Thread: Things I've Learned

I've learned that my intentions are typically better than my follow-through.


I've learned that clichés are people and not the other way around.

I've learned that if every single person you talk to tells you that doing something is a really bad idea, you should probably not do it.

I've learned the true meaning of a friend through the loss of someone I thought was true to me.

You got a nice song going on there in your signature. Keep it up

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Men become cool by being comfortable with themselves and keeping a sense of humor. Women become cool by being physically attractive and evolving beyond middle school conversation tactics.

I've learned the greatest truths in life are uncovered with simple, steady awareness.

I've learned that the things I want are often the exact opposites of the things I say I want.

I've learned that I have to love someone before I can truly be angry at them.

Coming from someone who pretty much never initiates her own handshakes, I've learned that, in an informal setting when meeting a new person, men will shake your hand carelessly as a simple greeting whereas women have a tendency to save it to use as a gesture of gratitude or respect.

This may not apply to everything, but I'd rather be doubtful most of the time because if I find out that I'm wrong later, I won't be disappointed. Whereas if I'm hopeful for something and I find out later that I'm wrong, I end up being disappointed.

So basically as the old saying goes "don't get your hopes up"

yeah

I've learned that you only need to purposely lower your expectations if you're attached to those expectations and you're free to hope for the best and get your hopes as high as possibly can so long as you remain wary not to attach any emotional investment into the outcome. It's a hard trick.

I've learned that only I know what goes on inside my head.

I've learned a lot more things:

• If you clearly see someone progressively getting worse, and they only improve when you spoon feed your generosity to them, they'll only use you up until they're tired of you and need time for themselves. I've learned that being nice to these people and having them forget about me makes me really pissed off. It really makes me wonder what it would be like if I just forgot about them altogether, would they be dead?
  
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• I will never hang out with people who go so far in using friends as validation of their whole self-worth that they're not willing to get over it. Friends are a reflection of who we are in some way, but there's no fucking way one person out of fucking billions of people suddenly puts your whole existence to a halt. That's a fucking pathetic excuse to cop out from reality and changing yourself. You're not really that much of an exception from the rest of the people on Earth.
  
  Oh wait, I can't really avoid those people, that's just being a human being (who doesn't come back to logic)!
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• I learned that seeing a person improve while people are completely blind on how they're able to keep themselves happy was because of my efforts, or through the work of others to tolerate their bullshit while running away from my own. They go on into their fantasy, where things are all peachy and nothing is wrong with their life, while I'm/someone with me is trying to think of a way to make sure they don't try to fuck themselves over. They'll be this model to others of what true happiness is, when in fact they're only that because someone else is taking care of their big problems.
  
  So while those same people see this person as genuine, they're only caught inside that person's spectrum of lies. And when you can do nothing to get them out of that spectrum because you feel that you'll look like an asshole, it's really troublesome and makes me want to vomit. Even being truly empathetic with attempting to understand what it must feel like that for them doesn't even make the situation tolerable. It only makes me realize that I should be glad I'm not so fucking fragmented like they are.
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• I've learned that if I act like a sexist and a douche bag, not really going to be liked that much. If I act like a pushover, even worse. So the only thing I can really think of doing is just doing things I love doing instead of trying to fix someone's life. Just be reasonable to people, but focus on my own problems first before trying to steal other people's responsibilities.
  
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• True love (non-familial) is getting more like a fantasy every time I see someone stating it's true. You're telling me that out of all phenomena that occurs in the universe and beyond, one single entity comes in and has all the compatibility that you would want in a person, just for you, to be your little chew toy. What bullshit lol. We like a person, set an image of them, define that image, only to have it constantly skewed because we keep denying ourselves from asking them the truth, asking them their true feelings. The model of that person becomes so idealistic until reality hits you.
  
  Making some unrealistic image of that person is not true love, that's just filling the gap in the void of your mind of what will never be. You're just making yourself delusional, you're not loving someone at all, and your apathy is even more apparent when you're so quick to end your bond with that person instead of trying to communicate with them and see what's wrong. Friends, family, lover, anyone, if you're so quick to end it, why should they give a portion of their time for you?
  
  If you think there's something like true love, some kind of absolute love that comes into this nice little package, get over yourself. Seriously.
  
  No one is that fucking special.
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• We need help from others, but only get people that can stick to their own responsibilities. Be nice to everyone in general, but don't invest time to those who are going to be useless and a bunch of incompetents. Nothing disgusts me more when you spend hundreds of hours with a person who just turns out to be a shithead.
  
