Thread: Does your significant other impede on your LD progress?

My only problem with my wife is her alarm, or if she gets up in the night, and when she is getting ready for work. No biggy, but I fallen out of many LDs from stuff like that.

My girlfriend thinks the fact that I lucid dream is weird and that I shouldn't do it. Although she will never stop me because its a truly unexplainable experience. Her hatred of lucid dreaming leads to her interrupting some of my LD attempts which becomes very annoying.

Maybe you should try to make some subliminal videos in which you quietly say some mantras and put HER subconscious to work each day and increase HER chances of lucid dreaming and remembering her dreams. Maybe that will change her opinion? I personally do not have this kind of problem because I wake up naturaly although I get to sleep a little bit harder.

Mine used to LD, she fully backs me up in it, however, her constant turning and snoring is a pain in the ass when I WILD.

My girlfriend has never had a problem with me discussing dreams or lucid dreams with her. She also openly discusses her dreams with me (when she remembers them.. heh)

Originally Posted by apiks

Maybe you should try to make some subliminal videos in which you quietly say some mantras and put HER subconscious to work each day and increase HER chances of lucid dreaming and remembering her dreams. Maybe that will change her opinion? I personally do not have this kind of problem because I wake up naturaly although I get to sleep a little bit harder.

I don't think this would work. If she hates LD and thinks it's nonsense, then no amount of work will get her the LD, simply because she lacks the will.

@OP: That sucks man If she really gets annoying it might be useful to start practicing techniques that aren't that noticable. For example, I do DILD without DJ combined with DEILD. So except for the fact that I post on this forum, not even 24/7 camera surveillance would reveal that I practice LD.
I don't really get why anyone would not want it though, let alone want others to refrain from doing it. She probably misunderstands it for something weird, vague and overly spiritual. So my advice would be to ask why she dislikes it so much, and then talk about it. Make it a conversation though, no argument (even if she acts really annoying, then it might be recommended to stop talking about it). Convince her it can be explained entirely with science, and that there is no 'witchcraft' to it at all

I have a thought. It may be way off base. Is she involved with a paticular religion? Some peoples beliefs tell them that anything "super natural" is from the devil, or related to evil things. You must admit that to some people lucid dreaming will sound very super natural. I often wonder why some members used to get angery and hostile on threads about shared dreaming and such. I guessed that for a small group of them, it was important to truely believe there is nothing super natural about it, so it could still fit in there belief system.
If I am not 10 miles off base here, you could make a point of selectively explaining LDing. Leave out anything that you believe, that could be taken as magical. Start a conversation where you tell her, you read a bunch of stuff saying that it is all just a function of certain neurons and 100% scientifically explainable as just strange dreams, not anything truely bazar. I am not flat out telling you to lie to her. Just decide if that may be her problem, and if it is, make sure she thinks you believe nothing mystical is going on, even if you do.

Originally Posted by sivason

I have a thought. It may be way off base. Is she involved with a paticular religion? Some peoples beliefs tell them that anything "super natural" is from the devil, or related to evil things. You must admit that to some people lucid dreaming will sound very super natural. I often wonder why some members used to get angery and hostile on threads about shared dreaming and such. I guessed that for a small group of them, it was important to truely believe there is nothing super natural about it, so it could still fit in there belief system.
If I am not 10 miles off base here, you could make a point of selectively explaining LDing. Leave out anything that you believe, that could be taken as magical. Start a conversation where you tell her, you read a bunch of stuff saying that it is all just a function of certain neurons and 100% scientifically explainable as just strange dreams, not anything truely bazar. I am not flat out telling you to lie to her. Just decide if that may be her problem, and if it is, make sure she thinks you believe nothing mystical is going on, even if you do.

Nice one, good thing that almost everything in LD is actually scientifically explainable. You aim to activate the brain's logic centre without disrupting REM. The only thing that isn't so easy to explain is shared dreaming, but hey, that's not the same as lucid dreaming. All you need to do is not bring up that little topic. Even if it happens to come up, tell her you don't do that. It's probably not even a lie

Originally Posted by Chewnie91

I can't be the only one on here who's significant other thinks the lucid dreaming stuff is strange. My girlfriend likes to refer to me as a witch sometimes and strongly dislikes the fact that I have lucid dreams (even though she cant even tell when I'm asleep! -_-)

It interrupts me when I set my alarm in the middle of the night to perform a WBTB she violently wakes up and begins yelling at me about waking her with my "nonsense" thus ruining my whole attempt because I fully awaken arguing with her.

Does anyone else have a person they are with like this? That disrupts your progress and ruins perfectly good LD attempts!?

It sounds to me like your girlfriend is very, very worried about you, Chewnie91. It might just be a matter of her getting used to the idea that LD's are harmless, and that will only take time. You might only need to be a bit more subtle about your LD'ing routine -- and only say good things about your experiences, and in time she might come to terms with your sorcery after she can see first hand that it's harmless.

