Thread: Rant and Rave, Cry and Complain

I went to groceries today, and guess who shows up? That chick from my college that said she wanted to have sex with me in the last High School I attended. I swear, every time we "bump" into each other, the grip from her handshakes are getting even tighter, and she even jerked it a little faster than normal. I think she's giving me signals of what she can really do with those hands.

Why am I complaining? Because she's crazy.


Bloody crazy. Sure she might be a goddess in bed, but but but but but but but but......why is that I'm think thinking about how she shook me with my right hand? She held it so soft and firm...oh my god, she probably injected some drug in me to make me say that.


I have to be nice to her because she's not like those other girls. Even the cocky ones don't even come close to her. Uggh, I'm scared.

I hope I don't die.

I had a normal dream about the lead singer of Tool and Puscifer last night. :'(

It was a good dream, but I wish I had the time and patience to write it all down.

My dreams have been so off the wall lately (I think because of my pregnancy) but I haven't had the motivation to type them up and get back into my dream journal. I've even let a few lucids slip by. I'm getting lazy.

I'm still trying to figure out how he slipped into my dream to play such a huge role (a very ecentric art teacher). I mean, yes, I do have this slight obsession with the man (which I think is totally legit) but I can't think of a moment yesterday where I really thought about him.

I did listen to some Puscifer yesterday, for a minute. It's weird how things slip into your dreams. OH well. We kissed and almost had sex, weird huh? lol I confessed to my fiancee this morning, it's all good. He's cool with it. lol

Originally Posted by tropicalbreeze

I won't sleep tonight now.

Ah, why would you post that? ;_;

Maynard James Keenan all up in yo' dreams gettin' people pregnant.

Originally Posted by dakotahnok

Are you aware that there are leash laws for cats too? Someone could call the animal catcher on that cat the same way your going to with that dog. Anyway I'm being a complete hypocrite because my cat is never on a leash

I've seen proposed leash laws for cats, but I am not aware of any ordinance or state-wide ruling in any American state that discusses such a matter. In this case with a cat getting attacked, it would depend on the state and the law. However, there is no reason for a cat to be outdoors running wild if you know that your neighbors have troublesome dogs that are not chained up in the first place. Negligence both ways. Cats are indoor animals, and if outside, should be watched under close supervision.

Said person should have reported this issue and dealt with it accordingly.

Originally Posted by Warheit

I've seen proposed leash laws for cats, but I am not aware of any ordinance or state-wide ruling in any American state that discusses such a matter. In this case with a cat getting attacked, it would depend on the state and the law. However, there is no reason for a cat to be outdoors running wild if you know that your neighbors have troublesome dogs that are not chained up in the first place. Negligence both ways. Cats are indoor animals, and if outside, should be watched under close supervision.

Said person should have reported this issue and dealt with it accordingly.

You aren't saying anything mean, or disrespectful. But I don't think you understand the point of this thread, and you should get off.

Im not trying to be rude at all. Ask anyone, I'm not like that. But the only ranting, raving, crying, and complaining I have seen from you is about other people's post.

Regarding the red ring... it doesn't exist I psyched myself out and was seeing things not really there lol

We have strange reddish colored spiders (?) here that tend to live on the leaves of certain bushes. They resemble daddy long legs and they weirded me out a little. When I was living at the Farm, there were about 5 of them on the brick wall outside. I don't know what they were doing but they were almost side by side and bouncing/swaying as if dancing. It was the strangest sight. I later made myself pick one of them up to try to quiet my revulsion. I didn't die from holding it, but it's still not something I go out of my way to do

My rants are:
I have heartburn. I'm smelly from sweating in my sleep because I laid on my deflating (plastic) air mattress with no sheet on it. I didn't sleep at all last night so I'm very surprised I only slept for around 4 hours!!
I had a somewhat annoying visit with my daughters. My youngest finally got ahold of her dearest friend Daniel. She wanted me to drive her back toward home so she could meet him and he'd give me gas money. At first I was okay with it but she wanted to be alone with him and I told her it wasn't happening. She needed to be within eye shot at ALL times. If they weren't okay with that, we weren't going anywhere.

