Thread: Rant and Rave, Cry and Complain

hehe, Athylus. I honestly don't think porn is his problem. In any case, Imma gonna die a nun

Hathor, I've had this pain off and on since I was a teen. It's nothing serious- just a curiosity. It usually disappears just as quickly as it shows up. I did a lot of googling and the most likely thing is a bladder spasm.
I think it's the buttercreme I like so much. I also googled recipees lol and the buttercreme is made with Shortening whereas the Whippy stuff isn't. Hubby said Lard, so shortening is probably what he really meant

Originally Posted by Athylus

*good guy athylus* >: )

Edit: I figured out what turns women on when you don't know each other well yet, you need them to invest more into you than you do into them. Boldly said, it's not that simple of course.

Yes it's true for both genders....when the meeting is still fresh...you get a rush feeling. Like after coffee HAHAHA!

Huh... sounds like I need to see my doctor after all. (But then again, what could she do?) When I lay down and actually push on my stomach, the discomfort is right above my pelvic bone. I did some more googling and learned about something called interstitial cystitis.
I read some experiences and Wow!- very eye opening. If I have something like that, it would be extraordinarily mild. I can remember crying when I was 11 or 12 years old because I could only finish peeing when standing up. I had a bladder infection around that time. Even after the infection went away, I've always struggled with completely emptying my bladder. To this day I sometimes still have to stand up (which is very hard for a girl to do and not make a mess of things lol). When I get this pinched sensation, the problem with emptying is worse than other times.
Most curious indeed.

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

I think the theme is actually that we aren't having sex, haha. I'm at least certainly not in any physical way, hence the unfortunate "other" needs.... My companion and I just get a similar form of gratification from tripping. I prefer orgasmic sensations induced by psychedelics and nitrous oxide to any physical stimulation.

Fortunately, my wife and I are in a resurgence, but I will be sure not to brag too much

Originally Posted by Athylus

Hey Zhay, I hope this is not too personal (LOL) but you mentioned your hubby has ED? You know that can be caused by watching too much porn and whacking it off? Look I'm just saying that maybe this might be the case, and it's not his medicine. I just want you to be able to have sex again.

*good guy athylus* >: )

Edit: I figured out what turns women on when you don't know each other well yet, you need them to invest more into you than you do into them. Boldly said, it's not that simple of course.

No it doesn't. In fact, it's the inverse: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...sfunction-myth

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12667723

This is just more of that nonsensical r/NoFap propaganda.

I haven't looked at the links, but I know (for some women anyhow) that frequent masterbation- especially when a vibrator is used- can make it exceptionally difficult if not outright impossible for a woman to orgasm through regular intercourse.

Originally Posted by Zhaylin

I haven't looked at the links, but I know (for some women anyhow) that frequent masterbation- especially when a vibrator is used- can make it exceptionally difficult if not outright impossible for a woman to orgasm through regular intercourse.

LMAO! This made me laugh...good thing i never had one haha!

That's for the best, Hathor. I had to learn the hard way

I have a ripping headache. It's from stress. We finally found the new batch of kittens. They're just starting to walk around. And while all of them (4) are gorgeous, they have SEVERE eye infections. Do not read on if you have a weak stomach....

It looked like tumors covered their eyes. They have a first time mom, so she hasn't been doing a good job keeping them clean. When I went to wipe at the encrustations, puss oozed out. Ugh. This is the worst case I've ever seen!! Every kitten we've ever had get's eye infections. But we always had contact with them early on so we could keep up with cleaning the eyes. Not so for these little guys who must be 3 weeks old by now. The gunk was so glued on, I had to moisten it with baby oil. The runt has it the worst and I feared the ordeal was too stressful, so I've only done one eye so far. For being the runt, boy that little one fought me tooth and nail!

