Originally Posted by
Maeni
I'm generally very confused and frustrated lately. Now that school, which I think is almost always horrible, is over for now and I've got a long vacation, boredom has simply taken over. This makes me feel like everything is a waste of time... When school just feels like idiocy and something I just have to survive, while my free time feels empty and worthless.
I hate living with my dad, I always feel so delightfully free when he isn't there. When he is there, I get irritated at him because of his behaviours. He constantly asks about stuff like whether or not I have homeworks or exam-related things. Everything else is just the most shallow conversations ever possible. He will often tell me great tales about any and all insipid thing he is doing, like when he has painted this thing white or he'll explain in great detail what weird food he's about to make. It sometimes feels like when I encounter him, he just tries to dump a load of questions and informations on me, so even if I'm just getting something from the kitchen, I sort of have to nudge my way out like I'm trying to free myself from a thorny bush on my way out. Recently he broke his arm, so any and all conversation has been about that. I've been told what he can do and what he can't do and what pill he has just taken and he'd constantly relay how painful it is. I feel like I'm being ignored and that everything revolves around him, and at the same time I feel like a complete asshole for thinking that, because it ironically seems to make me an ego-centric shit.
A lot of these annoyances are also extremely irrational on my side. For example, my dad has this habit of making random sounds all the time. He'll sing along to songs which I find extremely infuriating, and he has recently been playing loud music. When we eat, he makes that "Mmmm" noise at the end or another wordless expression of "I just ate food now I'm no longer hungry." and it annoys me because I feel like he's trying to communcate with me and thus wants some kind of response.
He similarly makes other sounds for whatever else he's doing, and it annoys me to no end that he can't just tell me what he wants to tell me, instead of making me inquire about it when he vaguely says "argh" to his screen. And then again, I realize this may be utterly irrational as I have no idea whether or not he actually expects a response.
I also have this irrational 'fear' of him hearing anything I do. A few days ago I decided to do some exercise, but I decided against it when I realized that my weights made clinking noises when moving them around. And for some reason, I get extremely uncomfortable when my dad can hear what I do. This means I generally don't move around much, as our entire residence is made of very noisy woodwork. I think this may tie in with the fact that I don't really want him to know anything about me, for some reason. Currently I want to get a haircut, but firstly I've got so little initiative that I can't get myself off my ass to just get myself down there. Secondly, I can predict how frustrating it will be when I have to deal with my dad's inevitable surprise and enthusiasm about my haircut, as if it's the most important happening of the year.
Worst of all is that I can't even just move out. Maybe it's my own fault or maybe my upbringing has been a failure, but I don't know anything when it comes to general home things. I'm 19 years old and I rely on my dad to do everything in the house because no-body has ever taught me how to do these things. So now, if I want to learn how to cook, I have to take the initiative to join my dad. And as I wrote earlier, I have close to zero initiative, and on top of that, the prospect of having to cook with my dad seems to be a massive pain in the ass that I don't want to go through with. So I'm left in this dilemma where I really want to move out, but at the same time I realize that I simply don't know enough to make that happen.
I'm currently in a complete lockdown in my life. I've no idea what to do or where to go. There's one year left of school and I have absolutely no clue what I'm going to do after that. I hate the school system so I probably won't want to continue with anything that resembles what I've gone through up until now. So I guess I'll move out and get a job? Then what? Right now I have all the free time I could want, yet I'm so bored. I want to draw and improve my drawing abilities, yet I always end up just surfing around the same couple of forums and refreshing the same sites until something new pops up. I'll open up Photoshop and then do nothing. All the video games I could play feel like a massive waste of time and they aren't even entertaining anymore.
I also hate how I'm so reluctant all the time. I have a couple of 'friends' that I talk to every now and again, and they'll sometimes invite me to do whatever. Every single time, I'll always be extremely reluctant at first, so tempted to say no, and I can't figure out whether I should stick to my own feelings or succumb to their pressure.
Most of all, I hate how I have nobody I can really talk to. All of my 'friends' are either part of the things I feel are problems, or they're like my dad where were in a relationship of shallow bullshit that doesn't mean anything to anyone.
Back in the day I used to go into DV Chat and that's where I'd whine and rant and complain and I'd get some attention and feedback for it, but nowadays I seem to be ignored even in there. So I'm left completely to my own inner world where there's a flood of confusion going on. It's a complete disaster in there.
There's very few things that I want. But they exist, but those are ridden with other problematics...
tl;dr: I'm confused and I hate everybody and I suck at everything and I feel lonely
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