Then we were looking around Rue 21 and she asked "Do you trust me?" I blurted out no and laughed. She then thought I looked like crying and called me out on it. I told her that's not something a kid wants to hear from their parent so it was hard saying it. Blah blah blah, she said fine, she wouldn't push it but asked why I still looked upset so I told her she was putting me in a tough spot because I'm supposed to be trying to be a good and responsible mom but I want her to be happy...

So on and on it went until she then admitted Daniel was older than she had previously let on. Whatever. They decided to meet up nearby at the Mall. Fine. As long as she stayed in my sights at all times.
Not fine... turns out he didn't want me to know who he is because he's a teacher.

WTF?

She says he's not a creeper. They've never even kissed. He just tries to help her out and be a friend to her. She's supposedly the same age as his kids and "that's just gross", but I don't trust her. And I don't trust the motives of men behaving in such a way.
She talked to him through his car window. I could see her but I still don't even know what kind of car he drives. I thought about being a good mom for a change and driving into his vehicle and making him tell me what the hell is going on. But I'm, apparently, a wuss AND a bad parent

I gave my daughters their "cards" though. I told them they had to sit side by side to read it. They got all teary eyed so I guess I got that right at least. It wasn't poetry but it was still from the heart.

I need to go find something to eat then get a shower...

Zhaylin: you are NOT a bad parent. Your kids have put you through a lot and you still haven't given up on them. You are still there any time you can be. I don't think they really understand the things you do for them. And yeah, maybe confronting that guy would be the right thing. But you are human, you are not expected to be perfect. And I'm sure you just want a break from the drama. I'm sure if something like them kissing were to happen you would step in.

As far as the man goes, that is weird. If a man is doing that then there is almost no way he doesn't have bad intentions. But it seems that your daughter is not willing to do that. If she was i dont think she would have told you his age. Maybe she is just a bit naive and thinks he really just wants to be friends. Keep an eye on him zhaylin!

So, people like to ride motorcycles. That's fine.

But I really hate this time of year.

In this city right now are approximately some 50,000 motorcycle riders, in town for the Republic of Texas (ROT) motorcycle rally. The whole city is filled with people gunning their engines and revving high as they take off at intersections. It continues to all hours of the night, and the sounds can be heard for miles.

I honestly don't mind a couple, and I can even tolerate the 20 or so that travel in packs in the hill country because they pass by quickly and only spoil the beauty of the area for a few minutes.

The sound of 50,000 motorcycles is not as easy to push aside.

Make them leave, please. Thank you.

Originally Posted by melanieb

So, people like to ride motorcycles. That's fine.

But I really hate this time of year.

In this city right now are approximately some 50,000 motorcycle riders, in town for the Republic of Texas (ROT) motorcycle rally. The whole city is filled with people gunning their engines and revving high as they take off at intersections. It continues to all hours of the night, and the sounds can be heard for miles.

I honestly don't mind a couple, and I can even tolerate the 20 or so that travel in packs in the hill country because they pass by quickly and only spoil the beauty of the area for a few minutes.

The sound of 50,000 motorcycles is not as easy to push aside.

Make them leave, please. Thank you.

Sounds like our trip through South Dakota last year. We had never heard of the Sturgis bike rally before. We just HAPPENED to be stopping in Sturgis for the first night of the rally on our way back home from Colorado. All of Sturgis and Rapid City (and the Badlands) was rumbling with bikers at all hours of our trip. The attendance is usually around 400,000 bikers. It was a bit obnoxious. (Hopefully you have some earplugs for sleeping, good luck with it!)

Ugh... sounds miserable Melanie!!!!

Thanks Dakotah. I'm way too passive and permissive. I'm not just putting myself down for the hell of it. I was the mostly "cool" mom of the neighborhood. I didn't care if the kids smoked (I typically asked parents if they knew and was okay with it but I let a couple slide by). Drugs, alcohol, sex and cursing were forbidden though. They knew what they could get away with and which buttons to push. I cared more about making them happy and NOT listening to them cry or rant than I was about doing the responsible thing.
I'm working on it, but it's too little too late.