And now my dog is pouting because I brought the kittens and momma into my room. The cats aren't allowed in here, so Climber (momma) was freaked out. She finally did just lay down to feed them. The dog is whining outside the door.
In the meantime, my head is absolutely killing me. I've not had a headache this severe in a very long time..... DUmb dog just fell asleep and she's still whimpering. What a big baby

I'm glad I have the next three days off. This morning after work I stopped at my parents' place to use their garage and change my oil. But I noticed a bump/bubble in the side of one tire... so, the spare's on now. My cars in sad shape; duct tape on the back, broken passenger mirror, and now a bright yellow spare. Of course the bad tire is one I JUST replaced four months ago... figures it wouldn't happen on one of the two tires that I planned on replacing in August before the inspection. But at least I saw it and didn't have to deal with a potential blowout on the highway.

But the broken mirror and duct tape issues should get resolved in June, since I stopped at a dealership afterwards to schedule an appointment. Then I went to Best Buy to drop off an old TV for recycling, but they opened and 10am rather than 9am. So I just waited 25 minutes, and called to schedule an appointment to replace my tire. I could drop it off yet today, but I really don't feel like it. And all this time I was fairly hungry. So I stopped at the store just to pick up a few things for now, plus beer and a cookie. Beer and cookies is always a winning combination. I think I'll stay up until around 6-7pm, do my full grocery shopping tomorrow around 4am, and then take my car over to get a new tire as soon as the shop opens (7am, I believe).

Originally Posted by Zhaylin

I haven't looked at the links, but I know (for some women anyhow) that frequent masterbation- especially when a vibrator is used- can make it exceptionally difficult if not outright impossible for a woman to orgasm through regular intercourse.

That is largely through the vibration desensitizing you. Using manual methods wouldn't cause this at all. The links I posted were directly related to male ED and masturbation though. I mean I could go super personal, but it's literally never been a remote problem for me.

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

That makes sense.... Ugh I typed out a response to this the other day but it got deleted before I was done with post, and I'm typing this on my phone.... The point of what I said though was that the general dom/sub patterns that our genders are naturally inclined to trend toward (there are of course always exceptions) probably play a role as well. I know that kind of sounds like saying the same thing, but how I mean it is in that jerkiness could be misconstrued as caring by some ironic twist of nature. The reason I say that is because I don't think it would be too absurd to suggest that our animal brains probably evolved more to pick up on emotion than on language, and so a dominant attitude could of course be picked up from someone who is either a jerk or just confident because they're not nervous around you due to lack of interest. On the other hand, being too nice comes off as submissive. But it's important to remember that you can be both dominant and nice.... What I can say for sure is that the most attractive guys to me are the ones who are truly both considerate and a bit cocky. Of course, if that's not your thing then you're going to have to find a girl who wants a submissive guy, and they do exist, but if that's your case then it's not as surprising that you just don't connect with people as easily.... You're just playing against the most common natural inclination.

I think you pretty much nailed it. Listen to her OP.

It's so difficult to find that balance. I tried for ages to be the nice guy, women mostly saw me as submissive, or maybe more accurately, non-assertive and not confident.
Then I tried being confident and "alpha", but the girls who are truly interested in me just don't like those kind of guys. So I lost their interest.

I think what I, and probably you (OP) need to learn, is that you need confidence and independence, but don't lose the true empathy and compassion and love in the process.

And some people are just horrible people, some are as confused as you are, and some are true psychopaths, so don't take their feedback as anything important. Learn to recognise those people and ignore them.

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

I'm glad you see it that way too. Yes, join us. Somehow.... Probably my favorite part is the lack of emotional translating. Pretty much everything is just easily understood by default. :3

Hehe, I wish. See that's exactly how I am with women. It's the reason I pretty much solely have women friends. I have one guy friend and he's more open than most guys so it's ok.
I just have no interest in the emotional closed-ness that most guys seem to have. They talk about bullshit that isn't interesting to avoid talking about anything real.
Girls seem WAY more open to talking about feelings and life-perspectives and all that kind of stuff.

[QUOTE=Alyzarin;2103236]It means I like cock. But that's okay, because she does too. Lol, the female/female thing is just so much easier and more fun for me. I just have this pesky burning desire for male companionship that keeps bugging me. Honestly I care less and less the deeper into our psychedelic love soup I get though. Nothing could possibly compare to what I get from her.
Ohhhh, haha. That reminds me of some gay guy I was talking to recently who said he enjoys sex with men far more, but definitely prefers the companionship of a woman.