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• We tend to really become natural actors on a stage, always assuming we're the main stars of our show, and those we interact with and make a bond with only as second best, and the rest are just minors until you see they might actually have value. But because we're so comfortable with this small stage of actors, we'll never know how other people will think.
  
  Of course we can't know what every single person on this planet thinks, but just because you go by trends of how people react, it doesn't mean it's 100% likely to be that way.
  
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• Don't try to communicate to people aren't open-minded. There's a difference between not accepting something as a reality until convincing evidence shows and not budging at all even when that same evidence comes up. Just let the person rot, let flora and fauna prepare itself to contribute back to what that person did to it.
  
  Just let their fragile body that's just as fragile as yours be put to rest. Let their ideas become stagnant, and focus more on learning more for yourself. Let their insecurities block them from the truth, and start becoming aware of your own so you don't end up on the same boat. It's better to be somewhere else in awareness than trapped in a delusion.
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• People definitely do grow a cunt when they interact with people, especially when they start glorifying themselves as if they're so special. They try to make people who stalk them look like freaks, when they themselves just love the attention, even if it's from someone concerning. And it gets even more disgusting to hear from them when they're clearly ugly physically and mentally, I never knew you were a fucking celebrity.
  
  There's always going to be someone that likes you in some way, but it doesn't mean eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeveryone likes you that much that you have to wave your hair in slow motion and think you're so hot.
  
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• In this world where everyone has conflicts in accomplishing their dreams, they don't want to see you succeed at all. The thing that they want the most is to see you obliterated. They want to see your corpse, exhibit sigh of relief, knowing their chances of accomplishing their dreams just elevated a bit.
  
  No one really expresses this, they just cover it up with pretentious formalities and "good lucks," only wishing they could do what you're doing. They want to do everything when that's obviously impractical.
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• If someone hates you, or just wants to show how "pathetic" you are, all you have to do to make them shut the fuck up is to just help them out, keep feeding the trolls, they'll eventually recycle their comebacks. If they want you to jump off a cliff, tell them which one is a suitable, keep feeding them until they're fucking exhausted.
  
  It's absolutely wonderful seeing how no one can really keep up the hatred for so long. And when they try to avoid you completely, you know that learning how to humiliate yourself and adding humor to it makes people think twice before they state their bullshit at you. And if they don't realize it when you play around with them like that, just ignore them, you had your fun.
  
• I've learned I should just accept that my preferences are going to change, and that happiness, and finding ways to express it, is a never-ending goal. You stop learning when you assume you reached the finish line. There's just no way someone could have all the answers through that.
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• I learned that I'm real picky of who I hang out with, and who I have infatuations with. If it's just celebrities, I can just take them for granted, but if it's actual people that I meet on a daily basis, I don't need to fling my dick all over the place (indirectly).
  
  
  
  

Originally Posted by Linkzelda

I've learned a lot more things:

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• I learned that I'm real picky of who I hang out with, and who I have infatuations with. If it's just celebrities, I can just take them for granted, but if it's actual people that I meet on a daily basis, I don't need to fling my dick all over the place (indirectly).
  
  
  
  

I am still unable to comprehend what exactly this means.

Originally Posted by SnowyCat

I am still unable to comprehend what exactly this means.

Me too, I wrote that at 2 AM. Sorry about that xD

I'm way too fascinated with physical beauty. If someone strikes me as beautiful, I will think pretty much everything they do is beautiful/clever/creative/funny whatever. I've noticed the same things in ugly people and I absolutely hate those things when they do them. It's like a completely opposite reaction to the same thing, depending on who does it. I think that applies to most people.

So basically the 2 rules of life:
1- Be attractive
2- Don't be unattractive

Are pretty much invariably true.

However people of the same sex as you are likely to lean toward hating you if you're attractive.

I've learned I need to listen to my dreams more and the news less.

I've learned I am happiest when thinking about those around me.

I've learned that my friend is full of shit yet somehow doesn't smell it.

Lesson 1. Going through several forums and seeing how people react, putting on a persona that makes them reveal a bit more about themselves made me realize that when people think that a person's post has potential in ruining the integrity of that forum, usually, it's just being a bit too extremist. One person's post out of 100s of thousands, if not millions of posts suddenly has this chance of ruining the impression given from a forum? It's like people don't realize that they could just ignore that person's opinion on something, and everything will be fine. Unless that person is actually going out and trying to ruin the forum by finding any thread he/she to make this impression of degrading a forum and is being militant about it, there's little chance that same person's voice is going to make someone else lurking go,

"Oh, I get what he's trying to say, I'll believe his opinion and suddenly disregard my ability to have any of my own opinions! Because after all, I suddenly don't know that forums are mostly there for solutions, and instead of trying to find other people's views and their suggestions, I'll just focus on this singular person's opinion and magnify that to the point where it suddenly becomes the consensus of everyone else's! Because that's what forums are for right? Just picking one person, and not the views of many."