My new rant is that I finally figured out exactly is wrong with my big toe (I think lol). As soon as the snow thaws, I start wearing sandals.
These are the exact shoes I wear Walmart.com: Earth Spirit - Women's Juniper Sling Back Sandals: Shoes.
Only, I tend to wear them with the back strap tucked over my foot instead of behind it. Whenever I walk, for some weird reason, I tend to flex that toe, as if it's trying to grab onto something. As I step down, my toe flexes. Maybe I think I'm going to lose my shoe or something. I tend to do it more with my left foot than my right which is why it bothers me.
I'm going to start wearing the strap properly and see if that helps.

I can't believe I'm still awake...

You know, constructive criticism is nice, but when combined with exaggerated negativity like this ===>http://www.dreamviews.com/f23/linkze...ml#post1894362, it pisses me the fuck off.

I'm not perfect, but come on....REALLY? Are people really this bad towards imperfection? Ugh. Lesson learned, need to be more perfect.

I need to realize that spending 8 hours on a drawing in one day is clearly not enough. NEEDS MORE PERFECTION.

This is the best advice I've been given in my life.

What's up with all the rude noobs (to this forum)?

Ok. So far, my count is 2. But seriously, why join a forum if you just wanna make enemies from the start? Boredom.

Speaking of being bored:

I complained recently about not being able to play my sims. That complaint has seriously become an obsession in my head. All I want to do now is play the sims, lol. I had it all those years and now I can't play it and I WANT it. I don't even know why. I get so bored of it so easily. We want what we can't have. Luckily, my fiancee noticed I was fiending and decided to order me The Sims 3 for Xbox 360, an early birthday present.

Unfortunately, instead of going to walmart and buying the damn thing, he ordered it from Amazon and that shit better be here by Tuesday or... nothing, but it better be here. Then my only issue will be fighting over the xbox when my son is asleep lol.

I feel like I'm nine years old again and begging my mom to let me stay at my aunt's for a week to let me play the sims. I'm surprised I haven't been dreaming of it. It's that bad. Embarassing, still. Oh well. I suppose I should just read a book. The problem is finding a good book. God, I hope I'm not completely lazy by the time classes start again. Need to get my pep back.

Zhay: You sound like a very loving parent. We do what we do for our children, but sometimes it's not what they want. Mine aren't that big yet, but I'm old enough to understand I could've made it easier on my parents. I was quite a brat. Stick with it. I'm not sure how old your daughter is, the youngest, but I would definitely keep on top of that teacher business. That's just creepy. If she's really into him, you could always try to have a one on one chat with the fellow, see what he's about.



oh and Link: Your dedication to your art clearly shows in your work, don't let the mean noob put you down.

Originally Posted by Suena

oh and Link: Your dedication to your art clearly shows in your work, don't let the mean noob put you down.

Thanks Suena, I really appreciate, but thanks to the poster, it's only made me become even more serious with the art in the first place. I used to think of this kind of art as a masochistic endeavor because I only wanted to obtain perfection when all other aspects that I could do other than drawing could never give me that satisfaction.

I only do it now because it's pretty much the only thing I can try to improve on the fly because it's just observing, but obviously my eyes aren't even good enough yet, just have to abuse my eyes more until nothing but perfection comes out. My eyes love playing tricks on me, which forces my body to draw in abnormal ways, but it seems it's legit to you guys, so I guess my insanity is making something positive.

That's why I took things so seriously with him, but you're right, can't let people put me down like that. Just one body out of billions. To let myself regress to that level makes me even worse.

Hope your game comes soon, and I HATE it when I have to wait so long for an order too from Amazon, like that charger I bought that barely cost a dollar! Had to wait 4 days, no 1 day shipping either :/

Rant:

Legend of Korra....AMON...YOU KIDDING ME BRO? Just TOOK the bloodbending like a boss.

My, my, this thread is quite the circlejerk now isn't it?

Suena: I really hope the sims 3 works out for yu. The game I bought was terribly glitchy. The topiary came up black, and 2d. And when my sim would talk to people he would levitate . It was pretty upsetting.