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

Neither, email. I got a smart phone but it epically failed to send you an international text, it kept adding "1-555-" in front of your number. You should tell me what that app is again though....

Oh, I didn't get it anyway. It's Wechat. Just search my mobile number or e-mail and you should find me. I'll actually be able to respond if you use that lol

Originally Posted by Anju

I'm so jealous of all you people who have sex.

Join the club. Then we can have sex.

Sex clubs are overrated. Most just have a bunch of single guys standing around watching. Wait, what?

Yeah, Tiresias, I went back and looked at your links after I posted. IMO, the guy in the first link sounded like a quack... especially when he made an offhand comment implying that vibrators aren't a problem. (Then again, my reading comprehension has suffered in my old age, so perhaps I misinterpreted what he said)

Glad you're able to fix your vehicle, Sefalik. Sounds like a major pain though! How'd it get so beat up lol. Do you live with crappy roads?

I feel like a major jerk, because there was actually a worse rant/rave last night but the immediate needs of the kittens overrode my memory.
Our neighbors attic caught fire last night as I was leaving to pick up my daughter. They were aware of it. Hubby, someone from the trailer park and the neighbor himself had all called for firemen. The neighbor wheeled his wife outside and was trying to put it out himself with a water hose (which hubby saw and then called for help). When I got back an hour later, the firemen were finishing up.
It was from a wire short in the attic (I don't think it's an actual attic. Looks more like a "crawlspace"
The rant is that it happened to begin with. They're a nice elderly couple.
The rave is that it happened when they were awake. It could have ended so differently and I'm glad they're safe.

It feels like another lazy day. I don't want to do crap lol

Taking care of the kittens have brought out my OCD. I'm forever washing my hands, arms and face with alcoholic hand wipes. I'm surprised they're as comfortable around people as they are. The black one is a sweetheart. She lies still while I clean her eyes and she loves attention/being pet. I think I'll call her Beauty (as in black beauty... yeah, lame lol). The white one isn't white at all. It's like a panda. His bottom is a very light cream, then he has a large stripe of white (all the way around), and then the rest of his body and head are cream again. He definitely has a siamese/part siamese father. His name is Feisty. ANother one is a very strange color of black mixed with brown. I named her Sable. Then there's the mostly white one with circles of brownish black. He doesn't have a name yet.

Time to eat...

Someone is asking for me.....i should act like how he did to me when i call his name every time and ask about something....ignore.
Remember that "best dad in the world" shirt i got back in 2010?...Ya think about that shirt....that's the last one you will ever have, because when i got it for him he didn't accept it FULLY...says alot about you eh....EX-husband?
You are so darn picky u didn't even wore the hat too. Maybe you should start buying yourself father's day stuff and accept it MORE BETTER than what i gave you.
Stop asking for me in facebook, there's nothing to talk about, and we talked about it already....if you want to say something, say it on your facebook wall...oh yes sorry you don't like saying your life on facebook you like to keep your mistakes a secret. And once i tell people about you they obviously won't believe me.
So enjoy facebook...while you talk with your fancy quotes and charms, let people be on your side because THAT'S MAJOR FAKENESS, you say your not fake? Wow, then what's up with the sudden turn around after 4 years? Don't tell me people change, that's a load of bull, a woman can't change a man before or AFTER marriage period! Marriage and kids don't change a man if you use them to change the man. Get with the program HONEY, you will never change!
Now don't ask for me on your facebook wall...you look f*cking stupid in front of your "would be" girlfriends and ex girlfriends. They know how you are and is laughing AT you. URGH! At least i'm gone from facebook forever...now cry about it!
RANT DONE!

Bah! My rant is that I've been staying up all night to see the meteor shower... but I've not seen anything yet There's little over 30 minutes left. I hope I see *something*

There was a meteor shower? I've been up all night and haven't looked at the window the entire time. The suns coming up now, so I guess I missed anything exciting.

