person's desires (they're just roles you take part of), while still being secure on your own, changing yourself shouldn't feel like a detriment for the sake of sustaining a relationship.