Originally Posted by Zhaylin

Ugh... sounds miserable Melanie!!!!

Thanks Dakotah. I'm way too passive and permissive. I'm not just putting myself down for the hell of it. I was the mostly "cool" mom of the neighborhood. I didn't care if the kids smoked (I typically asked parents if they knew and was okay with it but I let a couple slide by). Drugs, alcohol, sex and cursing were forbidden though. They knew what they could get away with and which buttons to push. I cared more about making them happy and NOT listening to them cry or rant than I was about doing the responsible thing.
I'm working on it, but it's too little too late.

My new rant is that I finally figured out exactly is wrong with my big toe (I think lol). As soon as the snow thaws, I start wearing sandals.
These are the exact shoes I wear Walmart.com: Earth Spirit - Women's Juniper Sling Back Sandals: Shoes.
Only, I tend to wear them with the back strap tucked over my foot instead of behind it. Whenever I walk, for some weird reason, I tend to flex that toe, as if it's trying to grab onto something. As I step down, my toe flexes. Maybe I think I'm going to lose my shoe or something. I tend to do it more with my left foot than my right which is why it bothers me.
I'm going to start wearing the strap properly and see if that helps.

I can't believe I'm still awake...

Hmm. I would think alcohol and cursing be okay but not smoking. Smoking is an addiction that is hard to curb and cigarettes are really expensive in my country. Alcohol is bad but not at moderate or a little but I know way too well too many people abused it. Cursing is fine but getting in conflicts because of your curses is not fine.

And those are some nice looking sandals Zhaylin.

Originally Posted by Linkzelda

You know, constructive criticism is nice, but when combined with exaggerated negativity like this ===>http://www.dreamviews.com/f23/linkze...ml#post1894362, it pisses me the fuck off.

I'm not perfect, but come on....REALLY? Are people really this bad towards imperfection? Ugh. Lesson learned, need to be more perfect.

I need to realize that spending 8 hours on a drawing in one day is clearly not enough. NEEDS MORE PERFECTION.

This is the best advice I've been given in my life.

My English would be too bad to get his sarcasm.

But I've got to be honest with you, this isn't one of your best works. The number of hours you spent on it is surprising though. I used to spend equally long hours of work, or even longer to finish up an artwork and it's not good either.

Originally Posted by Suena

Zhay: You sound like a very loving parent. We do what we do for our children, but sometimes it's not what they want. Mine aren't that big yet, but I'm old enough to understand I could've made it easier on my parents. I was quite a brat. Stick with it. I'm not sure how old your daughter is, the youngest, but I would definitely keep on top of that teacher business. That's just creepy. If she's really into him, you could always try to have a one on one chat with the fellow, see what he's about.

Your reply just made me tear. Or it must be the heat. My palms are sweating profusely, maybe my eyeballs are too.

We don't have much kids complaining about their parents here huh? I know parents try their best to bring their children up but there simply are days when I felt I got wronged for the most insignificant things. I got scolded pretty much compared to others my age. For the smallest things, like placing the soup ladle the wrong way, dripping water onto the floor after I washed my hands, not bringing my mother's slippers to her when she comes home (our house has a clean fetish so we wear slippers at home too). She exaggerate the slippers part and said she can't rely on me when she gets old if I can't even do such a simple task for her. But I was eating lunch at that time and I didn't want to get down, I just started on my food. I called my grandma and she was already on her way with the slippers.

My mum just exaggerates over the smallest matter, forever complaining I don't care about her, rambles to me about her work and my bad father and probably hoping I can understand. She just keeps focusing on the miserable parts of her life, thinking that life is nothing but misery and... I don't even know what I want to rant about. I'm not the best daughter around but I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, sex or anything that's considered slightly nasty. I passed my exams, she never had to worry much about my studies because I can pick them up on my own. My worst bad habits are staying up late and being lazy.

I've got a feeling she wants me to love her like a lover does. But I grew up with her scoldings. How am I supposed to do that?

Originally Posted by Alyzarin

Sorry, I should've clarified that I said "off" meaning "not on".