As for my car: cars suck. I made the mistake of buying a "nice" car, so I feel obligated to keep it as such. But really, I look back and wish I just would have bought a cheap, ugly, beat-up Subaru wagon with all-wheel-drive. Something that runs good in the snow, but so ugly that I wouldn't feel bad about ramming shopping carts or driving through bushes. I'm really not one for having nice, clean, shiny things. Up-keeping a "nice" car is just a huge waste of money. Or maybe it's just cause I drive ~65 miles a day, I dunno. But I need to fix the duct-taped-part, because it's the piece that I use to open my trunk. And it doesn't work, so I can't open my trunk. I don't need to fix the mirror as it works fine, but all the wires are exposed and I figured I might as well take care of that since it'll be at the shop anyway.


On another note, I get a whole week off in July, as that's when the plant shuts down for maintenance. Not sure what I want to do yet. I didn't really do anything last year either. I guess it's nice to just do nothing sometimes, kinda like a taste of what retirement will be like. Only 40 more years to go!

Yeah, the meteor shower could have turned into a meteor storm with 200-1000 meteors an hour. Either it didn't happen, lol, or I was outside at the wrong times.

I feel about homes the way you feel about cars, so I get it. My homes is so beat up that if I want to change something, I can, without having to worry about ruining its worth.

My new rant is that I AM IN PAIN!!! The bladder spasms turned into a fever and then BAM- flank pain and what I call "constipated urination". I just spent a half hour bent over in the shower, letting the hot water massage my back. Now I need to look up whether or not pyridium (sp) goes bad and if you can have kidney pain without an infection.
My urine is clear and there still no pain (just difficulty). I've been drinking much more than usual AND a lot of water. I had been taking less caffeine, though this current pain hit soon after a pill (caffeine can trigger spasms).

How quickly I forget pain!! I used to have minor bladder/kidney problems all the time. But it's been years and years.
Also need to google... if my kidney is suffering, do I want to take a bunch of pain meds? Grrr...

**EDIT**
Wow... Out of desperation, I took one of my pyridiums. Amazingly, after 10 years or so, it still works wonderfully. And, once again, I laugh at my memory. I was sitting at my desk, playing a game and my sense of taste was driving me batty. Then I recalled that the med causes a horrific after taste lol. I would much rather deal with it than the pain. I am also on cloud 9, about to fall asleep. I had also forgotten it causes drowsiness I saw that side effect while I was looking up something else.
So great... now I either need to see a Doctor... and after the pyridium it willl be hard to get a proper diagnoses (I should look up the half life...) Or, I'll just ask hubby to prescribe me some antibiotics and a new script for pyridium.
For now, it's bed time........

Originally Posted by Zhaylin

Yeah, the meteor shower could have turned into a meteor storm with 200-1000 meteors an hour. Either it didn't happen, lol, or I was outside at the wrong times.

I feel about homes the way you feel about cars, so I get it. My homes is so beat up that if I want to change something, I can, without having to worry about ruining its worth.

My new rant is that I AM IN PAIN!!! The bladder spasms turned into a fever and then BAM- flank pain and what I call "constipated urination". I just spent a half hour bent over in the shower, letting the hot water massage my back. Now I need to look up whether or not pyridium (sp) goes bad and if you can have kidney pain without an infection.
My urine is clear and there still no pain (just difficulty). I've been drinking much more than usual AND a lot of water. I had been taking less caffeine, though this current pain hit soon after a pill (caffeine can trigger spasms).

How quickly I forget pain!! I used to have minor bladder/kidney problems all the time. But it's been years and years.
Also need to google... if my kidney is suffering, do I want to take a bunch of pain meds? Grrr...

**EDIT**
Wow... Out of desperation, I took one of my pyridiums. Amazingly, after 10 years or so, it still works wonderfully. And, once again, I laugh at my memory. I was sitting at my desk, playing a game and my sense of taste was driving me batty. Then I recalled that the med causes a horrific after taste lol. I would much rather deal with it than the pain. I am also on cloud 9, about to fall asleep. I had also forgotten it causes drowsiness I saw that side effect while I was looking up something else.
So great... now I either need to see a Doctor... and after the pyridium it willl be hard to get a proper diagnoses (I should look up the half life...) Or, I'll just ask hubby to prescribe me some antibiotics and a new script for pyridium.
For now, it's bed time........