I don't see why people think it is so strange and that people shouldn't do it. I would like to see someone who frowns upon LDing, experience flying or shooting fireballs or teleporting in real life and than be told that they shouldn't do it because it's odd/strange and/or it's stupid. They most likely would be like "fuck that, I'm goin for a fly" but hey, I guess they just really need to experience it for themselves to find out what it is really like.

WILD is difficult when there is someone else in your bed. Hearing her sleepy breathing can mess up my concentration. I often have to go sleep in a guest room, or on the couch if I'm trying to WILD.

I'm lucky to have someone who is pretty supportive. I've tried to get her into lucid dreaming a few times, but it is just not for her. She thinks I'm crazy, but I don't care. Sometimes you just have to be confident, and say to yourself, "Screw what anyone else thinks. I am a god. damn. wizard."

i tryed explainin it all to my ex once before but it was a no brainer for her and she never grasped it, sometimes if i meditated before bed she'd think that i was weird lool

... Aside from waking her up, why doesn't she like lucid dreaming? Why does she think you shouldn't do it?

If, "because it's weird" is the only reason she doesn't like it, I'd say she's p. close minded (why are you with her?).

Originally Posted by Abra

... Aside from waking her up, why doesn't she like lucid dreaming? Why does she think you shouldn't do it?

If, "because it's weird" is the only reason she doesn't like it, I'd say she's p. close minded (why are you with her?).

Lol she just thinks it's weird. And im with her because I care about her. She hasn't experienced the wonder of the lucid dreaming world personally so therefore cannot even fathom its vast and deep level of exceptional excitement.

Girl friend sounds pretty stupid.

My friend is sort of like this, but not as bad. He doesn't call me a witch or anything ^^. He's my best friend, but he gets this face and voice when I tell him something that he doesn't believe. So I told him about these dreams that you can have called Lucid Dreams, and he starts saying all these things about how he doubts they are real and everything . The only place to talk about my Lucid Dreams are on these forums...

Originally Posted by DragonMaster21

My friend is sort of like this, but not as bad. He doesn't call me a witch or anything ^^. He's my best friend, but he gets this face and voice when I tell him something that he doesn't believe. So I told him about these dreams that you can have called Lucid Dreams, and he starts saying all these things about how he doubts they are real and everything . The only place to talk about my Lucid Dreams are on these forums...

And that's what we're here for

Originally Posted by Robot_Butler

WILD is difficult when there is someone else in your bed. Hearing her sleepy breathing can mess up my concentration.

I've been having real difficulty with this. Every time I try to WILD and focus on my breath, I just end up focusing on my girlfriend's breathing instead and it seriously throws me off and makes it impossible for me to WILD. I've thought about using earplugs, but am worried that I won't be able to hear my alarm clock in the morning. I'm going to try experimenting with this next time I don't have to work in the morning...

I end up resorting to earplugs when I don't have to work. I often wait for my wife to go to work before attempting my final WILD of the night, but by then outside noises are getting loud, like cars and such.

My husband doesn't hate it, but he doesn't like to talk about it either. If I bring it up, he changes the subject. He doesn't try to stop me from attaining lucidity on purpose, but I find it extremely hard to dream with him in the bed. Usually when I'm dreaming I'm sleeping lightly enough that his talking in his sleep and snoring wakes me up. Thankfully he likes to sleep on the couch for the last couple hours before he goes to work... probably because he's tired of me waking him up to tell him to quit snoring so I can sleep! lol I haven't had an official lucid dream yet though, I've realize I was dreaming a few times now, but woken myself up with excitement every time the moment I realized what was going on. He may not be too happy when I finally achieve it and want to tell him all about it without letting him politely change the subject, lol.

My wife thinks I am a little crazy with the lucid dreaming. She just doesn’t seem to grasp what an amazing experience it can be. I bought a watch with a vibrating alarm that helps quite a bit. I can set it to wake me any time for a WBTB and she doesn’t even notice it. It’s made by freestyle, and it’s the shark buzz II model. Other manufacturers also make watches with vibrating alarms, you might try looking into one of them.

Originally Posted by apiks

Maybe you should try to make some subliminal videos in which you quietly say some mantras and put HER subconscious to work each day and increase HER chances of lucid dreaming and remembering her dreams. Maybe that will change her opinion? I personally do not have this kind of problem because I wake up naturaly although I get to sleep a little bit harder.

Haha My friends and I made an attempt at doing this to my brother. He was pretty confused when he woke up and he seemed a little tense. For HIS sake, I really hope our DISGUSTINGLY PERVERTED mantras didn't work on him!!!!

Originally Posted by Treboreous

My wife thinks I am a little crazy with the lucid dreaming. She just doesn’t seem to grasp what an amazing experience it can be. I bought a watch with a vibrating alarm that helps quite a bit. I can set it to wake me any time for a WBTB and she doesn’t even notice it. It’s made by freestyle, and it’s the shark buzz II model. Other manufacturers also make watches with vibrating alarms, you might try looking into one of them.

You know I didnt even think about a watch lol. Thats a great idea! I definitely have to pick that up.

If you use ear plugs, you can set a vibrating alarm on your cell phone. Put your phone in a sock, a pocket, under your pillow, or anywhere you are sure to feel it.