(Isn't English a wonderfully horrible language?)

Oh haha! That's pretty funny. Yes it can be annoying when opposite words have slowly been changed to mean the same thing in certain contexts.

Originally Posted by Dianeva

I just read like 2 pages of posts and had more responses, but w/e.
lol I just lit a cigarette with a stove burner because I lost my lighter AND IT WORKED. I'll try the toaster next time.

I can finally see this emoticon because I don't have a Mac anymore, and it fits perfectly, so.... ಠ_ಠ
Try nothing next time

Originally Posted by Dianeva

Just wondering, did you ever have a natural spider fear?

As I said in another post, only Red Backs. I guess the knowledge that only a few people have died from them helped a bit.
But I guess that doesn't apply since most people here seem to be scared based on looks and creepy movement etc.

And Harvestmen are awesome! haha
I love them, we get heaps here and they're just completely harmless guys and they look cool.
Maybe it would help to remember that you can obliterate them within an instant with next to no effort.

Originally Posted by Linkzelda

I went to groceries today, and guess who shows up? That chick from my college that said she wanted to have sex with me in the last High School I attended. I swear, every time we "bump" into each other, the grip from her handshakes are getting even tighter, and she even jerked it a little faster than normal. I think she's giving me signals of what she can really do with those hands.

Why am I complaining? Because she's crazy.


Bloody crazy. Sure she might be a goddess in bed, but but but but but but but but......why is that I'm think thinking about how she shook me with my right hand? She held it so soft and firm...oh my god, she probably injected some drug in me to make me say that.


I have to be nice to her because she's not like those other girls. Even the cocky ones don't even come close to her. Uggh, I'm scared.

I hope I don't die.

Don't stick your dick in crazy.

Unless you want awesome sex....
It was worth it for me.
They're always the most willing and enthusiastic.
Ok just do it, okay?
And then you can warn other people coz you'll learn a valuable lesson.
You're just gonna keep thinking about it if you don't.

Originally Posted by ZeraCook

I won't sleep tonight now.

Does this help?
























What about this?











Sorry. Here's a guy killing one to make you feel better
http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=e4a_1334156442

lol, that's how spider eggs hatch? Now I know.....

^ What kind of spider is that? Kill one and it multiplies. Omg.

Hey wait wait, this is the rant and rave thread, not face your fears thread.

Originally Posted by DocHolliday

My, my, this thread is quite the circlejerk now isn't it?

Run along, please.

Originally Posted by dakotahnok

Suena: I really hope the sims 3 works out for yu. The game I bought was terribly glitchy. The topiary came up black, and 2d. And when my sim would talk to people he would levitate . It was pretty upsetting.

I really hope that doesn't happen. :/ was it for PC? I've definitely had my share of issues with that game in the past. I'm hoping the only problem on the xbox will be the loading screens. And getting used to the controller. I'm not much of a console gamer.

Originally Posted by Carrot

My mum just exaggerates over the smallest matter, forever complaining I don't care about her, rambles to me about her work and my bad father and probably hoping I can understand. She just keeps focusing on the miserable parts of her life, thinking that life is nothing but misery and... I don't even know what I want to rant about. I'm not the best daughter around but I don't drink, smoke, do drugs, sex or anything that's considered slightly nasty. I passed my exams, she never had to worry much about my studies because I can pick them up on my own. My worst bad habits are staying up late and being lazy.

I've got a feeling she wants me to love her like a lover does. But I grew up with her scoldings. How am I supposed to do that?

It's easy to forget what it's like to live with your parents once you're out of the house. I do remember times when I felt my punishments were too harsh for what I'd done. Parents make mistakes too. I know my mom and dad were going through some real hard times right before I graduated what with going bankrupt, losing our home, and our property. Their whole dream just crashed and all I was doing was going to my boyfriend's every night and smoking pot. They hid it well, but some things started to make sense after a while. They would scold me for no apparent reason sometimes and I couldn't wait to get out of there.