Yeah...you need a doctor, don't sound good, could be a start of a kidney stone or something. My mom used to get many kidney stones, it doesn't look like anyone wants to go through it, she gets cold sweats and nausea....in the end the doctor said she takes too much calcium supplements and need to stop taking them...those were creating the stones.
She had to go to the hospital many times for IV and to pass the stone, and it does cause infection while you are going through it.

She fucking called me. Why? Why can't she just leave me alone. I know she doesn't know what she does to me, but fuck. I need to have a drink before I return her call, I need to relax now. I'm needlessly riled up and all bakrtghe now.

OP

Thankfully, at this point, neither antibiotics nor a trip to the doctor is needed (I still don't have a fever). I've been peeing what I used to call "kidney sand" (looks like dark tiny grains of dirt- yeah, I've had this before). I increased my calcium supplement a while back ago (from 1/2 a pill to an entire one). Maybe it's connected. Needless to say, no caffeine or calcium pills until this clears up!!!!
I slept for 5 hours and thankfully the nasty taste has subsided for the most part.

A rant is that the season of Hannibal is over. FRIGGIN AWESOME SHOW!!! The finale was intense and perfect.

**EDIT**
Ha! My hubby is awesome. I was telling him about my pain and I said I needed a new script. He said: "I thought we ordered some for you awhile back." I told him it was more like 10 years back.
He stepped away and looked in some drawers then came back to the phone and read the name of the drug off to me. He has an unopened bottle of the med I need. I asked him when it was filled and he said 2005.
And I thought I was a medication hoarder lol

Originally Posted by Original Poster

She fucking called me. Why? Why can't she just leave me alone. I know she doesn't know what she does to me, but fuck. I need to have a drink before I return her call, I need to relax now. I'm needlessly riled up and all bakrtghe now.

I think we have the same problem LOL! But in my case i don't return calls or give replies. If i do it will get worse, and i learned that very quickly that in my situation, it's no communication at all.

Originally Posted by Tiresias

Fortunately, my wife and I are in a resurgence, but I will be sure not to brag too much

Well, aren't you lucky. I really can't complain about my relationship honestly, just my... humanity lol.

Originally Posted by tommo

I think you pretty much nailed it. Listen to her OP.

It's so difficult to find that balance. I tried for ages to be the nice guy, women mostly saw me as submissive, or maybe more accurately, non-assertive and not confident.
Then I tried being confident and "alpha", but the girls who are truly interested in me just don't like those kind of guys. So I lost their interest.

I think what I, and probably you (OP) need to learn, is that you need confidence and independence, but don't lose the true empathy and compassion and love in the process.

And some people are just horrible people, some are as confused as you are, and some are true psychopaths, so don't take their feedback as anything important. Learn to recognise those people and ignore them.

I think part of it for me is that you need to have the kind of attitude that shows that you can make a joke out of your alpha-ness. If you're truly confident then you don't need feel the need to take it so seriously. That's why I like BDSM. The good doms are the ones who just like being assholes for the fun of not having to be nice like in everyday life. Likewise, if your personality shows in your everyday life that you're really just being a dick because you feel comfortable around someone enough to know that they know you're just letting loose, but that you can be nice if you really need to be, it definitely leaves an impression. It's just like a little rebellion against society, and rebels are sexy. I think that all makes sense, it does to me lol.

Originally Posted by tommo

Hehe, I wish. See that's exactly how I am with women. It's the reason I pretty much solely have women friends. I have one guy friend and he's more open than most guys so it's ok.
I just have no interest in the emotional closed-ness that most guys seem to have. They talk about bullshit that isn't interesting to avoid talking about anything real.
Girls seem WAY more open to talking about feelings and life-perspectives and all that kind of stuff.

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean.... I mean, I'm betting that guys have tended to open up to me more than they have to you, but the difference is still obvious. Not always, but a lot of the time when I'm talking to guys I feel like I'm really just trading information. When I talk to girls it's more often that we're talking about our lives, or getting into something therapeutic. I greatly prefer the latter any day.

Originally Posted by tommo

Ohhhh, haha. That reminds me of some gay guy I was talking to recently who said he enjoys sex with men far more, but definitely prefers the companionship of a woman.