If all forums were like that, no one would get anywhere, obviously one person's opinion shouldn't be the only source of impression of a forum. If people think their voice is going to more viral than Rebecca's "Friday," and hit a nerve for all people, then wow, just wow. Get over yourself and just find other people's opinions. That's what forums are FOR, why can't people have this simple fact engrained in their minds?


Lesson 2. When giving advice to people, I learned something while giving advice to another person I really liked based on his character of being really open-minded. Anyone with experience over a certain matter that relates to psychological and social questions is obviously going to be preferred than a person who's younger. People want assurance that this person's experience will give them a reasonable answer they can follow, and anyone that hasn't experienced it, and still gives reasonable advice suddenly isn't any better than the person with experience.

So really, when giving advice for social things (like advice on Cars, because if you don't know your stuff, obviously it's bad advice, but this is an exception), it's all about asking the right questions. Usually people with experience are able to come up with the right questions and suggestions, but people never pay attention to observation. They think it's something useless, and even when you don't have any experience with something like a relationship breakup, etc., if you observe people good enough, if you see how they behave and interact and react to certain people, you can formulate questions just as good as a person with experience.

The advice itself isn't always going to be perfect, but you as a person giving advice are essentially a medium for that other person asking the advice to. To put it in simple terms, they have someone to talk to, someone where they can branch out their problems that they want to talk about and hopefully come to a practical method of solving it. You as the individual are not essentially the one that "knows every single thing in the whole universe," but if you just pay attention to what the person is saying, and you can have some competency in making models of realities of how it would feel like, you collect those feelings from yourself, you empathize with that person's feelings as well, everything comes full circle, and it's simply a matter of trial and error.

You don't have to be proficient in every single aspect of a topic of Relationship to be a "relationship guru" or whatever bullshit wisdom label people like to give others who actually helped them out. And there is an age range to where that advice is credible, but that is completely subjective. If a 13 year old is giving advice on how to bang chicks, then surely no one older than him is going to take his advice seriously.

However, someone who's in their 18+, even going down to 17+ should be able to have competence in critical thinking. So if you're only looking for people that are older and assume they'll give great advice, then do it! But if you don't really see much credibility in someone younger, and then reject their suggestion to let you brainstorm your problems, you're honestly just making things worse in the long run. People are willing to sacrifice their ability to think things out and sublimate that responsibility to someone who seems credible; someone who asks the right questions.

So the next time you think a person doesn't know shit about how it feels to break up with someone, think about the power of observation. It sure may not be perfect as having experience and having the direct answers there, but if the questions that person giving advice to you is reasonable for you, what's the point in going on a scavenger hunt for information when you're essentially transferring your ability to speculate?

If you end up with the same conclusion or suggestion, don't you think that's hinting that anyone with decent critical thinking and opens themselves to many scenarios to solve it is empathizing with you? Does anyone not get that? Or is it just me?

People want that closure, so they'll be willing to subconsciously (or unconsciously for you Old Age people) offer part of their rationale to talk things out with you. That's most of the reason why people never solve their problems or find ways to reduce it....because they don't have anyone to talk things out with and ask them questions. It's something progressive, it's never perfect, but the attempt to actually find what's wrong bit by bit is FAR better than living in denial and never trying to be suggestive to other people's advice that can actually HELP you.

Of course, there are many exceptions (such as knowing what it's like to have children), but for things related to how people behave, you can still observe how other people react and interact, because obviously, the more people you observe, the more you store scenarios in your mind that can offer the right questions to anyone that wants advice, which can just be another term for talking things out. No one's perfect, but it doesn't mean you can't ask questions, always ask questions, that's going to give more things to think about that can actually help!
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But...

if you're in an ultimatum for advice, go to really, really, old people. Get as much insight from them, because chances are, they never tell because they assume younger people won't ask. Whether or not you parrot that advice to someone else? Maybe there's a chance for that, but if you can apply what you learned from them and make a model that fits to your perception, then what's so wrong with using advice of others? If you're a mere copycat and don't give your own opinion, that's one thing, but it doesn't mean a person has to experience certain things themselves when they can go to people who mostly likely learned from it. Even so, always be willing to find more answers in many age ranges because even an older person can be emotionally attached to an idea and never allow themselves to learn too.

