As others have mentioned lucid dreaming and trying to control the dream, or reproduce waking life behaviour, are not the same thing. In addition, there is a strong argument to be made that the dreams are losing in meaning by the confusion caused by the lack of awareness of ordinary dreaming. Think of dreams that you have wasted hours trying to arrange your luggage or something of the like; being frustrated cause thinks are not where they are supposed to be. This is not a more enriching experience, it is a profound lack of awareness of your real state and the fluidity of the dream world.

Having said that, I do agree that trying to exert too much control over the dream, especially bringing in shallow desires, does disconnect you from your natural subconscious dream; but then again most of the times people are not lucid dreaming and most importantly your subconscious will probably surprise you anyway