I know a lot of gay guys like that, hehe. One of my best friends is gay actually, and I find it funny that he always complains about how all the other gay guys he meets are so fem when he just wants a manly man (quoting him: "What's the point of being gay when all the men act like women!?"), and yet as far as I can tell he hangs out with women much more often. X)

Originally Posted by Tiresias

Sex clubs are overrated. Most just have a bunch of single guys standing around watching. Wait, what?

I've noticed that too lol. Not incredibly surprising I suppose.

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GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!! I was coming home from dropping my daughter off at work and I heard a crack as a pickup truck drove by. I slowly realized my windshield was cracked but I kept driving. Then I turned around to see if I could spot the item launched but I couldn't even pinpoint the spot we connected. All I know is the item came out of a beat up red truck. Being me, I assumed something flew out of his bed but the angle's wrong. It was more than likely thrown.
What the heck is wrong with people?!

And now my hubby is mad at me.
There's 2 ways to get to Walmart. They're both around the same distance. He prefers I take the highway. I prefer to take a neighborhood road. An 18 wheeler almost ran a red light and smashed into me a few years back, so I no longer trust the interstate. I've never had a problem with the back road (which is actually just a tiny part of the drive- I take a Country road which he himself drives to work every day and then get off onto the back road).
I'm just mad that he won.
We had a sort of bet going on regarding which road was safer

The crack is a star burst at the bottom of the windshield near the inspection sticker. Then one line extends to the bottom center and up a little bit. But with increased police on the road, I'm certain the cops will pull us over. Now hubby's talking about taking his car which I loathe driving. The headlights are out of alignment and other drivers think you always have your brights on. What a way to start our trip!!!!

I only took the one pyridium and it knocked me on my butt. I thought it had butabarbital in it, but I see no proof of that. Only Pyridium Plus does which I'm not taking. I have no idea what it's made me so sleepy. I figured the butabarbital became more potent with age, but I can erase that theory. I also still have a bit of that nasty taste in my mouth. It's a sickeningly sweet sort of taste and it's really strange. I've always gotten that but can't find anyone else who does lol People complain about dry mouth and such but not this sweet taste.
I still have some urgency but the pain hasn't returned which is awesome.

Ugh. I want to go back to bed but I need to do laundry today...

Originally Posted by Zhaylin

GRRRRRRRRRRRR!!! I was coming home from dropping my daughter off at work and I heard a crack as a pickup truck drove by. I slowly realized my windshield was cracked but I kept driving. Then I turned around to see if I could spot the item launched but I couldn't even pinpoint the spot we connected. All I know is the item came out of a beat up red truck. Being me, I assumed something flew out of his bed but the angle's wrong. It was more than likely thrown.
What the heck is wrong with people?!

And now my hubby is mad at me.
There's 2 ways to get to Walmart. They're both around the same distance. He prefers I take the highway. I prefer to take a neighborhood road. An 18 wheeler almost ran a red light and smashed into me a few years back, so I no longer trust the interstate. I've never had a problem with the back road (which is actually just a tiny part of the drive- I take a Country road which he himself drives to work every day and then get off onto the back road).
I'm just mad that he won.
We had a sort of bet going on regarding which road was safer

The crack is a star burst at the bottom of the windshield near the inspection sticker. Then one line extends to the bottom center and up a little bit. But with increased police on the road, I'm certain the cops will pull us over. Now hubby's talking about taking his car which I loathe driving. The headlights are out of alignment and other drivers think you always have your brights on. What a way to start our trip!!!!

I only took the one pyridium and it knocked me on my butt. I thought it had butabarbital in it, but I see no proof of that. Only Pyridium Plus does which I'm not taking. I have no idea what it's made me so sleepy. I figured the butabarbital became more potent with age, but I can erase that theory. I also still have a bit of that nasty taste in my mouth. It's a sickeningly sweet sort of taste and it's really strange. I've always gotten that but can't find anyone else who does lol People complain about dry mouth and such but not this sweet taste.
I still have some urgency but the pain hasn't returned which is awesome.

Ugh. I want to go back to bed but I need to do laundry today...

Life....aint it grand?
For a crack to happen i'm sure it was some kind of glass bottle or something to happen....and all the crap flew out of "his bed" lol i don't get that part...is it a saying? lol