They never expected me to help though. Even after I offered them my paychecks. They didn't want me to worry about their bills and what not, and that's how it should be. The kid shouldn't have to suffer because of the parents, but sometimes we've got to because our parents misery becomes our own, even if they don't want it that way.

Just like in everything, communication is key. There is a necessity for understanding on both parts. Just remember, she does love you and I'm sure she has your best intentions at heart. Buy her a flower or something, because it does sound like she's had a rough time raising you on her own (or without your dad.) I hope I didn't assume too much. But you also know that you cannot provide her with all of the happiness she needs. The least we can do as kids is thank our parents for what they've done for us (life, shelter, food) and show them our best as we get older.

(I may have just rambled on, sorry Carrot lol)

As for my rant: My fiancee decided to come home drunk at 7 in the morning.

I'm seriously trying to cut him a break since we've been working things out. He really hasn't been drinking all that much, but this is what's going to happen when he does? I don't know if he was really just having a good time with his buddies or if he was just scared to come home.

I just don't think this shit is fair. I'm going to be 22 in a few days and he just turned 26. He has seriously had enough partying in his life and he needs to quit. Me on the other hand, well, my days of partying ended at 20. It should've ended for him, too. It's his own fault that he rarely spends time with his son. I don't even think he cares anymore. ugh. It will take a while befor this shit breaks.

And you know, what can we say, Doc, sometimes people need a reach around. Surely you understand.

rofl!! Tommo, you just love torturing them eh?

Not all spiders are born that way. I read somewhere about the one that carries its young on its back, but it's not true of every spider.

DocHoliday, I was thinking of that as I fell asleep last night. To someone not familiar with this thread, it would seem that way. Maybe it is. This is just where we show support for each other. We rant about things without worrying about negative criticism- we get enough of that in real life!
But it also helps to know tact and empathy. We might not agree with everything someone posts. Did you notice Carrots response to me? I could take it as her saying smoking is the worst of the wrongs kids could do and I had my priorities wrong and screwed up. But she didn't attack me. She explained her views.

Carrot, thanks for your reply It's interesting how people are okay with some things but not others. My parents were okay with my drinking as long as I did it at home. I know other parents who smoke pot with their kids.
With smoking, I'm a smoker, so I don't see it as bad as most sane people. But it also gives me some control. When I bought my kids smokes, *I* controlled how much they smoke. They weren't sneaky or stealing my cigarettes.
Cursing is just a personal distaste. My dad was a Navy man and cursed like one. My brother curses like he does. It just makes me cringe and the OCD in me fixates on the words and replay them in my mind non-stop for days I always told my kids to be more creative

Your mom sounds like a monster to me. I imagine it's a mostly cultural thing though? I picture you in China or Japan and then I have my own preconceived views of the peoples there. I view those places as very traditional, family oriented, hard working and dedicated and almost ruthless in their pursuit of perfection. I understand (or *think* I do) that the youth is more rebellious and pulling away from those values which causes lots of conflict between the generations. Do kids support their aging parents? Maybe your mom is terrified she's going to be abandoned and have to fend for herself? Just imagine how hard HER mother was on her!

But I could be completely WRONG lol I don't know squat about other cultures unless it's what's fed to me through the media.

Thanks Suena My youngest is about to turn 16 in December, but she's been friends with this guy for 3 years. She recently admitted to me that she was selling her body for drugs and cash. I called her out on that yesterday, reminding her that we always called Daniel her sugar-daddy or pimp (in jest, way before we knew what she was up to), because he always gave her money here, money there, jewelry, stuffed animals. That's when she rolled her eyes and said he has kids her age and wasn't "fucking" her. I told her it doesn't mean he wasn't setting up dates for her.
She denied it, but I'm suspicious. He might be the nicest man in the world, spoiling her like he does his own kids. But why not meet me? Why so secretive? Something's off.
But you want to trust what your kids say and therein lies the conflict.