So the next time you start becoming insecure that some teenage boy or young adult thinks they know it all, well, if you knew a suggestive to help someone out, then why not fucking get over yourself and be an "adult" and show them something you think is better? Are you going to let someone younger make you feel inferior? Just because you're older doesn't mean your the epitome or the perfection of advice. If you're not willing to observe as well, you're just as equal in mentality with someone younger.

Lesson #3:

If you're that person that likes being around people, satisfying others because it makes you feel better as a person because you just love making people feel good, just realize there's a limit. If the people you're trying to impress makes you waste many resources (financially) and you're continuing that behavior of getting yourself in debt only to get little reward from them (but you see it as something good no matter the value), then you just have to stop and think about what you're doing.

You as a person before most likely was very critical of other people's opinions, and you could never understand what it would feel like to be in their situation. Whether it's being a tough guy, having a girlfriend, or something like that, subconsciously, you will become a "Yes" man to some extent to learn things from people. You sedate the ego temporarily to be suggestive to what people think, and when you're satisfying these people, you tend to forget the ego's role in making practical judgement of your actions.

Imagine your foundations, your whole being and schemata as a Google Search Engine. When you want to find information on something, you type it in the search bar, and Google Spiders, that are still part of you (They equal you being the "Yes Man") are out scavenging for answers. These bits of yourself that you do subconsciously without even realizing it makes you suggestive, because the subconscious obviously is a non-emotional part that wants to make your life better. That is why you disregard the ego temporarily, that critical part of yourself, in order to learn more about people.

However, when people make themselves into these "google spider bots" or "Yes Man" that are suggestive towards learning, they are not able to come back to the search engine source; their foundation, their ideologies, etc. They are stuck in a limbo of being in the "Yes Man" phase and experience conflicts financially, mentally, and even physically.

So when you're sitting there speculating your purpose in life, or purpose in what you, that is when you're back to your ego, and THAT is when you START USING IT FOR WHAT IT's THERE FOR, TO FUCKING HELP YOU. USE THAT DAMN OPPORTUNITY and start analyzing what you learned in the "Yes Man" Phase, and if it needs more work, try once more, keep finding answers, go back to the ego, or the source of your rationale, and LEARN. So if you're feeling stoic and not wanting to talk to others for a bit and be by yourself, use that time to find purpose for yourself, and then go back to what you wanted to do: satisfying people and satisfying yourself, only this time, you have added awareness to how you work.

You are a learner, people you go to indirectly exposes you to learn something about yourself. People we go to that we like are parts of ourselves that we like, and we can learn more when people share the same ideas of you. It's about coming back to rationale, and not being stuck in limbo like a rogue Google Spider bot would do. Send the information you learned when you were suggestive and were willing to satisfy people BACK to your ability to question and TEACH.



If more people were able to know about this, even if they had problems, they'll know how to get over it. Of course, not all problems can be fixed, but learning to reduce or lessen the chance of having them again is far better than being a defeatist.

I've learned there's no such thing as a short Linkzelda post

I've learned I need to spend more time on important things in real life and less on important things on the internet.

I've learned I can occasionally make a good balance between the two.

I've learned I really like helping people.

I've learned one of my greatest joys is teaching.

And, well, learning, too, but I've always known that.

Originally Posted by Patrick

I've learned there's no such thing as a short Linkzelda post

I've learned that these types of people who are essentially saying tl;dr bring about a smug tone, and it doesn't really add on to anything other than the fact they can't do simple reading.

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I've also learned that Google Panda updates shouldn't be anything to worry about since 99% of the people on the internet that post things are too lazy, incompetent, and fill their blogs with spammy links. They're really emphasizing that content is "king" nowadays, which is perfect. I've also learned that if I set up a Google Adsense account, I could've made at least $9,000 on a particular niche, but setting things up and managing a budget is kind of difficult. But hopefully this will help me find a way to make a small business with article writing, since you know, I never make a short post. Which is good, because it won't be a piece of shit laconic phrases when ranking for other competitors. Whatever makes the CEO of the third-party blogging site happy, as long as he pays me, I'll be happy as well.

Money is good to have.

I guess everything has its benefits, and it's best not to worry about people who try to be funny, but are completely devoid of it. I'm glad people are just naturally lazy and stupid on the Internet, you can literally make so much money off of them.

99% of thoughts are repetitive and useless.

I haven't learned anything yet.