Okay *whew*, my rant is that I am too old to sleep on a hard door. Maybe I just have to give it some time to get used to it. But I tossed and turned all night and slept miserably. Oh well. It is what it is. If I didn't smoke, I could afford a new air mattress. So I have no right to complain about my lot in life so long as I place cigarettes as a priority

**EDIT**

Not done after all It's trivial but still bugging the crap out of me.
I almost bought myself a sun dress yesterday. I went to the dressing room, put it on and stood before the full length mirror.
I have a ridiculous amount of blue veins visible through my chest. Yeah, they've always been there. It's part of having Ehlers-Danlos Disease. My chest is never visible because of the clothes I normally wear, so I've simply forgotten about them.
Well, my oldest daughter gave me a sun dress. I put it on last night and slept in it. I just passed a mirror and those veins leap out at me.
They are very unattractive lol and annoy me.

Originally Posted by Suena

It's easy to forget what it's like to live with your parents once you're out of the house. I do remember times when I felt my punishments were too harsh for what I'd done. Parents make mistakes too. I know my mom and dad were going through some real hard times right before I graduated what with going bankrupt, losing our home, and our property. Their whole dream just crashed and all I was doing was going to my boyfriend's every night and smoking pot. They hid it well, but some things started to make sense after a while. They would scold me for no apparent reason sometimes and I couldn't wait to get out of there.

They never expected me to help though. Even after I offered them my paychecks. They didn't want me to worry about their bills and what not, and that's how it should be. The kid shouldn't have to suffer because of the parents, but sometimes we've got to because our parents misery becomes our own, even if they don't want it that way.

Just like in everything, communication is key. There is a necessity for understanding on both parts. Just remember, she does love you and I'm sure she has your best intentions at heart. Buy her a flower or something, because it does sound like she's had a rough time raising you on her own (or without your dad.) I hope I didn't assume too much. But you also know that you cannot provide her with all of the happiness she needs. The least we can do as kids is thank our parents for what they've done for us (life, shelter, food) and show them our best as we get older.

(I may have just rambled on, sorry Carrot lol)

Nah it's fine. Thanks for your reply. Maybe I should get her a little present.

Her birthday is next month so if I managed to get a job by then, I can buy her a present with my money.

I know she loves me, I meant the world to her, probably I'm just upset she has that little faith in me. And she's supposed to know me better than anyone else. When her colleague asked her for recommendations of fresh graduations who had a pleasant personality, she immediately recommended me. If she's that confident about my character when talking to others about it, I don't see why she can't keep that optimism when she thinks about our future.

Yes, my mother led a hard life. Although she's still with my dad, they're going to be divorced sooner or later. My dad never played the role of a dad properly. My mum looked over everything that I needed and she even needed to ask my dad to give me allowance so at least I had something to remember about him when I grow up. Basically everything else is paid by my mum.

Originally Posted by Zhaylin

Your mom sounds like a monster to me. I imagine it's a mostly cultural thing though? I picture you in China or Japan and then I have my own preconceived views of the peoples there. I view those places as very traditional, family oriented, hard working and dedicated and almost ruthless in their pursuit of perfection. I understand (or *think* I do) that the youth is more rebellious and pulling away from those values which causes lots of conflict between the generations. Do kids support their aging parents? Maybe your mom is terrified she's going to be abandoned and have to fend for herself? Just imagine how hard HER mother was on her!

But I could be completely WRONG lol I don't know squat about other cultures unless it's what's fed to me through the media.

Let's just say Asians aren't the least willing to praise their kids for anything. So ended up everyone grew up grumpy. Let's say if their kid scored a B, they would ask why didn't you get an A? If they scored an A, their parents would ask why didn't you get distinction? If they are used to their kids getting distinction, they would expect them to top their class.

Youth rebellious? Not really. We have strict laws here so you get into trouble even for things you said online. I think a Chinese girl got into trouble once when she mentioned something bad about Indians on her twitter.

I never thought about abandoning my mum. She probably lacks reassurance. Her mum, my grandma, is a really nice person. I currently live at my grandma's house but my mum will come for dinner every night because we lived in the same block. I didn't want to go back to my house because she will rule over me with her strict expectations, plus my estranged relationship with my dad didn't make things better.

After describing how monster-like my mum is, she's actually a nice person with a kind heart. She just doesn't phrase her words nicely so me and my grandma always get affected by what she said.